What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? virginia
So the other day me and my wife got into an argument because she was basically accusing me of talking to another female because of a goodmorning text. so i kept trying to talk to her to get her to believe that im really not cheating and it led to her and i pushing eachother around and i have a small minor scratch under my neck from her grabbing my neck, well the next day i went to her to try once again to talk to her about the situation and she didnt want to talk and she yelled and said that she was going to have sex with someone else and as soon as she said that i lost it and grabbed her by her neck and pushed her and she was hitting me back and then she slashed 3 of my car tires and threw a brick through my windshield, but i broke her phone along with a few of her other things. she called the cops and they said that she was the primary aggressor and arrested her and they left and didnt tell me anything after all of if was done. even though i dont want any charges bought against her because we both were in the wrong i put my hands on her just as well as she put them on me and i broke her personal belongings just as she broke mines.. we really dont want to go through all of this becAuse we know we were both in the wrong.. can i get some help and advice on this please? her hearing is on friday the 8. this is also the first incident between us and with the law we both have no criminal background both fulltime students and parents to our daughter as well as we work.