What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Wisconsin
I have a question regarding Parental Termination on my abusive teenager brother. My mother is too scared to give up her Parental rights on my abusive brother because she thinks it'll take many years in court, the cost of paying court fees, and cost to paying a lawyer. I want to know, how long does it take in court for her to give up her Parental rights? How much will it cost? Under what reasons is she allowed to give up her rights? The process in doing so?
My mother is a single mother who has been providing for 7 kids for 20+ years, now 5 since two kids don't live with her currently. She's a ESL teacher and has been through so much in life, including being a survivor of a domestic violence relationship with my ex-father (now they're divorced). She is now dealing with domestic abuse with my younger teenager brother who has been abusive for more than 7 years now. She's dealt with paying for hospital bills these last couple of years and is still paying for some because of my abusive brother's mental health problems, his medicine bills (depression, anxiety meds, and Psychotropic drugs), her medicine bills for her health problems (high blood pressure medicine b/c of stroke a few years back, gout medicine, and cholesterol meds). My teenage brother has been abusive since 4th or 5th grade. He has mentally and physically abused my mother, siblings, and my mother's house. We've tried almost everything already and nothing has helped so far over the years. We called the police so many times and explained the situation to them over and over again, but they took him only for an hour and called us to pick him up to take him home. Sometimes they would send him to the mental hospital, which we had to pay more than $5,000 just for his one-day stay there. And the mental hospital didn't even help him, they just gave him a room and that's it. We tried therapy sessions as well, even family therapy, but both still did nothing to solve his abusive problem because he didn't want to change himself. Sometimes he would lie and play the victim game to making it seem like he didn't do any of those abusive stuff he did. Like the incident where he broke the house doors or strangled my sister while she driving home after picking him up from school. We even tried putting him on meds (anxiety, depression, and other meds) because he was suicidal, but that also still didn't help. We even tried school counseling, M.U.T.T. team, and the F.I.S.T. program. None helped too. Some of the programs are even giving up on helping because they don't know what to do if the person doesn't want to change. My mother also doesn't even want to call the M.U.T.T. team anymore b/c they'll just send him to the mental hospital where she has to pay huge fees just for sending him there. She doesn't have enough money in her paycheck to be paying for that. She still has to pay house bills and make a living. *sighs*
My mom is at her ends to this issue that feels like it'll never have an end until we're murdered by him. She can't be paying for his medicine bills the rest of life and living in fear that he'll kill us one day. He's 17 and will be 18 next year. He doesn't see how hard it is for my mom to be providing a house for him, feeding him, and working to give him a better future. Today he threatened and followed my mother around the house demanding she give him a scissor so he could cut himself just because he was "embarrassed" she called him on the school announcement Friday to go home since she couldn't find him. She had an emergency to fix her car that day too because it broke down and so she needed to find him at school before the people who will fix her car closed that night. He held a grudge over something like that. Like how stupid is that? And since she kept saying "no" to him, he threatened he was going to kill someone and held her wrist to block her from leaving the bathroom. He then proceeded to break her walls, then her lamp in her room, and pushed her. I don't understand why there isn't a law against abusive teenagers like this who will mentally and physically abuse their siblings and parents to get what they want. I really don't know what to do. I've searched the internet and their doesn't seem to be much help online on problems like this regarding domestic violence on abusive teenagers towards their family members.