Zigner
Senior Member, Non-Attorney
Excellent suggestion.You might want to contact a domestic violence organization and ask about having a victim's advocate handle communications for you (or with you).
Excellent suggestion.You might want to contact a domestic violence organization and ask about having a victim's advocate handle communications for you (or with you).
I reached out to several originally, but not many wanted to work with me. I never called the police when he acted out physically and he never laid a hand on me (very careful not to do that).You might want to contact a domestic violence organization and ask about having a victim's advocate handle communications for you (or with you).
The reaction from the domestic violence organizations seems very odd to me. I suggest you try again.I reached out to several originally, but not many wanted to work with me. I never called the police when he acted out physically and he never laid a hand on me (very careful not to do that).
He has to pay for the drug test himself, which means he will go for the cheapest method possible (urine). If he uses the detox and waits a certain # of days, would that change the outcome?Those "detox" things don't work that well especially when the testing is done by a method other than fast response test cups.
Without explicit consent from your ex, you should not be accessing his email account. That is a computer crime.I contacted several domestic violence organizations and attorneys in the area. Hopefully one will be able to help me.
Something came up this weekend that has me even more determined to file the contempt. I contacted his lawyer Thursday afternoon stating that it was time for the first drug test. The lawyer responded within an hour that my ex had been notified. This means that he had a 24 hour window to take the test. That didn't happen. Also (I realize this may not be admissible in court), I found an order in my ex's email account for a detox program that allows you to pass a drug test. He has used this before to pass a drug test. He is basically doing everything he can to give me the finger regarding the consent.
I understand that was wrong and it was not done intentionally. (He would use my computer to check his email and he saved the password. My account occasionally logs out and I have to make an effort not to log into his account because the email addresses are very similar.) This is not something I would share outside this forum.Without explicit consent from your ex, you should not be accessing his email account. That is a computer crime.
I would be very careful if I were you in using anything you learned from your illegal access. I suggest you change your own account information so you do not mistakenly log into his account again.I understand that was wrong and it was not done intentionally. (He would use my computer to check his email and he saved the password. My account occasionally logs out and I have to make an effort not to log into his account because the email addresses are very similar.) This is not something I would share outside this forum.
Why would you maintain anything related to his account on your computer?I understand that was wrong and it was not done intentionally. (He would use my computer to check his email and he saved the password. My account occasionally logs out and I have to make an effort not to log into his account because the email addresses are very similar.) This is not something I would share outside this forum.
I rarely use that computer because it is old. Primarily use phone and iPad. It truly was a mistake on my part, and I don't intend to view his email again. Have already deleted the login info from the computer.Why would you maintain anything related to his account on your computer?
Frankly, your protestation and excuses do not ring true (on this matter).