Justice System does NOT protect the children!!!

[peanuttt118]

What is the name of your state? Maryland

My question is, at what point does SOMEBODY in the Justice System DO something??? I am hanging on a financial thread, I cannot afford to pay my private attorney anymore (my mother has paid them $100,000 already since June 2003 because EX and his lawyer and EX’s parents have fought so hard against me and the children.)

Here is the history of my divorce and subsequent UN justice that has been meted out in our lovely Justice System - maybe somebody has a suggestion for me??


• December 2004 - divorce judgement; Judge awarded me child support, and monetary award. (consent order signed voluntarily between EX and me, giving me full legal and physical custody of our 3 minor children)

• EX appealed this judgement in May of 2005

• No stay was issued for this order

• The appeal was heard on October 15, 2005 in Court of Special Appeals-

• EX is used the pending appeal to avoid paying child support. There was a Contempt Hearing Scheduled for non-payment of child support on February 3, 2006 that hearing was continued until March 31, 2006 because of the pending appeal. That March hearing also cancelled because EX and his attorney promised he would start paying – he never started paying

• EX made a $200 payment on February 3, 2006 when he appeared for the Contempt Hearing Review., so Child Support Enforcement continued hearing.

• March 10, 2006, there was a hearing set by States Atty Office because EX was arrested in September 2005 for driving on his suspended license

• My EX’s attorney misrepresented the child support enforcement office and convinced the Assistant States Attorney, to enter the disposition of Nolle Prosequi, and so EX received no consequence for driving on a suspended license. I notified States Attorney’s office that EX’s attorney lied to them.

• To date, (12/06/06) , EX is approximately $25,000 in arrears with the child support payments.

• The Child Support Enforcement Agency has suspended EX’s license 3 times and EX and his attorney, requested the Child Support Enforcement Office to release his driver’s license and they (CSE) gave it back to him all 3 times without demanding any Child Support payment.

• Finally, a 4th time EX’s license suspended June 2006 and EX arrested while driving on Suspended license – License is still suspended, and he has not appeared for 2 hearing dates. First one, a bench warrant was issued, EX showed up later in the day to court, Commissioner recalled the warrant and re-set hearing date for 12/04/06 – EX did not appear again for 12/04/06 hearing, bench warrant issued again.


• I have also contacted various ACF employees, and the Governor of Maryland, which only served to infuriate the lawyer at Child Support Enforcement so he has cancelled 3 Contempt Hearings.

• July 2006 – Court of Special appeals finding FINALLY – case remanded back to Civil Court, monetary award vacated until further remand and child support order upheld pendente lite. BUT, no entry in the court docket to date (12/6/06) as to ever receiving the Court of Special Appeals opinion and direction for a remand.

• Child Support Enforcement filed for Motion to Release Funds for Arrears to be paid from funds in Court Escrow that are being held pending further court action because EX contends that funds belong to his parents and that is a lie. The Motion to Release Funds was signed by a judge and then vacated when my ex husband’s lawyer, went in to the Judge to say that there was a hearing on October 24 for this motion (at the time, she knew full well that she had already filed for a continuance, and there would NOT be a hearing that day) – so the judge vacated the order, and a new motion will be heard in January on the Motion to Release funds, unless EX’s attorney keeps filing for continuances to keep dragging the case out.

• My attorney’s filed to consolidate both the Civil Case (the Escrow) and the Appeals case (the monetary award and child support remand) that has been remanded back to Judge Ryan in the original Circuit Court that heard the Divorce Hearing back in December of 2004. No decision on this motion yet, but Child Support Enforcement says that their offices were told by the court that the motion to consolidate was going to be denied.

Is there ANYTHING that can be done???What is the name of your state?

 

[Silverplum]

What is the name of your state? Maryland

My question is, at what point does SOMEBODY in the Justice System DO something??? I am hanging on a financial thread, I cannot afford to pay my private attorney anymore (my mother has paid them $100,000 already since June 2003 because EX and his lawyer and EX’s parents have fought so hard against me and the children.)

Here is the history of my divorce and subsequent UN justice that has been meted out in our lovely Justice System - maybe somebody has a suggestion for me??

My suggestion is to quit blaming our justice system, grow up, and grasp the fact that it is not the justice system but your X (that would be the person you selected as the father of your children) that has failed.

 

[peanuttt118]

Thanks for the advice

Seriously? Grow Up? My EX doesn't run the Child Support Enforcement office - they are the ones that haven't enforced the laws. The laws are put in place supposedly to protect the children, but when the justice system doesn't enforce them when people like my EX try to "play" the system, then the justice system has failed. Thanks for your sage advice, it was helpful.

 

[seniorjudge]

Seriously? Grow Up? My EX doesn't run the Child Support Enforcement office - they are the ones that haven't enforced the laws. The laws are put in place supposedly to protect the children, but when the justice system doesn't enforce them when people like my EX try to "play" the system, then the justice system has failed. Thanks for your sage advice, it was helpful.

Child support bureaucracies are notoriously bad because they are, well...bureaucracies.

 

[Silverplum]

Seriously? Grow Up? My EX doesn't run the Child Support Enforcement office - they are the ones that haven't enforced the laws. The laws are put in place supposedly to protect the children, but when the justice system doesn't enforce them when people like my EX try to "play" the system, then the justice system has failed. Thanks for your sage advice, it was helpful.

You're welcome.

And yes, it's the best, most truthful advice you're going to get. To blame "our lovely UN justice system" is, at best, childish. At worst, it's just stupid. It's YOUR X that is not paying. Do you expect the entire country to revolve around you and your individual personal problem?

The enforcement folks are few and overworked. That's a matter of taxes. Want to pay more taxes? Want everyone to pay more taxes? So that they can find ONE GUY who will continue to refuse to support his kids? That's unrealistic. So, yeah...grow up.

 

[peanuttt118]

losing battle

so I guess that means being in the muck an mire of the Child support bureaucracy is a losing battle? That's great - the deadbeat parents rule the justice system and the children suffer. What a great country we live in!

 

[Zigner]

So what do you do for a living? If you can't afford to support the kids, perhaps your ex should have custody?

PS:
This is posted by a man who is owed over $93,000 in back child support from the deadbeat ex.

 

[Silverplum]

so I guess that means being in the muck an mire of the Child support bureaucracy is a losing battle? That's great - the deadbeat parents rule the justice system and the children suffer. What a great country we live in!

Depends upon your point of view.
In Afghanistan, a law against rape was just passed a week or so ago. This now releases the rape victim from being stoned or otherwise murdered for her crime of, ya know, being raped.

Another thing that depends upon your POV: I blame your X for not paying. Somehow, you blame the United States of America for not forcing your X to pay. Hmmm.

 

[peanuttt118]

oxymoron

If the "Enforcement Folks" are overworked, it's obviously because of all the dead beat parents that refuse to pay child support - not just ONE GUY that isn't paying.

So if the laws were actually enforced, instead of lazy government workers who refuse to do their jobs, and are being paid with our tax money, then children wouldn't suffer. I doubt if I'm the only CP who has been dragged through the ringer by, yes, "our lovely UN justice system".

Silverplum - exactly what experience have you had dealing with any of this? Are you an attorney? Your responses are quite childish, and no I do not expect the entire country to revolve around my issues - this is a public forum and was posting to pose the question to others and see if there are resolutions or successes through the court system, as others do here on this site.

 

[peanuttt118]

what I do for a living?

I was a stay at home mom for years while I was married to the abusive alcoholic who beat me and my children - I have a decent job, but it barely pays all of the bills for 3 growing teenage boys. Believe me, I budget my money well, go to food kitchens for handouts, and have a renter that pays part of the rent. My ex is capable of making $80 - $90 thousand a year - he has voluntarily impoverished himself and works illegally under the table to avoid paying child support.

Maybe that would be a solution - give the abusive alcoholic who lives over a bar custody of the 3 children**************.....hmmmmmmmm novel suggestion.

 

[Silverplum]

If the "Enforcement Folks" are overworked, it's obviously because of all the dead beat parents that refuse to pay child support - not just ONE GUY that isn't paying.

So if the laws were actually enforced, instead of lazy government workers who refuse to do their jobs, and are being paid with our tax money, then children wouldn't suffer. I doubt if I'm the only CP who has been dragged through the ringer by, yes, "our lovely UN justice system".

Silverplum - exactly what experience have you had dealing with any of this? Are you an attorney? Your responses are quite childish, and no I do not expect the entire country to revolve around my issues - this is a public forum and was posting to pose the question to others and see if there are resolutions or successes through the court system, as others do here on this site.

Nope, I'm not an attorney. And you have gotten all of the advice from me you're going to get. Good luck getting advice you want to hear.

I will give you two more of my fine observations, for free:
1. If your mother hadn't wasted $100K on this, you'd all be sitting pretty. Ever heard of throwing good money after bad? At some point, someone in your family should've grasped that you are chasing a deadbeat and he will never change.

2. I notice you refuse to admit you chose a deadbeat for a father for your kids. Feel free to take it out on an internet forum, but it doesn't change the facts.

 

[peanuttt118]

overseas

I've lived overseas in the middle east most of my life. I am fully aware of how other cultures suffer and are forced to live. I've experienced their suffering first hand. However, we do NOT live in a third-world country and there are laws in place that are supposed to be upheld, and if you have a bit of money or a friend, you'll probably walk away clean - go figure.

 

[peanuttt118]

wasted 100K??

the 100K was not spent chasing after the deadbeat - it was for all of the divorce proceedings and games that the court system allows within it's sacred walls to occur when attorney's are involved. The justice game is not about truth and justice - it is about who can pay an attorney more to find the loopholes and cracks in order to thrwart justice.

And no, I do not refuse to admit that I married a deadbeat in the first place - I don't think anybody has walked down the aisle thinking "I need to admit I'm marrying a deadbeat and I'm going to have problems when we get divorced."

You haven't given any advice - just spewed ignorant, puerile nonsense that you obviously know nothing about.

 

[Silverplum]

You haven't given any advice - just spewed ignorant, puerile nonsense that you obviously know nothing about.

That's SO funny -- I think the exact same thing about you!

 

[peanuttt118]

minors?

That's SO funny -- I think the exact same thing about you!

Are minors allowed to post in this forum?