DSS Investigator's Report

[escape2paradise]

I am sorry you have to deal with this. Thanks for posting, it makes others, such as myself, feel like we are not alone. My X has only called CPS once, but then we are only into this 9 months. He did the same thing, make accusations about things that are a normal part of childhood etc...It is just pathetic what some people will do with little or no conscious. Isn't your X supposed to be a devout Christian? It's real Christian of him to lie and put his own children through the ringer.

 

[CJane]

It's real Christian of him to lie and put his own children through the ringer.

Heh. This is the same man who told Unruly that it was perfectly ok to lie to the GAL as long as she apologized to Jesus afterwards.

Of course, Unruly, ever the honest child, promptly told the GAL.

 

[ezmarelda]

My lil' Miss Baystategirl wrote on herself with a black marker...I was home...Do you think I will have DSS at my door????

CJane...You deserve a medal for not committing murder.

Agreed! CJane I do not know how you do it!


As for bad parenting...when Fancy was 3 we were both suposed to be taking a nap...when I woke up she was in the middle of the kitchen floor with the tub of butter. She had covered herself as well as most of the lower half of the fridge...I think I would have perfered the black marker. Butter dose not wash off a child so easily

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

From the YEARS of battling X's and their CPS calls - and being unfounded ... I feel for you CJane ...

I had 4 the last year I lived in Michigan - all unfounded. Figured out that the GF or GF's mom did 3 of them. The last one landed my X and me in with all the big wigs from CPS and FOC in the same room. They basically told my X that HE was going to get charged with child abuse if he kept it up. He promptly dropped his appeal to letting me leave Michigan - I left Dodge in mighty big hurry after that. Funny thing - haven't had a single incident with CPS since I've been in Florida Did have another problem up in Michigan, but we won't discuss that today.

 

[CJane]

Agreed! CJane I do not know how you do it!


As for bad parenting...when Fancy was 3 we were both suposed to be taking a nap...when I woke up she was in the middle of the kitchen floor with the tub of butter. She had covered herself as well as most of the lower half of the fridge...I think I would have perfered the black marker. Butter dose not wash off a child so easily

Heh. I'm one of those parents who figures that most stuff washes off, the stuff that doesn't probably isn't toxic, and if it's toxic, that's what poison control is for...

So I'm perfectly ok with the marker thing (which, btw I was told was all my fault because I have tattoos and she wanted to be like me), I used to let them paint their entire bodies w/tempera paint and leave painted footprints through the kitchen because I knew it would mop up... we made toad art... dipped toads in water color and let them hop all over the driveway... they get to get temp tats and if they want pierced I'm ok with it. And they still draw on themselves or each other - D'man draws on Twain just to watch him try and peel off the drawing

I don't make 'em wear shoes anywhere but school and the store, and when we lived in the country and they were smaller, I didn't even make 'em wear clothes to play in the pool. I force 'em to sleep outside in the summer...

I let them play in the chicken pen/coop, they hung out in the barn from the time they were a week old... they've probably ingested more dirt and rolled around in more horse poo than any other kids.

I really am a terrible, horrible, no good very bad Mom. Really.

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

Don't forget that you make 'em share quarters in places with NO electricity or running water.

 

[CJane]

Don't forget that you make 'em share quarters in places with NO electricity or running water.

Well, yes, that too.

They also all 3 share a room. And up til Xmas last year, the girls shared a bed.

 

[escape2paradise]

Heh. This is the same man who told Unruly that it was perfectly ok to lie to the GAL as long as she apologized to Jesus afterwards.

Of course, Unruly, ever the honest child, promptly told the GAL.

Too bad for him that isn't the way it works. What a colossal JERK!

 

[Suzz]

Butter dose not wash off a child so easily

According to my parents, neither does Vaseline, from child, her hair, or her best Sunday dress 20 minutes before services start. LOL

 

[peppier]

IMO You really ARE a good mom.

So I'm perfectly ok with the marker thing (which, btw I was told was all my fault because I have tattoos and she wanted to be like me), I used to let them paint their entire bodies w/tempera paint and leave painted footprints through the kitchen because I knew it would mop up... we made toad art... dipped toads in water color and let them hop all over the driveway... they get to get temp tats and if they want pierced I'm ok with it. And they still draw on themselves or each other - D'man draws on Twain just to watch him try and peel off the drawing

My kids and I did crazy fun things like that and I have often laughed til I cried and they treat their children the same way.

A couple years ago 2 of my grandkids were with me in a watermelon field and I busted one and smeared them and they did the same to me. We had a blast! This year we had watermelons again and they took their friends there and ambushed them, so be warned, your kids will probably grow up with a sense of humor and adventure.

I'm going to have to try the toad thing, that is ingenious.

 

[VeronicaLodge]

Alleging you are a porn addict is defamation per se.

unless its true, right?

 

[ezmarelda]

Heh. I'm one of those parents who figures that most stuff washes off, the stuff that doesn't probably isn't toxic, and if it's toxic, that's what poison control is for...

So I'm perfectly ok with the marker thing (which, btw I was told was all my fault because I have tattoos and she wanted to be like me), I used to let them paint their entire bodies w/tempera paint and leave painted footprints through the kitchen because I knew it would mop up... we made toad art... dipped toads in water color and let them hop all over the driveway... they get to get temp tats and if they want pierced I'm ok with it. And they still draw on themselves or each other - D'man draws on Twain just to watch him try and peel off the drawing

I don't make 'em wear shoes anywhere but school and the store, and when we lived in the country and they were smaller, I didn't even make 'em wear clothes to play in the pool. I force 'em to sleep outside in the summer...

I let them play in the chicken pen/coop, they hung out in the barn from the time they were a week old... they've probably ingested more dirt and rolled around in more horse poo than any other kids.

I really am a terrible, horrible, no good very bad Mom. Really.

Kindred spirits we must be!...My X threw a fit when I took Fancy to the store in her diaper at 6mo


Gotta try the toad thing...

 

[CJane]

Kindred spirits we must be!...My X threw a fit when I took Fancy to the store in her diaper at 6mo


Gotta try the toad thing...

The toad thing really works best w/the medium sized midsummer toads... not the fragile lil baby toads and not the big monster toads. The lil ones... well, they smush too easily for kid hands, and the big ones don't jump UP very far and so leave trails instead of prints.

Also, if you're going to spend an evening collecting toads for paiting... don't put a big monster toad in the cooler w/the baby toads. You're likely to come back to a big monster toad w/baby toad legs hanging from his mouth.

 

[ezmarelda]

Also, if you're going to spend an evening collecting toads for paiting... don't put a big monster toad in the cooler w/the baby toads. You're likely to come back to a big monster toad w/baby toad legs hanging from his mouth.

LMAO...thanks for the tip

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

Also, if you're going to spend an evening collecting toads for paiting... don't put a big monster toad in the cooler w/the baby toads. You're likely to come back to a big monster toad w/baby toad legs hanging from his mouth.

and you know how?