Hoosiermomof4
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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Indiana
Little background, son was sole physical custody of myself from age 4 until age 11 when we lived in NY, at which time he was really depressed and out of control, so we decided after much grief that he should trial living with his father here in Indiana. His father has no children @ home and thought the change of atmosphere may help.
So, we moved from NY here to Indiana 2 months later, after our other children finished the year in school (of which 1 is his full brother, and two 1/2 sisters) We now live in IN, he still lives primary w/ his father, but the court papers do not state that he has physical custody, I didn't want it to say that. It states we will "revisit" it each year to determine if it's still in son's best interest.
In the meanwhile, his brother and 2 sisters are still with me full time.
This year some things have happened that have questioned my faith in my ex husband and his fathering skills. First was that he began spanking him, first with his hand and then with a belt. I found a small bruise on his leg, when I confronted his father about this he swore it would not happen again. It did, and this time it was much much worse. I called CPS, he was bruised about 8 inches on his thigh. 8 x 8 sized at least. CPS investigated, and all that really happened was father was slapped on wrist and told not to do it again, etc...
I need to mention, dad is a cop.
Now, my issue is after the whole CPS thing was that father agreed to talk to me and agree about punishments, but he's not doing this. My son was going to come with all of us tomorrow night, trick or treating, and his father has taken this from us all as punishment. Reason being, he lied about having homework, which I think is a little embellished, but I wasn't there. I feel like he's so harsh on my son.
What I really would like is my son back with me, he is terrified of his father, terrified of being spanked. He hates it there, and has told many people this. He cries and begs to come home.
What are my chances?
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Indiana
Little background, son was sole physical custody of myself from age 4 until age 11 when we lived in NY, at which time he was really depressed and out of control, so we decided after much grief that he should trial living with his father here in Indiana. His father has no children @ home and thought the change of atmosphere may help.
So, we moved from NY here to Indiana 2 months later, after our other children finished the year in school (of which 1 is his full brother, and two 1/2 sisters) We now live in IN, he still lives primary w/ his father, but the court papers do not state that he has physical custody, I didn't want it to say that. It states we will "revisit" it each year to determine if it's still in son's best interest.
In the meanwhile, his brother and 2 sisters are still with me full time.
This year some things have happened that have questioned my faith in my ex husband and his fathering skills. First was that he began spanking him, first with his hand and then with a belt. I found a small bruise on his leg, when I confronted his father about this he swore it would not happen again. It did, and this time it was much much worse. I called CPS, he was bruised about 8 inches on his thigh. 8 x 8 sized at least. CPS investigated, and all that really happened was father was slapped on wrist and told not to do it again, etc...
I need to mention, dad is a cop.
Now, my issue is after the whole CPS thing was that father agreed to talk to me and agree about punishments, but he's not doing this. My son was going to come with all of us tomorrow night, trick or treating, and his father has taken this from us all as punishment. Reason being, he lied about having homework, which I think is a little embellished, but I wasn't there. I feel like he's so harsh on my son.
What I really would like is my son back with me, he is terrified of his father, terrified of being spanked. He hates it there, and has told many people this. He cries and begs to come home.
What are my chances?