Mother Abandoned Issue
Actually, this is about getting the Mother off our court order as having Joint Custody. We did take it back to court and it was modified for her visitation to be monitored at set times. She had scared our Grandson so bad on his over night visits, (he was young and not talking well enough for anyone to understand, but he would cry and hang on to us, saying "not go pwese".) We didn't understand why, because at first he was alright with it. We found out month's later, after she went back to jail again, (from one of her old boyfriends) how she was treating the baby. My Grandson told us, his Mommy was mean, after he starting talking, and He has never forgot it. We Had to let him go with her, Court Ordered. We've always told him the truth. He knows who his Mother is and knows and loves his Daddy. My Son HAD custody, because the Mother went to prison for drugs for 18 months, but his Attorney didn't follow through on the paperwork and when She got out of jail (this is a very long complicated story, so I'm condensing) she was going back to court to get custody from my Son. We kept the baby most of the time (For the Best Interest Of The Child) because my Son was young, unmarried, starting a new Business (stressed and worked all time) and He came to our house to visit and get his son when he wanted to. She said He abandoned him because he didn't live with him. We Intervened (attorney's advice). This was only a way She used to try to control my Son. Her Man Friend, paid for all her expenses. Yes, My Son should have custody of his child and be a Parent. From the day he was born. BUT, He gave up his Constitutional Right to make decissions for him, 7 years ago. He wasn't visiting his Son and has never showed any responsibility (AND, I'm His Mother...I've tried making him understand the effects his actions could have, on his child.) He didn't show up for court and the court papers basically state, the father didn't show, so he is out. We changed our lives to make sure he knew love, & security. He goes and visits his Dad, but He wants to Come Home. The home he has always known. So why should a court disrupt his life and cause him stress because of STANDARDS. The courts, law makers, Judges, don't know what kind of effect their decissions can have on a little child. I Thank God We were there for this baby when no one else was. The courts do not get enough of the true facts, I realize, but they need to make more effort without causeing more extra expense on the people trying to provide for the child. A home study was ordered and $400.00 paid for by us. She went to jail before hers was done the first time (from my Son's custody) but my Son paid $400.00 and had his done along with the case worker coming to our house and visiting also. We told her to come anytime. That's how it shoud be. She told the Mother the day, time, and what to expect when she visited. Naturally, she was ready, with a clean house, etc. She presented a 15 page report to the court basically saying the baby was comfortable, adjusted and interacted with us. She said He didn't interact with his Mother at all, but did with her older Son, that she could tell by observation, that he was to attend to him during the visit. We've paid a lot of attorney's fees, court cost, lose of wages going to court, travel expenses, home studies etc. This is money that could be applied to the care of our Grandson. What can we do to finalize court orders and get her removed, in case something happened to both of us. My Son is not my issue at this time. We have not heard from her for 4 yrs.
