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First of all I know how most people here feel about overstepping steparents so I hope this doesn't offend anyone since I'm the stepdad but this is something I want to suggest to my wife and I want to make sure I know what I'm talking about first.
My stepsons dad pays child support and has visitation. He doesn't make payments directly to my wife he pays the child support people and then they pay her. The problem is the dad is having really bad financial problems mostly because of things that he had no control over. He found three jobs two are local but don't pay enough. One pays enough but he'd have to move pretty far away. That would make a big difference on the amount of time he has with his son. My stepson and his dad are very close and this would break my stepsons heart.
My wife was talking about trying to temporarily stop or at least reduce his CS because we're doing well and not having the support payments would not be a hardship. That amount would make it possible for him to take one of the less paying jobs and he would only need about a year to get his financial problems taken care of.
My question is instead of going back to court to ask for a modification and then back to court again after a year to ask for another one couldn't she just give him back the money he pays every month? Would this be some kind of fraud? I want to suggest this to her but I don't want to advise her to do something not legal. Would the court even let her do this? They might say all that matters is the interst of the child and its in his interest to get this money every month. My wife believes helping his father not have to move 500 miles away from him is better for him than being able to afford new Nikes every month or whatever and she's right.
I'm sorry if it isn't my place to ask and I will have my wife make her own account if she needs too.
First of all I know how most people here feel about overstepping steparents so I hope this doesn't offend anyone since I'm the stepdad but this is something I want to suggest to my wife and I want to make sure I know what I'm talking about first.
My stepsons dad pays child support and has visitation. He doesn't make payments directly to my wife he pays the child support people and then they pay her. The problem is the dad is having really bad financial problems mostly because of things that he had no control over. He found three jobs two are local but don't pay enough. One pays enough but he'd have to move pretty far away. That would make a big difference on the amount of time he has with his son. My stepson and his dad are very close and this would break my stepsons heart.
My wife was talking about trying to temporarily stop or at least reduce his CS because we're doing well and not having the support payments would not be a hardship. That amount would make it possible for him to take one of the less paying jobs and he would only need about a year to get his financial problems taken care of.
My question is instead of going back to court to ask for a modification and then back to court again after a year to ask for another one couldn't she just give him back the money he pays every month? Would this be some kind of fraud? I want to suggest this to her but I don't want to advise her to do something not legal. Would the court even let her do this? They might say all that matters is the interst of the child and its in his interest to get this money every month. My wife believes helping his father not have to move 500 miles away from him is better for him than being able to afford new Nikes every month or whatever and she's right.
I'm sorry if it isn't my place to ask and I will have my wife make her own account if she needs too.
