Dropping Off for Visitation

[angelface30s]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? FL

I apologize right now if this post has been address elsewhere, but I couldn't find it.

My husband is to have visitation with his daughter every Wednesday and every other weekend. It states in the papers that they are to share transportation by "dropping off" child at the other parents home. So when dad has visitation, mom drops off child at dads house and then dad drops off child at moms home or at the school within 1 mile of her moms house the next day (we do this because our other children go to same school). Mom is refusing to do ANY of the transportation now and says if he wants to see his daughter he needs to come get her and take her home.

We hesistate to take her to court as she works for a family lawyer and threatens that if he takes her to court, she'll work everything in her favor and it will just cost him money he doesn't have.

Any advice at all. Can she refuse to bring her to dads? And she says picking her up from school on the days we may drop her off at school "for her" is her part of transportation. It sounds confusing...sorry.

Thanks!

 

[ErinGoBragh]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? FL

I apologize right now if this post has been address elsewhere, but I couldn't find it.

My husband is to have visitation with his daughter every Wednesday and every other weekend. It states in the papers that they are to share transportation by "dropping off" child at the other parents home. So when dad has visitation, mom drops off child at dads house and then dad drops off child at moms home or at the school within 1 mile of her moms house the next day (we do this because our other children go to same school). Mom is refusing to do ANY of the transportation now and says if he wants to see his daughter he needs to come get her and take her home.

We hesistate to take her to court as she works for a family lawyer and threatens that if he takes her to court, she'll work everything in her favor and it will just cost him money he doesn't have.

Any advice at all. Can she refuse to bring her to dads? And she says picking her up from school on the days we may drop her off at school "for her" is her part of transportation. It sounds confusing...sorry.

Thanks!

Dad should forget about the exes threats and file for contempt.

 

[Ohiogal]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? FL

I apologize right now if this post has been address elsewhere, but I couldn't find it.

My husband is to have visitation with his daughter every Wednesday and every other weekend. It states in the papers that they are to share transportation by "dropping off" child at the other parents home. So when dad has visitation, mom drops off child at dads house and then dad drops off child at moms home or at the school within 1 mile of her moms house the next day (we do this because our other children go to same school).

The court order does NOT allow dad to drop off the child at school. The court order ORDERS that the child be dropped off at the other parent's home. Does mom agree with the child being dropped at school?

Mom is refusing to do ANY of the transportation now and says if he wants to see his daughter he needs to come get her and take her home.

Why won't dad do that?

We hesistate to take her to court as she works for a family lawyer and threatens that if he takes her to court, she'll work everything in her favor and it will just cost him money he doesn't have.

YOU do not belong in this at all. Dad should quote the court order to mom (though he is in violation of it himself) and try to enforce it.

Any advice at all. Can she refuse to bring her to dads?

She can refuse. It may be in violation of the court order.

And she says picking her up from school on the days we may drop her off at school "for her" is her part of transportation.

Why does mom pick the child up at school? Why isn't dad following the court order? How old is the child?

It is not confusing but if dad is not following the court order he is going to have issues.

 

[angelface30s]

She had requested we drop her off at school so she wouldn't need to take her to school in the morning. He told her he would drop her off at home and she said, fine but I won't be home to take her to school.

Dad has been picking her up when she refuses to bring her over (alot of the time she says she's been at the bar and can't bring her over cause she's been drinking, so he goes and gets her), but she took him to court for not paying child support when he was laid off, and we have sence caught up, however, she told him he needed to follow what the papers state exactly or she would take him back to court, so now he says that she needs to do her part and drop off his daughter at the house like the papers say. He calls her before she has an opportunity to go out drinking to remind her she needs to drop his daughter off at the house before she goes out and she either won't answer her phone or just doesn't bring her over and goes out.

He has quoted her the court order and she says: my picking her up after school from school, is my share of transportation.

Child is 11 and walks home every day even though mom says her days of picking her up from school are her means of transportation. Occassionally she will pick her up from school on her way out shopping or whatever. Dad calls child everyday to make sure she gets home from school and does her homework first. Which is another problem, there is no adult supervision at the house and child hangs out in the neighborhood all afternoon with boys might I add until mom gets home and days mom goes out drinking assuming we will pick up child on Wednesday, she never comes home and child is roaming around neighborhood all evening without an adult. There is no law that says child can not be home alone at that age, but we don't approve of it.

The only part of court order he is not following, is dropping her off at school, but that is because mom says she won't be home in the morning to take her to school. He has no problem doing that as school and her house are just a few min. from each other.

He has asked her to agree on something that works for the both of them and have the papers changed, but then when they talk, it is her way or no way, ie, change to Thursday so I can go out with friends, and you transport her every time cause I've been drinking.... see where this is going???

We have nothing against her drinking, that is her business, but she is using it as an excuse not to bring child over.

 

[Isis1]

i got a rather quick fix suggestion. tell dad to file a modification to change the transportation. instead of them dropping off, they do pick up at the BEGINNING of their parenting time. for some odd reason, no parent decides to NOT pick up their child on thier time. or at least most of the sane ones don't.

 

[angelface30s]

That would work great, but then that would require mom to drive opposite of school and her work to pick up child and she figures since we are dropping our other children off at school, it would be silly for her to drive over to our house when we could just take her daughter to school as well. But yes, that would be a great solution otherwise.

 

[doc2b]

That would work great, but then that would require mom to drive opposite of school and her work to pick up child and she figures since we are dropping our other children off at school, it would be silly for her to drive over to our house when we could just take her daughter to school as well. But yes, that would be a great solution otherwise.

I'm going to go out on a limb, here.

If dad has Wednesday (I'm assuming overnight from what you've written so far) visitation, and EOW...can he pick up all the kids from school Wednesday, drop them off Thursday morning at school and then get them on his EOW after school and take them to school on Monday morning? Your kids go to the same school, so no extra driving and maybe a little extra time with his daughter...would mom agree to that?

 

[angelface30s]

While that would work great, dad works and our kids are driven home by another parent to there house until we are home from work. There is not enough room in her car for another child.

And why shouldn't mom have any part of this transportation, why should dad have to do it all? Just wondering?

 

[Zigner]

And why shouldn't mom have any part of this transportation, why should dad have to do it all? Just wondering?

Maybe because he wants to see his kids and doesn't want to rock the boat with court?

 

[doc2b]

While that would work great, dad works and our kids are driven home by another parent to there house until we are home from work. There is not enough room in her car for another child.

And why shouldn't mom have any part of this transportation, why should dad have to do it all? Just wondering?

I don't think she should be off the hook, just making a suggestion to try and avoid issues.

 

[Isis1]

That would work great, but then that would require mom to drive opposite of school and her work to pick up child and she figures since we are dropping our other children off at school, it would be silly for her to drive over to our house when we could just take her daughter to school as well. But yes, that would be a great solution otherwise.

hmm..maybe i'm lost here. mom has a problem with it? or does dad have a problem with it. if mom has the problem with it, i say tough cookies. she has kids. she has responsibilities too. sometimes, life isn't all roses for everyone at all times.

btw. i'm biased. i was an NCP that did 65 miles one way TWICE on a daily basis. maybe it's just me, but i REALLY wanted to be with my kids.

 

[stealth2]

While that would work great, dad works and our kids are driven home by another parent to there house until we are home from work. There is not enough room in her car for another child.

And why shouldn't mom have any part of this transportation, why should dad have to do it all? Just wondering?

Do you work?

 

[ErinGoBragh]

Do you work?

She said "until we are home from work".. that would imply both. Also, why would it matter? Isn't it legal stranger day?

 

[doc2b]

She said "until we are home from work".. that would imply both. Also, why would it matter? Isn't it legal stranger day?

I didn't get a card or anything...how rude.

 

[Antigone*]

We are just speaking about a couple of miles here, right.

So if this bugs dad so much why isn't he ranting and raving about it

I have a suspicion that dad could care less and step mom is in a hissy fit about it

The more stepmom has a hissy fit about things, the more mom knows she's got all the power. I'm just sayin...