I know I'll be in contempt.

[VyRoses]

Have you discussed with Dad about putting the child in counseling?

..Umm but its the Dad that needs counsling... Really, after 6 yrs of happy life suddenly my child needs to see a perfessional over his fathers emotional abuse, do you know how devastating that is to a mother.

'So sorry kid but you have to continue to see dad who treats you like ****, or as my son has siad, "has a Bad Heart", But here, you go see a counsiler about this now and ...try not to turn out like him, or want to kill yourself when your older.

He's young enough now that he can get over this, but one day he wont be.

 

[stealth2]

Tell ya what, sweetheart. Since you don't really want to hear what could happen, why don't you just go ahead and do as you plan. We'll watch for you in the papers. And don't come crying to us when you lose your son.

 

[VyRoses]

He will go to court. The court will issue an order for you to return the child immediately. When you fail to do so because you and the child cannot be located, the court will eventually issue a warrant for parental kidnapping. Once the warrant is issued for parental kidnapping, law enforcement will take over your case. Law enforcement will track you down. Maybe not tomorrow, maybe not in 5 years, but they will track you down. It will not cost Dad a lot of money. All Dad has to do is put a motion before the court and the rest moves from there. Sure, if Dad had money, it may go quicker but it would happen.

The judge who is on our case had this situation come through her court: Mom had custody of the child the first 5 years. Dad had every other week-end. Dad goes to court, gets 50/50 since the child was school age. Mom decides she IS NOT giving Dad 50/50 and sends the child to Florida with Grama. Took the courts and law enforcement 9 weeks to track her down by which time she had warrants out for her arrest. She is arrested (charges later dismissed) but the judge gave Dad SOLE LEGAL AND PHYSICAL custody of the child. Mom was told she could have visitation IF she could afford to pay for a professional therapeutic agency to supervise. Mom could not, and now has not seen the child in 4 years. The case was appealed, and upheld.

I DO NOT RECOMMEND what you are seeking.

Why are you so opposed to Dad spending time with HIS son?

Oh wow so the police would get involved that quickly would they? THis would not be the most upstanding citizen they'd be spending so much of their efforts to help out, please.

 

[stealth2]

Oh wow so the police would get involved that quickly would they? THis would not be the most upstanding citizen they'd be spending so much of their efforts to help out, please.

Do it and see what happens.

 

[VyRoses]

Tell ya what, sweetheart. Since you don't really want to hear what could happen, why don't you just go ahead and do as you plan. We'll watch for you in the papers. And don't come crying to us when you lose your son.

Talk about over dramtize.

 

[Proserpina]

Oh wow so the police would get involved that quickly would they? THis would not be the most upstanding citizen they'd be spending so much of their efforts to help out, please.

LOL.

They don't care about his history and background. What they DO care about is that his child will have been removed - illegally.

And really, his background? Well, apparently family court didn't care too much either since he still has quite a few rights.

Seriously - there are literally hundreds of attorneys who would take this pro bono in a heartbeat. And that's not touching on the various other agencies.

But apparently you don't believe what you're being told so...

 

[stealth2]

Talk about over dramtize.

You don't pay attention to the news much, do you? But really - go ahead. Abscond with the kid. See what happens.

 

[CJane]

LOL.

They don't care about his history and background.

Well, let's be fair. Mom thinks that Dad's history and background should keep the cops / courts from helping him find his child. But Dad's history and background (15 years of drug abuse) didn't matter 6 years ago when she was living with him and doing the nasty.

His history was perfectly ok THEN. And now that he's been clean for a year, he's a POS? Really?

What.
Ev.

 

[futuredust]

My ex had custody, then took off to another state. There were three states involved, actually. I filed with the courts. Three months after filing, and finding the kids, we had a hearing. We went to trial two months after that. Then two months after that, I was awarded full custody.

Seven months.... Kids are sitting in my living room watching television with me.


It happens. I assure you.

 

[VyRoses]

LOL.

They don't care about his history and background. What they DO care about is that his child will have been removed - illegally.

And really, his background? Well, apparently family court didn't care too much either since he still has quite a few rights.

Seriously - there are literally hundreds of attorneys who would take this pro bono in a heartbeat. And that's not touching on the various other agencies.

But apparently you don't believe what you're being told so...

No, but I think that you all are over Dramatizing the possible out come, I hear what you all are saying, its not that I don't believe you, I think it happends, but there are many different out comes with many different cases. Many, you all are saying lose of custody is what is to be expected period. but thats not so and we all know that.

If I am served at my last address, and than I am not there, here or there or anywhere.. Than where am I? years go by I'm found I am brought to court, child would no be taken from me over night, no.

 

[TheGeekess]

..Umm but its the Dad that needs counsling... Really, after 6 yrs of happy life suddenly my child needs to see a perfessional over his fathers emotional abuse, do you know how devastating that is to a mother.

'So sorry kid but you have to continue to see dad who treats you like ****, or as my son has siad, "has a Bad Heart", But here, you go see a counsiler about this now and ...try not to turn out like him, or want to kill yourself when your older.

He's young enough now that he can get over this, but one day he wont be.

It teaches your child how to handle being around both the adults in his life.... because, honey, from reading what you've posted here, you're no prize either. I'd bet dollars to donuts that you've already told him all about his father....

 

[Proserpina]

No, but I think that you all are over Dramatizing the possible out come, I hear what you all are saying, its not that I don't believe you, I think it happends, but there are many different out comes with many different cases. Many, you all are saying lose of custody is what is to be expected period. but thats not so and we all know that.

If I am served at my last address, and than I am not there, here or there or anywhere.. Than where am I? years go by I'm found I am brought to court, child would no be taken from me over night, no.

Um...alrighty then.

You go on thinking that.

Buhbye!


@Cjane - I know..the nerve of actually being sober for a year! How dare he?!

 

[futuredust]

No, but I think that you all are over Dramatizing the possible out come, I hear what you all are saying, its not that I don't believe you, I think it happends, but there are many different out comes with many different cases. Many, you all are saying lose of custody is what is to be expected period. but thats not so and we all know that.

If I am served at my last address, and than I am not there, here or there or anywhere.. Than where am I? years go by I'm found I am brought to court, child would no be taken from me over night, no.

You get arrested and your child goes to state custody until things are worked out.

You will need to use your social security number to work, draw welfare, sign a lease.. and the list goes on. You will have to use the child's information to put them in school.. You can be found.. and it's not nearly as hard as you think.

However, since you seem to think YOU know all the answers, why would you come to a legal website and ask questions... being the expert that you are.

/grape hat

 

[VyRoses]

Well, let's be fair. Mom thinks that Dad's history and background should keep the cops / courts from helping him find his child. But Dad's history and background (15 years of drug abuse) didn't matter 6 years ago when she was living with him and doing the nasty.

His history was perfectly ok THEN. And now that he's been clean for a year, he's a POS? Really?

What.
Ev.

No he's been a POS since I was pregnant. When I was with him I clearly had as much integrity as he did, I did all kinds of idiotic stuff. Its funny How much a person changes sometimes when they become a mother, funny how soooo often the 'Father' doesn't change and a woman (in this modern age) is reprimanded for wanting to have nothing to do with the guy (who still acts like a teenager) For the SAKE OF HER CHILD. Because why else would any woman care or be so desperate to get away from a man than if it wasn't for how it effects her CHILD. ? anyone?

 

[Proserpina]

No he's been a POS since I was pregnant.

You didn't have to go through with the pregnancy. You chose to.

When I was with him I clearly had as much integrity as he did, I did all kinds of idiotic stuff. Its funny How much a person changes sometimes when they become a mother, funny how soooo often the 'Father' doesn't change and a woman (in this modern age) is reprimanded for wanting to have nothing to do with the guy (who still acts like a teenager) For the SAKE OF HER CHILD.

And yet the court has decided that he is fit.

You don't get to decide otherwise.

Because why else would any woman care or be so desperate to get away from a man than if it wasn't for how it effects her CHILD. ? anyone?

Because many women believe that because they own the Golden Uterus, they have superior rights to the child. Many women are so wrapped up in their own bitterness that they just can't help themselves.

You've received correct legal information.

Are you just venting now?