Need help with Custody Agreement Clarification

[cherylsarah01]

Yes, it would mean that you would get three weeks in a row. It would also mean that he would get three weeks in a row when he chooses to take his vacation.

Yes right he would also.

 

[cherylsarah01]

Those are all good suggestions and I will give him a few different dates and see.

 

[ava42805]

Almost always, summer vacations impede in one way or the other, on at least some of the other's parents visitation. As far as I've been told, summer vacations, take precedence over "regualar" visition.


I say, follow your court order. Give him several different dates and options. Supply him with the itinerary; names and numbers of where you will be and who will be you.


Obviously he's not going to agree with anything. I would interpret that "7 day period to respond, to attempt to come to some type of resolution." Problem is, he has no intention of resolving anything. He just wants to dictate NO. Don't let him. Whether he says NO or not, go on vacation with your child. Enjoy yourselves. Both you and your daughter deserve that time together. Sure it might make him angry. Probably just because you didn't cower to his demands.


Maybe, just maybe.. when he realizes that you're not willing to let him run this show, just because he thinks he's entitled to, things may change. If he takes this to court, after the fact, I believe HE will be the one having to do all the explaining and back peddling, to make the judge believe he was in the right. Judges are smarter than that. This is gonna come back on him, not you.


Please don't let him ruin another summer for you and your daughter. Especially your daughter. Deep breaths! You're not doing anything wrong, so have FUN!

 

[CJane]

Look,

Give him the dates, if he's still a jerk about ALL of the dates you've chosen, then do this:

Pick up the kid on Monday at 5 for your week. Then KEEP the kiddo for the NEXT week. Then keep the kiddo for the NEXT week.

You wouldn't be doing anything wrong, as you gave him 30 days notice and then took your vacation.

 

[cherylsarah01]

Look,

Give him the dates, if he's still a jerk about ALL of the dates you've chosen, then do this:

Pick up the kid on Monday at 5 for your week. Then KEEP the kiddo for the NEXT week. Then keep the kiddo for the NEXT week.

You wouldn't be doing anything wrong, as you gave him 30 days notice and then took your vacation.

That is what I am going to do. I've already got the some dates to give him. I am going to do this certified mail, he/stepmom will take it to email after he gets it. Keep a copy and the certified mail receipt together along with my custody agreement and take it with me. That way if he calls the cops or shows up where we are I will have all the paperwork together.

 

[cherylsarah01]

Health Care Expenses

On my court order under health care expenses it states:

C. The party providing coverage must assign the right of reimbursement to the other party.

What does this mean exactley?

Thank you.

 

[gr8rn]

Reimbursement, in the health insurance arena, usually is provided to the insured when a covered expense is paid for out of pocket. The insured would need to provide receipts to the insurance company then the company reimburses the insured. In this scenario, it probably means that if the other parent (the one who does not hold the policy) pays for a covered expense, then the insurance company is allowed to reimburse the parent who incurred the expense, rather than the policy holder.

 

[LdiJ]

The problem is he always says no it's his time. He will never ever tell me if there is something scheduled because it's none of my business he says. He thinks he does get to say no. He won't even provide me with the basic itinerary, dates of leaving or returning when she goes because he says it's none of my business and that is his family business. He is difficult and does not co-parent and has not in about 2 years. He has his wife do his dirty work for him.

This is why I needed clarification. For years I had no idea but now I am learning.0

I would file for a modification asking that summer be changed to an every other two week schedule instead of an every other week schedule, with any vacations to be taken during that parent's own time. That would eliminate the whole problem.

 

[2MsWife]

I would file for a modification asking that summer be changed to an every other two week schedule instead of an every other week schedule, with any vacations to be taken during that parent's own time. That would eliminate the whole problem.

I think the vacation issue was from 2010. LOL. I was about to comment on it, too.

So I will.

OP, if your ex is still having his wife "do his dirty work" (I assume this means her talking to you?) just refuse to talk to her. Only speak to him regarding the child you and he share.

My stepkids mom tries to talk to me about the kids she and my husband share. Ya know what I told him? "I didn't marry her, I didn't sleep with her and make babies, and I didn't divorce her, so I'm not talking to her about the kids."

I realize my situation is a real parent trying to talk to a step parent and yours is the opposite, but the same logic applies.

Edited to clarify: I don't completely refuse to talk to her. If it's something mundane, I'll talk to her about it. If it's something to requires discussion/decision making, I step out and let her and my husband (as the parents) discuss/decide it.

 

[cherylsarah01]

Thank you for the responses.

gr8rn: That's the answer I was looking for. It means something completley different than what I thought.

Ldij: I like this a lot even though it went back to my original question, but since I still have problems with summer vacations this is a good idea.

2MsWife: It has now been court ordered that his wife should remain out of any communication. They don't follow it but it has been ordered.

We are now having disputes over medical bills. My court order states that health insurance covered to be maintained by him. Both parties are to cooperate in the presentation, collection and reimbursement of any health care claims.

Health Care Costs and Reimbursement procedures:

1. Notice: You must give the other parent an itimized statement of the charges that have been billed for any health-care costs not paid by insurance. You must give the statement to the other parent within a reasonable time, but no more than 30 days after those cost were given to you.

A few months after our court ordeal my ex flooded me with emails telling me I have to pay these medical bills for our daughter. The bills are a year or more old. He let some of them go to collections. I had no knowledge that any of these bills existed. He said since I took him to court for child support that now he wants me to pay half the bills. He still does not want to co-parent and communicate anything medical, dental or school with me.

I asked why he did not inform me within the 30 day time period and he says he did not know of the time period on the court order.

I emailed him the order and he still is insisting I pay the bills. He sends me email after email every few days telling me to call the collections agency to take care of them.

I do not want to do this. What is the best way to handle this?

 

[2MsWife]

Thank you for the responses.

gr8rn: That's the answer I was looking for. It means something completley different than what I thought.

Ldij: I like this a lot even though it went back to my original question, but since I still have problems with summer vacations this is a good idea.

2MsWife: It has now been court ordered that his wife should remain out of any communication. They don't follow it but it has been ordered.

We are now having disputes over medical bills. My court order states that health insurance covered to be maintained by him. Both parties are to cooperate in the presentation, collection and reimbursement of any health care claims.

Health Care Costs and Reimbursement procedures:

1. Notice: You must give the other parent an itimized statement of the charges that have been billed for any health-care costs not paid by insurance. You must give the statement to the other parent within a reasonable time, but no more than 30 days after those cost were given to you.

A few months after our court ordeal my ex flooded me with emails telling me I have to pay these medical bills for our daughter. The bills are a year or more old. He let some of them go to collections. I had no knowledge that any of these bills existed. He said since I took him to court for child support that now he wants me to pay half the bills. He still does not want to co-parent and communicate anything medical, dental or school with me.

I asked why he did not inform me within the 30 day time period and he says he did not know of the time period on the court order.

I emailed him the order and he still is insisting I pay the bills. He sends me email after email every few days telling me to call the collections agency to take care of them.

I do not want to do this. What is the best way to handle this?

Ignore him. If he didn't present them in the time specified in the order, that's his problem.

And as far as stepmom? Ignore her too. Tell her that you will only discuss the child with her father. And then stick to that. If she continues to be a problem, keep a record, let it build up and then file for contempt since it's been ordered for her to stay out of it.

 

[cherylsarah01]

Ex giving my info to the collections agency

My ex emailed me saying that he is going to give my personal information to the two different collections agencies. He said he is giving them my name, number, address and social and a copy of the divorce decree.

Is he violating my privacy? Is this legal?

Like I said, he is angry over the child support and hitting me up for old bills that I did not know existed. He did not follow the court order procedure that I typed above. What do I do now?

Thank you.

 

[Proserpina]

My ex emailed me saying that he is going to give my personal information to the two different collections agencies. He said he is giving them my name, number, address and social and a copy of the divorce decree.

Is he violating my privacy? Is this legal?

Like I said, he is angry over the child support and hitting me up for old bills that I did not know existed. He did not follow the court order procedure that I typed above. What do I do now?

Thank you.

No privacy violation there, I'm afraid.

 

[gam]

Who's name is on the bills? Did you take the child to the Dr these bills are from or did he?

 

[LdiJ]

No privacy violation there, I'm afraid.

I agree. However, if the collection agencies contact you demand that they provide a copy of the original invoice showing your name, and your signature authorizing the treatment.