New Boyfriend

[RyoninMesa]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? AZ
My wife left with the kids and has hooked up with a man who I feel is unfit to be around my children. If I file for divorce can I keep him away?

 

[Proserpina]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? AZ
My wife left with the kids and has hooked up with a man who I feel is unfit to be around my children. If I file for divorce can I keep him away?

Not unless you can prove that he's unfit.

So - what is it that makes him unfit?

 

[tuffbrk]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? AZ
My wife left with the kids and has hooked up with a man who I feel is unfit to be around my children. If I file for divorce can I keep him away?

Your wife took the kids, left and "hooked up" as in - she is living with another man? What are the children's ages? Are they residing in the same school district? Have you been able to spend time with them?

Yikes! I presume that you are either investigating counseling or planning to divorce?

 

[RyoninMesa]

He does not work and is drunk half the time not sure if he is using drugs but my hunch says yes.

 

[Silverplum]

Do you want your children back?

If so, file at once for divorce and custody, and ask that she be ordered to return your children home.

As far as the boyfriend goes, you need PROOF. As in, proof you can take to court. Not hunches, and not any complaints about things that are legal, such as drinking.

 

[RyoninMesa]

She lets me take the kids on weekends and I have been paying her 300 a month to help for support.

 

[Proserpina]

He does not work and is drunk half the time not sure if he is using drugs but my hunch says yes.

So there's no proof that he represents a risk to the kids.

Sorry, I realize that isn't what you want to hear but it is the reality.

You can ask for a "no paramour" clause to be put in place while the divorce is going through, but this won't prevent him from being around the kids - only from staying over while the kids are present.

So file for divorce and get started on that.

 

[RyoninMesa]

The kids say he is there in the evening and all night then leaves in the am.

 

[Silverplum]

The kids say he is there in the evening and all night then leaves in the am.

Not against the law.

But please don't ask your children about what's going on at Mom's house. It goes down an unpleasant road.

 

[RyoninMesa]

Thank You all for your help.

 

[Silverplum]

Thank You all for your help.

You're very welcome.

Feel free to come back and post again if you have future questions.

 

[tuffbrk]

So maybe he leaves in the AM to go to work.

You need to file for divorce in order to ensure your ability to spend time with the kids.

 

[RyoninMesa]

No He does not work, he worked nights at Burger King with her. And the kids told me he quit. Because he hated his job.

 

[Silverplum]

No He does not work, he worked nights at Burger King with her. And the kids told me he quit. Because he hated his job.

IMHO, you really are talking too much with your kids about Mom's new boyfriend.

Talk to your kids about THEM and their school and things that DO concern them.

 

[RyoninMesa]

It's not so much me when I pick them up they tell me about everything. I just simply state that this is my time and we won't talk about it the rest of the weekend. That usually works but when they bring him up I try to change the subject.