I believe my son's father went into my house without my permission.

[Just Blue]

This is the question I would like to see answered.

It's highly unlikely a 3-year-old would be trusted with the keys to my home. 3-year-olds sometimes have trouble finding their shoes or toys, let alone a key that anyone else could use to get in my house.

I'm thinking that Dad MUST have a key to the house. By him having a key, that gives him access to the house pretty much whenever he wants. So having the key is OK, but actually USING it to get into the house is not?

This problem has an easy solution. Change the locks and/or take the key away from Dad. He's old enough to be able to figure out some other plan for the child if Mom isn't home yet, like taking the boy to the local park or even just sitting on the front step or in the car waiting.

And why would Dad even be snooping through the house trying to find something "incriminating" against Mom anyway? Sounds like Mom isn't telling the whole story here. What exactly is it that she is afraid he will find and use against her?

Per the quoted comment below, I would ASSume that OP had not been locking her door till now. OP must live in a Utopian town in a parallel universe.

I have been keeping my house as clean as possible and locking my doors now

 

[LdiJ]

This is the question I would like to see answered.

It's highly unlikely a 3-year-old would be trusted with the keys to my home. 3-year-olds sometimes have trouble finding their shoes or toys, let alone a key that anyone else could use to get in my house.

I'm thinking that Dad MUST have a key to the house. By him having a key, that gives him access to the house pretty much whenever he wants. So having the key is OK, but actually USING it to get into the house is not?

This problem has an easy solution. Change the locks and/or take the key away from Dad. He's old enough to be able to figure out some other plan for the child if Mom isn't home yet, like taking the boy to the local park or even just sitting on the front step or in the car waiting.

And why would Dad even be snooping through the house trying to find something "incriminating" against Mom anyway? Sounds like Mom isn't telling the whole story here. What exactly is it that she is afraid he will find and use against her?

Oh come on...you don't think that people try to snoop and get things against their exes? I wish it were not so but it happens ALL the time.

 

[LdiJ]

Per the quoted comment below, I would ASSume that OP had not been locking her door till now. OP must live in a Utopian town in a parallel universe.

I have to admit that I don't alway lock my doors.

 

[Just Blue]

I have to admit that I don't alway lock my doors.

Shame on you!!!

I don't either...

 

[CJane]

Shame on you!!!

I don't either...

Me neither.

 

[mistoffolees]

Me neither.

I do.

Not for my benefit. If a robber comes in, I'd tell him to take whatever he wants and I'll simply get new ones from my insurance.

But with my daughter here, I don't take any chances.

 

[Isis1]

i leave my doors unlocked. not because i feel safe in my neighborhood, but because i forget things like that. i got fussed at by the husband the other day for leaving ALL the car doors unlocked WITH my purse in the car.

 

[mistoffolees]

I wonder why OP hasn't answered the questions I asked - about home ownership, whether he lived there, etc.....

 

[Zigner]

I always lock my doors...my wife hates it. She goes out to get the mail and has to knock to get back in!

 

[Isis1]

I always lock my doors...my wife hates it. She goes out to get the mail and has to knock to get back in!

lmfao!! you are so mean!!!

 

[rbw5147]

Happened to me. The first time, I was in the hospital and my neighbor was inside helping me pack since I was unable. Dad and his sister went in, took pictures, which clearly showed that boxes and packing that was going on. Dad tried to present the pictures in court and not only were they thrown out, but he was told by the judge that he was lucky he hadn't been charged with trespassing.


Fast forward two years later, I was leaving town for 3 weeks and asked my neighbors to collect my mail and newspapers. When I returned, they told me that they had seen my ex walking around my apartment a few times at night and that they had also seen him exiting my apt. They didn't have my number, but did call the police. Reports were taken, but since my neighbors didn't even know his name, nothing was done until I returned. When I was made aware of what happened, I called the police and filed a report. After many years of harassment from this man "looking for the goods on me", he was arrested, charged, and convicted of felony trespassing. Funny thing, is that he still blames me for this. Apparently, he doesn't understand that all I did was file a report. The Sheriff's Office of Colorado Springs filed the report and the District Attorney filed charges and had him arrested. Our son recently changed schools and the school does a background check on anybody that would like to volunteer at the school. Since this trespassing arrest involved me, it is considered a form of domestic violence and now Dad is not allowed to volunteer. Again, this is ALL my fault. Jeesh...

 

[Proserpina]

Our doors are always locked.

Oh, it's not for safety or to prevent burglars or anything sensible like that.

It's to prevent wayward adult children from turning up unannounced and/or at inopportune moments.

 

[Zigner]

Our doors are always locked.

Oh, it's not for safety or to prevent burglars or anything sensible like that.

It's to prevent wayward adult children from turning up unannounced and/or at inopportune moments.

Excellent. I remember that I had to turn in my key once I moved out of my parents

 

[mistoffolees]

Excellent. I remember that I had to turn in my key once I moved out of my parents

I guess I'm old enough and small-town enough that we didn't have keys for our house when I was living with my parents. I don't recall them EVER locking the doors.

 

[LdiJ]

I guess I'm old enough and small-town enough that we didn't have keys for our house when I was living with my parents. I don't recall them EVER locking the doors.

Mine never did either...I think that I was in my mid twenties before my parents started locking the doors...and that was only because there had been some kids breaking into people's cars.

Now, my parents always DID lock their car doors, but that was only because one summer my youngest brother, who was not quite two at the time, crawled in my mom's car and locked all the doors, so no one could get him out. Mom had left the keys in the ignition while she was hauling in groceries, because she intended moving the car afterwards.

I still laugh about that one. There was mom, dad, and about 4 police officers trying to persuade my little brother to unlock a door. They finally got it unlocked with a wire hanger...