Thanks for your replies, to explain more

[ambersgrace]

But here's the thing, my son's father never lived in this house. In fact we have never been together sense my son has been born. (I found out I was pregnant after we broke up) He does not have a key to my home. I used to leave the back door open to my house all the time because I live in a very small town and on a quiet street. But as I said I do lock the doors now. Also my 3 year old did not let him in, he's 3 and I know it was dad's idea. Also I know my son and I know he did not make this up. He told me in detail and he told me he and his father "looked for me in every room". My son's father KNEW I was at work, he usually takes my son to the park or somewhere else until 4pm. There has been no agreement for them to wait or go into my house. The thing I didn't stress enough is that my son's father is very bitter. As far as what do I have to hide? Well I don't have much, but for a period of time while I was going through the court battle and well I am a single mom who works a full time job and has a 3 year old. My house is not always perfect, sometimes I leave the toys on the floor and I don't always get to the dishes or laundry. I try, but it is hard balance work, house and child. The house is the first to go sense the other two are not an option. What my question was...if he came in and took photos of my house being messy can he use those photos against me in court to make me look bad? Especially when he was not permitted in my house. Yes this all sounds paranoid but you don't know my son's father and I do not trust him...obviously he was snooping in my house for one.

 

[stealth2]

And a new thread was necessary, because.... why?

 

[OHRoadwarrior]

And a new thread was necessary, because.... why?

Our massive Hijack had her all keyed up!!!

 

[ambersgrace]

Because many of the replies I had gotten on the original post had questions, secondly I thought maybe I was not clear enough being that a lot of the replies did not seem to directly understand what my question was. Third, this is a free advice forum, why do people have to be rude? I mean if you don't want to answer a question than don't. But some of the questions on here are serious and from people seeking advice and when they get rude replies it is upsetting.

 

[stealth2]

Because many of the replies I had gotten on the original post had questions, secondly I thought maybe I was not clear enough being that a lot of the replies did not seem to directly understand what my question was. Third, this is a free advice forum, why do people have to be rude? I mean if you don't want to answer a question than don't. But some of the questions on here are serious and from people seeking advice and when they get rude replies it is upsetting.

Well, then... it is always possible to pay for one's advice. Seriously - a new thread is unnecessary.

 

[ambersgrace]

Would I be on this site if I had money to pay for advice? I'm not that familiar with this site I was just trying to reply to all the question I had so I could possibly have someone tell me something useful instead of being mocked at. There is still no good reason for people to be rude or make fun at me, if you don't want to answer my question then don't. Otherwise please don't reply just to be rude

 

[Proserpina]

But here's the thing, my son's father never lived in this house. In fact we have never been together sense my son has been born. (I found out I was pregnant after we broke up) He does not have a key to my home. I used to leave the back door open to my house all the time because I live in a very small town and on a quiet street. But as I said I do lock the doors now. Also my 3 year old did not let him in, he's 3 and I know it was dad's idea. Also I know my son and I know he did not make this up. He told me in detail and he told me he and his father "looked for me in every room". My son's father KNEW I was at work, he usually takes my son to the park or somewhere else until 4pm. There has been no agreement for them to wait or go into my house. The thing I didn't stress enough is that my son's father is very bitter. As far as what do I have to hide? Well I don't have much, but for a period of time while I was going through the court battle and well I am a single mom who works a full time job and has a 3 year old. My house is not always perfect, sometimes I leave the toys on the floor and I don't always get to the dishes or laundry. I try, but it is hard balance work, house and child. The house is the first to go sense the other two are not an option. What my question was...if he came in and took photos of my house being messy can he use those photos against me in court to make me look bad? Especially when he was not permitted in my house. Yes this all sounds paranoid but you don't know my son's father and I do not trust him...obviously he was snooping in my house for one.

Would you trust your 3 year old if he told you that he'd been playing on the moon with Steve for the past 2 hours?

I'm honestly not being snarky. I'm trying to point out an obvious flaw in what you're saying.

 

[ambersgrace]

No I can tell the difference if he's just talking or making up a story. I know he was telling me the truth because of the way he described it to me. Also I know my son's dad and I believe he would snoop into my house. But this seems useless. I didn't realize how it would sound to people who don't know what my son's father is like. I would have to write a book practically of all the things that have happened to explain. But I guess it doesn't matter. I keep my house very clean all the time, I lock my doors and and moved my extra key to a different place.

 

[mistoffolees]

Would I be on this site if I had money to pay for advice? I'm not that familiar with this site I was just trying to reply to all the question I had so I could possibly have someone tell me something useful instead of being mocked at. There is still no good reason for people to be rude or make fun at me, if you don't want to answer my question then don't. Otherwise please don't reply just to be rude

So the fact that you don't want to pay for advice gives you the right to be rude to the volunteers and waste their time?

You got your answers in the other thread. Change the locks, stop panicking, and move on with your life. A 3 year old is not a reliable witness. Any 'evidence' ex gathers is almost certainly inadmissible. First, he obtained it illegally and second, there's no way for him to prove that he didn't plant it.

You've got the answer. Now people be considerate of the people who are trying to help you and follow the site rules.

 

[LdiJ]

So the fact that you don't want to pay for advice gives you the right to be rude to the volunteers and waste their time?

You got your answers in the other thread. Change the locks, stop panicking, and move on with your life. A 3 year old is not a reliable witness. Any 'evidence' ex gathers is almost certainly inadmissible. First, he obtained it illegally and second, there's no way for him to prove that he didn't plant it.

You've got the answer. Now people be considerate of the people who are trying to help you and follow the site rules.

I didn't see anything rude at all in any of her posts. All she did was ask nicely that people not respond to her thread if they were going to be rude to her.

 

[mistoffolees]

I didn't see anything rude at all in any of her posts. All she did was ask nicely that people not respond to her thread if they were going to be rude to her.

She violated the standard practice by opening a new thread to ask exactly the same question that was already answered. Then, when someone asked her not to open a new thread, she got snippy. That's rude in my book. When you're asking people to give up their time to help you, you really ought to ask your questions on their terms rather than demanding that they do it your way.

 

[LdiJ]

She violated the standard practice by opening a new thread to ask exactly the same question that was already answered. Then, when someone asked her not to open a new thread, she got snippy. That's rude in my book. When you're asking people to give up their time to help you, you really ought to ask your questions on their terms rather than demanding that they do it your way.

But see...the TOS doesn't say anything about opening new threads. Therefore a newbie would be unlikely to understand ahead of time that there was anything wrong in doing so.

 

[mistoffolees]

But see...the TOS doesn't say anything about opening new threads. Therefore a newbie would be unlikely to understand ahead of time that there was anything wrong in doing so.

But when the newbie was instructed not to open a new thread, she shouldn't have gotten snippy.

 

[LdiJ]

But when the newbie was instructed not to open a new thread, she shouldn't have gotten snippy.

So its only ok for senior members to get "snippy"?

 

[stealth2]

Seems commonsensical to not open a new thread that's a C&P of the last post on an existing thread. <shrug>