GlassViolet
Junior Member
Hello, I'm currently in California and dealing with a big problem. I left my abusive ex and took our 2 month old to a woman's shelter last week. Against my best interests, I have been taking my baby to meet with him in public places so that he could still see his son. A few days ago, he decided to grab the stroller and start running towards his apartment. Since I've left, he's been trying to get me to move back in with him, and while I was following him while he ran off with our son, he told me I could fix this by going into his place and signing paperwork. I refused, called the police who did nothing, and had to leave him with our baby.
Since then, he has only texted me to let me know that I won't be seeing our son until our court date next month (He served me with papers asking for joint custody) and that he will no longer be speaking to me. His statement was full of lies, which I have physical evidence to prove so, and full of hatred towards me.
I have spoken to every person I can, and will be filing a restraining report on our son tomorrow, as I have reasonable evidence of his abuse towards me and our baby, including current warrants he has, text messages he has sent, and a witness report. I was told by many people that this is the only way I could reasonably get him back. I have been unable to find a lawyer, though I have the means to afford one. I'm going to call a bunch tomorrow and hope somebody will be able to represent me on short notice.
Is there anything else I could/should be doing right now? I am terrified that for some reason my restraining order will be denied. I also am scared he's going to leave state lines with out child. In the past, he wanted to buy an RV and travel the U.S., homeschooling our baby. Before we started dating, he lived in a car and traveled the U.S. I have tried to leave him many times, but was unable to. He was extremely abusive for the year we were together. He lives off of SSI, is an alcoholic, and brought home strangers he meets while he's out drinking, most recently a homeless person with a ringworm on his forehead, who he asked to move in with us. This guy ended up staying with us for 3 days until my ex kicked him out.
Is there anything else I can possible do? My son is 2 months old and breastfeeds, but he is supplemented with formula so he can still be fed. I am scared he's going to leave town, or ultimately get granted primary custody because he has kept my son from me for such a long time.
Since then, he has only texted me to let me know that I won't be seeing our son until our court date next month (He served me with papers asking for joint custody) and that he will no longer be speaking to me. His statement was full of lies, which I have physical evidence to prove so, and full of hatred towards me.
I have spoken to every person I can, and will be filing a restraining report on our son tomorrow, as I have reasonable evidence of his abuse towards me and our baby, including current warrants he has, text messages he has sent, and a witness report. I was told by many people that this is the only way I could reasonably get him back. I have been unable to find a lawyer, though I have the means to afford one. I'm going to call a bunch tomorrow and hope somebody will be able to represent me on short notice.
Is there anything else I could/should be doing right now? I am terrified that for some reason my restraining order will be denied. I also am scared he's going to leave state lines with out child. In the past, he wanted to buy an RV and travel the U.S., homeschooling our baby. Before we started dating, he lived in a car and traveled the U.S. I have tried to leave him many times, but was unable to. He was extremely abusive for the year we were together. He lives off of SSI, is an alcoholic, and brought home strangers he meets while he's out drinking, most recently a homeless person with a ringworm on his forehead, who he asked to move in with us. This guy ended up staying with us for 3 days until my ex kicked him out.
Is there anything else I can possible do? My son is 2 months old and breastfeeds, but he is supplemented with formula so he can still be fed. I am scared he's going to leave town, or ultimately get granted primary custody because he has kept my son from me for such a long time.