divorce4105
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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Pennsylvania
My ex-husband and I agreed that we would split this summer with our 10 year old son (5 weeks each). Originally I had agreed to forgo the childcare portion of those 5 weeks as he has to pay for childcare when our son is with him. Now he says unless he can opt out of paying for child support totally for those 5 weeks he isn't going to take him because he can't afford it. Part of our summer agreement stipulates that our son must be in camp half the day as my ex works late afternoons and nights. If he doesn't go to camp, he will be stuck at home with ex-husband's elderly Mother without any friends or activities. Hence the camp stipulation.
When he told me he won't take him if he can't temporarily opt out of basic child support, I told him our son would be devastated and that he's very much looking forward to spending half the summer with his Dad. He told me that was my fault for telling him we had agreed to split the summer in the first place. Then I told him fine, I'll forgo all child support for those 5 weeks (even though I don't agree with that) but can we please average out the amount monthly instead of one lump sum. He said no deal, he wants it all at once.
Has anyone dealt with this? What would you do? Forgo all child support for those 5 weeks? Also, he barely spends any time with him to begin with. Every other weekend is it, and he even misses those sometimes too. I just get the feeling he wants the money, not the time with our son. Otherwise wouldn't he do what he needed to do to spend time with him? He also gets 6 weeks vacation per year and has only scheduled one week off during the 5 weeks he is supposed to have with our son.
My ex-husband and I agreed that we would split this summer with our 10 year old son (5 weeks each). Originally I had agreed to forgo the childcare portion of those 5 weeks as he has to pay for childcare when our son is with him. Now he says unless he can opt out of paying for child support totally for those 5 weeks he isn't going to take him because he can't afford it. Part of our summer agreement stipulates that our son must be in camp half the day as my ex works late afternoons and nights. If he doesn't go to camp, he will be stuck at home with ex-husband's elderly Mother without any friends or activities. Hence the camp stipulation.
When he told me he won't take him if he can't temporarily opt out of basic child support, I told him our son would be devastated and that he's very much looking forward to spending half the summer with his Dad. He told me that was my fault for telling him we had agreed to split the summer in the first place. Then I told him fine, I'll forgo all child support for those 5 weeks (even though I don't agree with that) but can we please average out the amount monthly instead of one lump sum. He said no deal, he wants it all at once.
Has anyone dealt with this? What would you do? Forgo all child support for those 5 weeks? Also, he barely spends any time with him to begin with. Every other weekend is it, and he even misses those sometimes too. I just get the feeling he wants the money, not the time with our son. Otherwise wouldn't he do what he needed to do to spend time with him? He also gets 6 weeks vacation per year and has only scheduled one week off during the 5 weeks he is supposed to have with our son.