Can court order force son to miss football pictures?

[t74]

"5. Yes. Football does mean that for two nights a week during his time, they have football. It also means two nights of the week that we have the boys, he can still see them at football."

Are you saying that on dad's weeks mom does not attend public functions involving the children like concerts, plays, back-to-school nights,... I suspect that she and likely you too are there. I think the problem is not mom or dad but is you.

I applaud involved, loving step parents but find your statements to be somewhat troubling and can see why dad may have decided to become less cooperative.

 

[PayrollHRGuy]

I dunno, dad gets to see his son two extra times every 14 days at the games on mom's time. That kind of makes up for the couple of hours that he is tied up with football games on dad's time.

At the games the MOTHER signed him up for being coached by the MOTHER's husband. Hardly quality time with Dad.

 

[LdiJ]

At the games the MOTHER signed him up for being coached by the MOTHER's husband. Hardly quality time with Dad.

Maybe not, but I bet his son is really glad that he is there to watch the games, and glad for a little extra face time with dad. Also, since its been going on for three years I think that the fact that its coached by mom's husband probably isn't a big factor for dad. If this was the first season, and dad was being totally uncooperative then I would likely agree that stepdad coaching would likely be a big factor. However, its been going on for three years so I think its doubtful.

 

[stealth2]

I dunno, dad gets to see his son two extra times every 14 days at the games on mom's time. That kind of makes up for the couple of hours that he is tied up with football games on dad's time.

Personally, I don't see the two as equivalent. Still wondering on how practices figure in. And whether there are other sports at play during other seasons.

 

[Zigner]

I don't understand why some people believe that there is only a court suggestion in play here and not the court order that actually is in play.

 

[not2cleverRed]

Maybe not, but I bet his son is really glad that he is there to watch the games, and glad for a little extra face time with dad. Also, since its been going on for three years I think that the fact that its coached by mom's husband probably isn't a big factor for dad. If this was the first season, and dad was being totally uncooperative then I would likely agree that stepdad coaching would likely be a big factor. However, its been going on for three years so I think its doubtful.

Really?

Dad gets to see him in a public setting, from the stands, and you're counting that as "face time"?

No. Involved, caring parents attempt to watch their kids at such things, but it is not considered a "perk" or added "face time". Or perhaps football is different from other sports/activities - I have so far escaped ever going to a football game in person, but I have to imagine that the interaction with those on the field is not significantly more than at, say, a swim meet or a dance performance.

And depending on how the parent behaves, being present might not be a plus in the child's eyes. I know more than one child in my family who would rather not have the noncustodial parent attend events because of the way the ncp behaves - or rather, doesn't.

 

[LdiJ]

Really?

Dad gets to see him in a public setting, from the stands, and you're counting that as "face time"?

No. Involved, caring parents attempt to watch their kids at such things, but it is not considered a "perk" or added "face time". Or perhaps football is different from other sports/activities - I have so far escaped ever going to a football game in person, but I have to imagine that the interaction with those on the field is not significantly more than at, say, a swim meet or a dance performance.

And depending on how the parent behaves, being present might not be a plus in the child's eyes. I know more than one child in my family who would rather not have the noncustodial parent attend events because of the way the ncp behaves - or rather, doesn't.

I was assuming that dad would have at least a few minutes of time to talk to the child after the game, maybe a minute or two before as well. I am sure that dad wouldn't leave without at least speaking with his child.

 

[LdiJ]

I don't understand why some people believe that there is only a court suggestion in play here and not the court order that actually is in play.

Who was suggesting that a court order was a suggestion? I only disagreed that games made makeup time necessary.

 

[PayrollHRGuy]

I was assuming that dad would have at least a few minutes of time to talk to the child after the game, maybe a minute or two before as well. I am sure that dad wouldn't leave without at least speaking with his child.

Why would you assume that? And a few minutes of talk time before and after a game does not balance the scales.

 

[Ohiogal]

I dunno, dad gets to see his son two extra times every 14 days at the games on mom's time. That kind of makes up for the couple of hours that he is tied up with football games on dad's time.

Bull. Because dad doesn't get to CHOOSE what he does with those hours. You are so full of it. But you are still sticking with the anti-dad bias you have.

 

[Ohiogal]

I was assuming that dad would have at least a few minutes of time to talk to the child after the game, maybe a minute or two before as well. I am sure that dad wouldn't leave without at least speaking with his child.

YAY! Dad gets a minute or five. You are so delusional.

 

[Ohiogal]

Who was suggesting that a court order was a suggestion? I only disagreed that games made makeup time necessary.

Yeah and you don't know the law.

 

[Just Blue]

Yeah and you don't know the law.

Since when has that stopped her from opining??

 

[stealth2]

I was assuming that dad would have at least a few minutes of time to talk to the child after the game, maybe a minute or two before as well. I am sure that dad wouldn't leave without at least speaking with his child.

Let's remember that Dad has every other week parenting time. And apparently permits participation on his weeks. Yes, one evening is likely Mom's (I assume they each get Thursday evening dinner on the off week), but foregoes an evening of his time for this activity. A few minutes before/after a game of facetime is hardly equivalent.

 

[PayrollHRGuy]

Bull. Because dad doesn't get to CHOOSE what he does with those hours. You are so full of it. But you are still sticking with the anti-dad bias you have.

YAY! Dad gets a minute or five. You are so delusional.

Yeah and you don't know the law.