What is the name of your state? Ohio
My grandmother has been forced to take care of two children because the mother of her children ( my cousin ) is her daughter’s child. The reason my grandmother cannot say no to taking care of them when she makes up excuses not to or simply doesn’t want to is because my cousin has diagnosed bipolar disorder and borderline personality disorder as well as a few others and often threatens to hurt herself or others ( sometimes even taking action ) .. she has been institutionalized many times throughout her life time and has shown to not be able to take care of her children or her home. We just spent 12 hours cleaning her house and it’s still not clean. She cannot keep a stable job and has worked I would guess a total of 30-40 jobs this past year.
Sometimes not even telling us. I do not understand how she keeps getting hired AT ALL but she is a MASTER of manipulation and is ruining my grandmothers life. It is to the point where we spent hours cleaning her home and no one in my family will stop helping her or stand up to my grandmothers attempts to continue to help her because there are children in the home in which we love and want to protect.. the husband is of sound mind and obviously wants out of the marriage and has even asked for a divorce but because of financial reasons neither can. My grandma will not pay for the divorce although she definitely pays for a lot of my cousins expenses. “All to help the children” my grandmother says ... although .. because my cousin lies and steals from my grandmother to pay for her needs and no one else’s it’s often hard to tell where the money will go. My grandmother cannot handle adopting two kids or fighting over custody with my cousin or her husband especially if they do divorce soon. Neither of them can afford to live alone and even though my grandma has money she will run out if this keeps going. I have no idea what to do. This is so hard for my grandmother. She is such a kind woman and it blinds her because she loves those children. She fears my cousin will put the children’s life in danger but we have no proof and despite everything that my cousin does because my grandmother is so kind she would probably not lock her up. Please help us. Give us ideas. There’s just so much to write down. I’m sorry this is short. Thankyou for reading.
My grandmother has been forced to take care of two children because the mother of her children ( my cousin ) is her daughter’s child. The reason my grandmother cannot say no to taking care of them when she makes up excuses not to or simply doesn’t want to is because my cousin has diagnosed bipolar disorder and borderline personality disorder as well as a few others and often threatens to hurt herself or others ( sometimes even taking action ) .. she has been institutionalized many times throughout her life time and has shown to not be able to take care of her children or her home. We just spent 12 hours cleaning her house and it’s still not clean. She cannot keep a stable job and has worked I would guess a total of 30-40 jobs this past year.
Sometimes not even telling us. I do not understand how she keeps getting hired AT ALL but she is a MASTER of manipulation and is ruining my grandmothers life. It is to the point where we spent hours cleaning her home and no one in my family will stop helping her or stand up to my grandmothers attempts to continue to help her because there are children in the home in which we love and want to protect.. the husband is of sound mind and obviously wants out of the marriage and has even asked for a divorce but because of financial reasons neither can. My grandma will not pay for the divorce although she definitely pays for a lot of my cousins expenses. “All to help the children” my grandmother says ... although .. because my cousin lies and steals from my grandmother to pay for her needs and no one else’s it’s often hard to tell where the money will go. My grandmother cannot handle adopting two kids or fighting over custody with my cousin or her husband especially if they do divorce soon. Neither of them can afford to live alone and even though my grandma has money she will run out if this keeps going. I have no idea what to do. This is so hard for my grandmother. She is such a kind woman and it blinds her because she loves those children. She fears my cousin will put the children’s life in danger but we have no proof and despite everything that my cousin does because my grandmother is so kind she would probably not lock her up. Please help us. Give us ideas. There’s just so much to write down. I’m sorry this is short. Thankyou for reading.