hi arkayem,
as far as your attorneys are concerned, i would like to get a clarification. in your first post, you stated that your wife's will created a trust ?
i wanted to verify that this is really true.
if so, then my opinion of your attorney goes way down hill. there is no reason in the world that i can think of to have a will create a trust, other than to keep lawyers involved in your private affairs.
what should have been done was to create an A/B trust. there are 2 main reasons for this. one is the reason you already mentioned - doubling your tax-free amount. i recall the 650 figure. i think it was 625 back when i was initially getting involved.
the second reason is to make sure that the deceased spouse has some say so about where the assets go. that half would typically go to whomever the deceased spouse wanted. because what was happening in some circumstances is the survivor would get re-married, and sometimes the whole estate would end up transferring to the children of the person the survivor married. people that the deceased spouse never knew, thus effectively negating his/her wishes entirely.
and i recall all that language about health, welfare and education of the surviving spouse, etc. i initially wrote my trusts up that way.
but like anything else, i learned from others, and became more knowledgeable.
so what i started doing was making it much simpler. the survivor already received half of the assets in the survivor trust, with which the survivor could do anything they wanted with that half.
i then distributed the income of the family trust to the survivor, as well. but the corpus would end up going to the beneficiaries of the deceased spouse.
because once that phrase of "to enjoy the lifestyle that survivor is used to having" appears in some sort of form like that - it becomes too wishy-washy, for lack of a better term. who is there to say what lifestyle that actually is, etc. the bottom line is that the survivor can pretty much define for himself what his lifestyle used to be, and end up taking whatever he chooses.
if the trustee was someone other than yourself making that decision, you might stand some sort of chance. but when the beneficiary is totally in charge of making that decision, it simply is no longer a trust, in the legal sense. any creditor would be able to attach to those assets in the same way that they could attach to any other of your personal assets.
any attorney telling you differently simply doesnt know what he is talking about. that includes the best attorney in dallas, if he is telling you this.