Court order

[Purplemama]

What is the name of your state? California . I have a court order for my daughter to come home. I have tried the police I have tried the school I have tried the therapist I feel pretty alone in this battle. He is turning her against me discussing everything with her telling her I am crazy she is afraid of me angry at me and repeats everything he says about me. I am thinking file contempt of court but I dont know where I should turn next

 

[adjusterjack]

I am thinking file contempt of court but I dont know where I should turn next

To a lawyer.

 

[CdwJava]

What is the name of your state? California . I have a court order for my daughter to come home. I have tried the police I have tried the school I have tried the therapist I feel pretty alone in this battle. He is turning her against me discussing everything with her telling her I am crazy she is afraid of me angry at me and repeats everything he says about me. I am thinking file contempt of court but I dont know where I should turn next

What do you mean you have a court order for your daughter "to come home"? How old is your daughter? Are all the parties in California?

I am assuming that you mean that your daughter is with her father and he is refusing to return her to you? If so, what do the custody and visitation orders say? What, exactly, is this order "to come home"? If the police, the school, and the therapist (not sure how the therapist plays into this) are all refusing to assist you, then something's missing. If you have an actual court order authorizing you to take custody of the child then it should be a no-brainer.

You should probably consult an attorney who can help you navigate this sea of confusion and give you some direction as to the proper steps.

 

[cbg]

How old is your daughter?

 

[Purplemama]

Yes we are all in cali she is 24 but in my declaration I told the judge when I filed my xparte yes I know she is old enough to chose but I think at her dads house he I'd psychologically abusing with the things is saying and situations he is trying to manipulate. We have been separated for 11 years doing just fine. Starting in February my daughter was in the hospital he manipulated the situation to where I couldn't talk to her by getting me a new a new phone I needed fo months. He changed my number saying"that was the only way to get phone. My daughter had to call and give me a pin so I could call her but she couldn't reach as the nurse could not either. I figured it out and got on top if it. In February he stopped paying many rent that was agreed on in child support that ys also when I started noticing the anger from my daughter towards me she had not been to her dads house in 3cyears her choice and she was on the honor roll all three years well that changed as well she stated at his house 3 times after that and didnt go again till the end of Juneonvthec4th of July dmshe came home very angry and told me I was getting evicted and that she was moving in with her dad that's how I found out I was being evicted. He is doing the parent alienation move and now she is "afraid of me " I never even spanked my kids. my son today me that he had tried to get him to hate me as well. But the judge agrees with me . Today is pick up day and I have to call the police again I called the watch commander and I gave also called the D.A. next move if they dontvhelp necis a contempt of court I guess because I am not sure

 

[cbg]

Excuse me. Did you say your daughter is 24?

If she is over 18, then unless she is mentally incompetent to manage her own affairs and a guardian has been appointed by the court, it's entirely up to her who she sees and who she doesn't.

 

[Purplemama]

No I am sorry my bad typing she is 14

 

[cbg]

That's an entirely different matter, then.

 

[CdwJava]

At 14 she is not old enough to choose unless the court permits her that option (and that is not all that common). The custody and visitation order MUST be followed or the party failing to comply can be sanctioned up to and including criminal charges.

If you do not have an attorney to help you, you need to get one.

 

[Purplemama]

Yes I am goingvto because the cops refused to help me again yesterday now I am still here without my daughter

 

[Zigner]

Why does he pay your rent and why does he provide your phone?

 

[Just Blue]

No I am sorry my bad typing she is 14

Your typing is more than bad...it's illegible. Please read, and edit your post accordingly, before posting it. Thanks...

Yes we are all in cali she is 24 but in my declaration I told the judge when I filed my xparte yes I know she is old enough to chose but I think at her dads house he I'd psychologically abusing with the things is saying and situations he is trying to manipulate. We have been separated for 11 years doing just fine. Starting in February my daughter was in the hospital he manipulated the situation to where I couldn't talk to her by getting me a new a new phone I needed fo months. He changed my number saying"that was the only way to get phone. My daughter had to call and give me a pin so I could call her but she couldn't reach as the nurse could not either. I figured it out and got on top if it. In February he stopped paying many rent that was agreed on in child support that ys also when I started noticing the anger from my daughter towards me she had not been to her dads house in 3cyears her choice and she was on the honor roll all three years well that changed as well she stated at his house 3 times after that and didnt go again till the end of Juneonvthec4th of July dmshe came home very angry and told me I was getting evicted and that she was moving in with her dad that's how I found out I was being evicted. He is doing the parent alienation move and now she is "afraid of me " I never even spanked my kids. my son today me that he had tried to get him to hate me as well. But the judge agrees with me . Today is pick up day and I have to call the police again I called the watch commander and I gave also called the D.A. next move if they dontvhelp necis a contempt of court I guess because I am not sure

 

[Just Blue]

Yes I am goingvto because the cops refused to help me again yesterday now I am still here without my daughter

Your "without" your daughter because you have allowed her to be in charge of visitation. That will inevitably come back and bite you in the bum.

 

[Purplemama]

What away to make me feel like I am most definitely alone in my fight!

 

[Purplemama]

Your "without" your daughter because you have allowed her to be in charge of visitation. That will inevitably come back and bite you in the bum.

I have not let her choose. Ichoose to have her home . He is the one letting her think it is ok to not follow a court order.