Recent content by Sara Abrams

My attorney doesn't practice bankruptcy law. She won't comment on it other than when she said to hold off on it because she thought she could put it all in his name. I already have all the bankruptcy paperwork filled out and ready to go. I see no other options at this point. I will talk to...

I've never heard of having the tax refunds redirected and applied to arrearages. I will look into that. Thank you

The last I spoke with her she said we could get him to put it all in a debt consolidation program, all in his name. I just don't see how that's possible. I love my kids. Even though their father has issues and has caused many issues in my life, I would never call having children with him a...

I apologize if I've hurt anyone's feelings on this forum. But if you don't have advice, there really is no need to continue replying to my posts. My attorney advised me not to file bankruptcy, as she believes we can transfer the debt to him and that my credit would then be repaired. I see...

What is the name of your state? CA During the breakdown of our marriage, my ex-husband went buck-wild with my credit. He took out loans and credit cards in my name- he even took out a life insurance policy on me, forging my signature and naming himself beneficiary. So creepy. Anyway, years...

Thank you all.

Right now my mortgage is $820, which is dirt cheap for California. If I have to move, my only chance would be out of state, and then I'd be far away from family. Very difficult for a single mother. But I take it the answer is, yes, my house can be taken? And if that is the case, then I would...

No thank you.

I bought the house 7 years ago for $123,000. According to the online real estate sites it's worth around $240,000 now, but I have no idea how accurate those are. Ex-husband left me in massive debt after divorce- major identity theft, but none could be proven/ no one cared. Anyway, that is what...

Thank you!

How did my contempt hearing go? He dismissed it. BECAUSE IT WAS BASED ON ILLEGALLY OBTAINED EVIDENCE. I would have torn him to shreds. How will I facilitate visits? How about I volunteer to pay for his gas money to drive 3 states away. Why the F should I pay for a plane ticket? Especially...

Ex husband and I have joint legal, joint physical custody. But: He has had supervised visitation for almost a year due to methamphetamine addiction. We signed stipulation last year that if he could test negative he could gradually regain unsupervised visitation, but he has failed to do so...

I'm a strong woman and a good mother. And I don't frequent boards to kick people when they're down. I got very little advice on here, and the only attorney who chimed in was wholly unfamiliar with CA law. Good grief, if this is how you treat people who've committed such a minor infraction as...

Thank you to those of you who had something rather than snark and judgment to add.

Contempt proceedings require a high burden of proof, which is why they seldom work. Without recording, he has no proof. It's relevant. And shouldn't take any debating as long as the judge has an adequate understanding of two-party consent law.