Neighbor balcony noise

[Zigner]

He's a renter. The office told him to oil the door. He hasn't. Last night he was opening and closing the door at 2-3 a.m.

It's not his job to oil the door.

 

[stealth2]

I can't help but wonder just how "friendly" the note sent to him was.

 

[pac72]

He's a renter. We're owners in the condo

sooo...this mean you are better than him????

 

[Delores 22]

Thanks again, everyone. I appreciate all of your answers!

 

[Delores 22]

To answer some of your questions, owners have more clout. Tenants often have a second step -- going through their landlords, therefore a two step process and *two* venues to deal with. As for the friendly note, it only mentioned how loud the noise was and that we we're a group of people who live here and want to get along in a peaceful, friendly way. As for whose responsibility for the door, it depends. The owner and renter will have to decide, but obviously the renter has an OCD problem and is angry about the noise complaint (hence, banging on someone's door at 4 a.m. We're only asking him not to open and close that dang thunderous door 50 times a day. I'm sure it'll be resolved. It may just take time. I'm sure this isn't the first time he had problems with neighbors.

 

[Zigner]

To answer some of your questions, owners have more clout. Tenants often have a second step -- going through their landlords, therefore a two step process and *two* venues to deal with. As for the friendly note, it only mentioned how loud the noise was and that we we're a group of people who live here and want to get along in a peaceful, friendly way. As for whose responsibility for the door, it depends. The owner and renter will have to decide, but obviously the renter has an OCD problem and is angry about the noise complaint (hence, banging on someone's door at 4 a.m. We're only asking him not to open and close that dang thunderous door 50 times a day. I'm sure it'll be resolved. It may just take time. I'm sure this isn't the first time he had problems with neighbors.

Renter or owner, the guy's not doing anything wrong by opening and closing HIS door. I'm not sure why it's so difficult for you to grasp this.

If I were to receive a note that said that from a neighbor, I would likely take it as a veiled threat. Instead of sending a passive-aggressive note, why don't you offer to do something to help?

 

[Just Blue]

To answer some of your questions, owners have more clout. Tenants often have a second step -- going through their landlords, therefore a two step process and *two* venues to deal with. As for the friendly note, it only mentioned how loud the noise was and that we we're a group of people who live here and want to get along in a peaceful, friendly way. As for whose responsibility for the door, it depends. The owner and renter will have to decide, but obviously the renter has an OCD problem and is angry about the noise complaint (hence, banging on someone's door at 4 a.m. We're only asking him not to open and close that dang thunderous door 50 times a day. I'm sure it'll be resolved. It may just take time. I'm sure this isn't the first time he had problems with neighbors.

You don't know that he knocked on the door. Stop presuming he did this.

 

[Shadowbunny]

.... but obviously the renter has an OCD problem and is angry about the noise complaint (hence, banging on someone's door at 4 a.m. ....

But, Delores -- it's not at all obvious that he has OCD. It's your guess, but it is not an established fact. But let's say for the sake of argument that he does, indeed, suffer from OCD. How about showing some compassion for someone with a mental illness?

And the same thing with your unsubstantiated statement that it was HIM who banged on the door. You have zero proof it was him. You have your assumption, but that's it.

Why not try TALKING to him? Be neighborly. Be kind. You might be surprised at the results.

 

[stealth2]

My point about the note was less WHAT it said, but HOW it was said.

As for your assumption that he has OCD.... would you like him to assume things (and post them all over the Internet) about the old busybody biddies living in his building? Something to think about...

 

[Delores 22]

Thanks again, everyone, for your comments!

 

[not2cleverRed]

To answer some of your questions, owners have more clout. Tenants often have a second step -- going through their landlords, therefore a two step process and *two* venues to deal with. As for the friendly note, it only mentioned how loud the noise was and that we we're a group of people who live here and want to get along in a peaceful, friendly way. As for whose responsibility for the door, it depends. The owner and renter will have to decide, but obviously the renter has an OCD problem and is angry about the noise complaint (hence, banging on someone's door at 4 a.m. We're only asking him not to open and close that dang thunderous door 50 times a day. I'm sure it'll be resolved. It may just take time. I'm sure this isn't the first time he had problems with neighbors.

Maybe if someone were actually *friendly* - you know, show up at his door with a fresh loaf of banana bread and a smile, introducing themselves and welcoming him to the building/community - maybe that would have better signaled a warm, peaceful, and friendly group.

If a couple of you did that, you'd be able to casually comment about the problem door - maybe in a nonaccusatory way. As in, "Boy, the balcony doors are so annoying! I keep on having to [oil it, or whatever you think would help it open/close smoothly]."

Instead, you're all smoldering from afar and gossiping, theorizing about who he is without making any effort to meet him.

Not every problem requires legal action to resolve.

 

[Delores 22]

I wholeheartedly agree.

 

[dawghoused]

He can use the balcony anytime. First, you should talk to him politely instead if complaining the management.

 

[jeleica]

Maybe try talking to him and see if there is anything that could be done (e.g. using the doors more gently/new sliders etc.)