LdiJ
Senior Member
What is the name of your state? Indiana
Here is the situation (not mine, a mother I am advising)
The child is one. The mother is remarried. They separated before the child was born.
There have been some fairly serious medical issues with the child. The child had pnemonia and the doctor ordered that the child wasn't to leave the mother's home (for any reason) for two full weeks. Dad filed contempt because he didn't get his visitation (even though mom offered visitation in her home) and the mother recieved a small fine.
The child also had chronic problems with ear infections and the primary doctor recommended tubes and it was scheduled. (neither parent smokes) The father insisted that the tubes could not be done without his approval..and threatened all the doctors...and then wasn't cooperative about appointments to talk to the doctors. Things were delayed for several months. The child's eardrums ruptured as a result and emergency care was necessary and the child suffered horribly. Dad in turn claimed through his attorney that he never denied necessary medical care. All of the doctors are willing to testify to dad's threats.
In addition, dad appears to be a "control freak" to a great extent. Dumb stuff. For example he threw a "hissy" because he wasn't getting back the socks that he had purchased for his parenting time. Mom bought him a new package of 6 pairs of socks. That wasn't good enough for him he wanted HIS socks. Mom then asked that he re-dress the child in the clothes she sent the child in...that wasn't acceptable either. She then asked that he examine the diaper bag on exchange and to sign a reciept saying that his belongings were returned..again he refused.
I am recommending that this mom file for at least full control over medical issues and possibly full custody.
Does anyone else have any other suggestions?
Here is the situation (not mine, a mother I am advising)
The child is one. The mother is remarried. They separated before the child was born.
There have been some fairly serious medical issues with the child. The child had pnemonia and the doctor ordered that the child wasn't to leave the mother's home (for any reason) for two full weeks. Dad filed contempt because he didn't get his visitation (even though mom offered visitation in her home) and the mother recieved a small fine.
The child also had chronic problems with ear infections and the primary doctor recommended tubes and it was scheduled. (neither parent smokes) The father insisted that the tubes could not be done without his approval..and threatened all the doctors...and then wasn't cooperative about appointments to talk to the doctors. Things were delayed for several months. The child's eardrums ruptured as a result and emergency care was necessary and the child suffered horribly. Dad in turn claimed through his attorney that he never denied necessary medical care. All of the doctors are willing to testify to dad's threats.
In addition, dad appears to be a "control freak" to a great extent. Dumb stuff. For example he threw a "hissy" because he wasn't getting back the socks that he had purchased for his parenting time. Mom bought him a new package of 6 pairs of socks. That wasn't good enough for him he wanted HIS socks. Mom then asked that he re-dress the child in the clothes she sent the child in...that wasn't acceptable either. She then asked that he examine the diaper bag on exchange and to sign a reciept saying that his belongings were returned..again he refused.
I am recommending that this mom file for at least full control over medical issues and possibly full custody.
Does anyone else have any other suggestions?