I need some advice please.....

Not an ear-thrashing please. Does anyone know where I can find info on the Emancipation law in North Dakota? Searches were'nt doing much for me. And also on GSI, Statutory, and Protection Order violations? Is there anything I can do to save my boyfriend from jail/prison because of violation of these laws? It doesn't help when my step father is a cop. I just need some help, I feel like crap. I don't know if this post is clear enough, just ask if there is something missing.... to explain the whole story would take a while...

North Dakota does not have a statute for the emancipation of a minor. Nor is emancipation going to happen in any state without your parent's consent AND your proven ability to completely support yourself; rent, food, transportation, insurance, clothes, taxes, medical care; the whole bit.

If your boyfriend has violated the law there is nothing you can do to get him out of it. He has to take responsibility for his own actions.

It's hard to answer a question with any of the facts.

You may not like what you hear once you get your answers but that doesn't mean the advice is wrong, bad or that anyone is out to flame you.

I am assuming from your quesiton thus far, that you don't like what you find online about the emancipation laws for ND, most likely this is not the answer to your situation anyway and are hoping for someone here to give you a way around them. It also sounds as if your boyfriend has violated some court orders and that you have some responsibility in all of this, thus the way you feel. We are here to give you advice, not everyone here is an expert, so don't get angry with the advice you receive that isn't what you want to hear and dismiss it or be so quick to accept advice that differs from the majority of responses just because it is what you want to hear. The decision is still yours, you bear the responsibility for your decisions in life.

That is why we need information, the facts, your ages, what happened.

Sometimes parents, including step parents have your best interest in mind even if it is not what you want at the time. If your boyfriend respected you, he would not break court orders meant to protect you, trust me, you will feel differently in a few years and wish you had listened.

It's honestly very unlikely that a judge would emancipate you to be with a b/f who has violated protection orders that restricted his contact with you.

I totally understand what you are saying. I am 16, he's 20. To you, 2 years may not mean a thing, but thats how long we've been together. We plan on getting married in 2 years and I have a house for us to live in already. He's never done anything wrong, never hit me or anything like that. We are really fair and honest with each other. Does my testimony mean anything or will I even be subpeonaed when he goes to court? Will I even get a chance to stick up for him since really he's nothing harmful to me? I am the one that calls him and stuff, he never bothers me. But when my step dad put the protection order on him, he said he was stocking me! Don't you have to have a reason to put a protection order on someone? Or can you just walk in there and say I want one and it's done?

My BF wouldn't be my main reason for wanting emancipation anyways, I've been considering it for quite a while, but I guess it can't be done anyways. I also thought maybe I can go to court to try to stay somewhere else, my aunt said she would adopt me, but is that even possible? Can she really do that? Of course it would have to be with my parents consent though right? I can stay somewhere else, I have a job and stuff. I am just afraid that I will take my parents to court and then I will lose and end up going home with them anyways and then they will penalize me because of what I've done.

When it's a matter of an adult spending time with a minor, parents have a lot of leeway. Yes, they can pretty well say "I don't want this guy around my kid" and get a restraining order. If you really care about him and don't want to see him in jail, you'll take the RO seriously and lay off the phone calls. To put it bluntly - if you expect to be treated like an adult, you need to start acting like one. And that includes taking court orders seriously.

stealth2 said:

When it's a matter of an adult spending time with a minor, parents have a lot of leeway. Yes, they can pretty well say "I don't want this guy around my kid" and get a restraining order. If you really care about him and don't want to see him in jail, you'll take the RO seriously and lay off the phone calls. To put it bluntly - if you expect to be treated like an adult, you need to start acting like one. And that includes taking court orders seriously.

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I have decided to just wait until I am 18 to be with him, but theres nothing that can change how I've already ruined his life and that makes me wanna die....

Nah, he's as much at fault.

Yeah, I know.... But I guess I just don't understand what exactly my parents are trying to protect me from, he's the nicest guy. And he takes care of me like no one could possibly understand. I was living with my dad for almost a year and my dad couldn't afford to feed us and clothe us for school. My BF got a job a few towns away working construction and saved up $700 for my clothes and there were times when I would be on the phone with him and I would be so damn hungry I was almost fainting, he would scrape up all the change he could find and bring me something. Once when I was sick, he walked all the way to my house and cooked me chicken noodle soup. The guy has a heart like no other man I know and my parents don't want my to be with him??? There is something wrong here....

Honey, I don't expect you to believe me, but there is something wrong with a 20 year old who wants to be with a 16 year old. The very fact that he is so interested in "taking care of you" is, in itself, indicative that what he is primarily interested in is control. When you are a little bit older and more able to take control of your own life, there's a VERY good chance (and quite a few people on these boards know this from experience) that he won't be quite so nice and will be more interested in making sure you do what HE wants instead of what YOU want.

MAYBE he's one of the exceptions, but the odds are very much against it.

cbg said:

Honey, I don't expect you to believe me, but there is something wrong with a 20 year old who wants to be with a 16 year old. The very fact that he is so interested in "taking care of you" is, in itself, indicative that what he is primarily interested in is control. When you are a little bit older and more able to take control of your own life, there's a VERY good chance (and quite a few people on these boards know this from experience) that he won't be quite so nice and will be more interested in making sure you do what HE wants instead of what YOU want.

MAYBE he's one of the exceptions, but the odds are very much against it.

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I really think he is an exeption. But like you said, you didn't expect me to believe you... ha ha. He never really made a big deal out of taking care of me, he just does it. And I do the same for him, I met him in high school, and he did like me before he was an adult. We talked for a while before we started dating. We have plans of marriage and family. Yeah, I'm a little young for it, but I guess I just like the idea of settling down with him. He was one of those wild "I don't give a rats ass what my chick thinks about me getting drunk and cheating on her" kind of guys. I was the first or second girl he behaved for. We are starting to save out money and starting to get things we will be needing for our home and stuff like that already. I have started a savings account recently and what not too. He says that although I am 3 1/2 years younger, I seem older to him, but to me he just seems younger, ha. It's a weird thing I guess, I don't really think there's anything mentally wrong with him, he just fell in love with me when he was in high school and didn't feel it was necessary for us to break it off when he turned 18 because we were already together.... I don't know. I guess my life is just a little sucky. And that's what I have to live with. My mom says as long as I finish school when I am 18 I don't have to come back but I don't think thats what she really wants. But at the rate things are going, thats likely to happen. All my aunts feel sorry for me and stuff, a few of them want to take me in, but I know that my mother wouldn't go for that.......

BrokenInside said:

but to me he just seems younger, ha.

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Well, uh, yeah. Most guys who can't get chicks their own age have that problem.