poysenivye
Junior Member
With married soldier after his wife cheated first
What is the name of your state?TX - I met my soldier at an Annual Training that happened a year ago. We were just friends because I knew his marital status and the fact that he had 4 kids (one with the uncertainty of whom the actual father was.) A couple days after we met, he talked to his wife who confessed to him that she had cheated on him with 2 men while he was at Basic and AIT. My soldier told her that they were over and moved out of the house and into his parents house. A little bit after that we started seeing each other. He was kind of sluggish to start the divorce because he wanted to let the initial sting of the end of their relationship end. But finally the 60 day waiting period is up and the only thing left to do was sign the divorce decree. I am now 6 months pregnant and we told her because the children began to notice, everything was fine until the ex spouse to be's mother came into the picture. She has taken her daughter to JAG and explained to them that I am pregnant, and they are still married. Both of us are military, and I was just promoted to Sergeant. She hopes that I will be severely punished and that he will be punished too. Now the divorce has come to a stand still. And we are unaware of what we can do to make it so we do not get in trouble for our actions when their relationship was over and she was the one keeping the divorce from happening. She knew about our relationship and said that it was fine and told her kids that they needed to start respecting the new "step mom" in their life. We tried to explain to her the major ramifications of "telling" on us, but she thinks that any punishment we are dealt would be from our bad mistake, hence making her get less child support and medical benefits. She has yet to get a job, and he is still supporting her for the sake of his children, and it has been a year now...what should we do?
What is the name of your state?TX - I met my soldier at an Annual Training that happened a year ago. We were just friends because I knew his marital status and the fact that he had 4 kids (one with the uncertainty of whom the actual father was.) A couple days after we met, he talked to his wife who confessed to him that she had cheated on him with 2 men while he was at Basic and AIT. My soldier told her that they were over and moved out of the house and into his parents house. A little bit after that we started seeing each other. He was kind of sluggish to start the divorce because he wanted to let the initial sting of the end of their relationship end. But finally the 60 day waiting period is up and the only thing left to do was sign the divorce decree. I am now 6 months pregnant and we told her because the children began to notice, everything was fine until the ex spouse to be's mother came into the picture. She has taken her daughter to JAG and explained to them that I am pregnant, and they are still married. Both of us are military, and I was just promoted to Sergeant. She hopes that I will be severely punished and that he will be punished too. Now the divorce has come to a stand still. And we are unaware of what we can do to make it so we do not get in trouble for our actions when their relationship was over and she was the one keeping the divorce from happening. She knew about our relationship and said that it was fine and told her kids that they needed to start respecting the new "step mom" in their life. We tried to explain to her the major ramifications of "telling" on us, but she thinks that any punishment we are dealt would be from our bad mistake, hence making her get less child support and medical benefits. She has yet to get a job, and he is still supporting her for the sake of his children, and it has been a year now...what should we do?
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