Telesis_2000
Junior Member
This posting involves the State of NJ
My wife (of 31 years) and I are the adoptive parents of a 15 year old child suffering from the spectrium of Autism. We have two other birth children at home. Our adoptive son became violent and a threat to both himself, the remainder of the family and others.
As a result, our adoptive son is in a residential placement (in Delaware because NJ had no appropriate facility), and the non-educational portion is paid for by the NJ Div. of Youth & Family Services (DYFS). We have been paying token child support to the State during this placement, but recently received a proposed increase of more than 820% to almost $1200 per month. If this order stands, we are likely to loose our home (on a 1100 sq ft home we have a $2300 a month mortgage), and will be hard pressed to provide for our two other children.
We have recently applied for SSI for our son, but that application is still pending.
I understand that the State is out to recover some of its costs, but in the process appears poised to economically and psycologically destroy me and my family. I don't understand how this is in the best intrest of the children nor society as a whole.
I would like to hear how others have coped with this type of issue since it is beyond my comprehension that my family and I could be the only ones faced with this sort of problem.
Please understand there is no divorce, seperation, or child abuse involved here - its purely a matter of a disabled child in residential placement because he represents a threat to others.
Your comments and or suggestions are very welcome -
Sincerely,
JAR
My wife (of 31 years) and I are the adoptive parents of a 15 year old child suffering from the spectrium of Autism. We have two other birth children at home. Our adoptive son became violent and a threat to both himself, the remainder of the family and others.
As a result, our adoptive son is in a residential placement (in Delaware because NJ had no appropriate facility), and the non-educational portion is paid for by the NJ Div. of Youth & Family Services (DYFS). We have been paying token child support to the State during this placement, but recently received a proposed increase of more than 820% to almost $1200 per month. If this order stands, we are likely to loose our home (on a 1100 sq ft home we have a $2300 a month mortgage), and will be hard pressed to provide for our two other children.
We have recently applied for SSI for our son, but that application is still pending.
I understand that the State is out to recover some of its costs, but in the process appears poised to economically and psycologically destroy me and my family. I don't understand how this is in the best intrest of the children nor society as a whole.
I would like to hear how others have coped with this type of issue since it is beyond my comprehension that my family and I could be the only ones faced with this sort of problem.
Please understand there is no divorce, seperation, or child abuse involved here - its purely a matter of a disabled child in residential placement because he represents a threat to others.
Your comments and or suggestions are very welcome -
Sincerely,
JAR
