12 year old son being investigated

[slovespa]

This is what I know: We are in Alameda County, California

Mother of female student found note while cleaning daughter's room. Daughter expressed distress about following action that happened a week prior: 5 students sent unsupervised to computer lab. A girl grabbed my son's hand in one of her hands, a girl's blowse in the other, and put his hand down her shirt. They both jerked away within seconds.

Mother went to school yesterday with note. Large scene, but mother does not want to press charges. Principal seems to be the only cool head in the bunch, knowing that kids are curious and exploring although inappropriately. However, police are a different story.

School investigation: Principal recommends counseling to my son and suspended for 3 days. However, her superiors could alter recommendations. Teacher who left children unsupervised in big trouble with district.

Police investigation: ongoing, but all witnesses agree to above story (consistent). Even the girl who instigated the action is admitting to doing it. However, officer stated that my son could be arrested and would have to go to station and be processed, fingerprinted, etc. Is it fair that they threatened arrest? We were given ultimatum by officer that he could arrest our son if we did not cooperate. Also, if they were to arrest my son, wouldn't it be necessary to also arrest the girl admitting to grabbing his hand, and putting it in the shirt?

No charges have been made as of yet, but I need a lawyer. Do you know a lawyer in the Alameda area?

 

[CdwJava]

You cannot possibly know the story the police have been told. The police may have a different account of events than you do. In fact, they almost certainly have a different perspective of the events.

If they are threatening an arrest, it might be in your son's best interest for you to engage an attorney on his behalf ... just in case.

 

[gawm]

I really don't think your son is being honest with you. Do not talk about the incident anymore to police and/or school officials unless it is with a lawyer.

 

[stealth2]

If it were MY daughter on the receiving end of the groping, I would sure as heck want the kids involved charged with sexual harassment and/or assault. This is beyond curiosity.

So what are you doing to discipline your son?

 

[justalayman]

If it were MY daughter on the receiving end of the groping, I would sure as heck want the kids involved charged with sexual harassment and/or assault. This is beyond curiosity.

So what are you doing to discipline your son?

while I am not ignorant of how easily the son might have been an active participant, I don't see anything stated here that would give cause for the son to be punished.