15 year old girl pregnant by 23 yr old man

[annointed3]

Hi,

I have a friend in the state of Virginia who recently found out this his daughter is pregnant by a man that is 23 years old. His daughter is very rebellious and refuses to give him any information about the 23 year old guy. When my friend contacted the police in the area where his daughter lives, they told him that the age of consent was 18, but because his daughter was 15, the 23 year old could only be charged with a class 1 misdemeanor (which was not statutory rape, it was something like indecent liberties with a minor). This is the thing that gets me. They will not allow my friend (the father of this child) to press charges against this guy or help him find out who the guy is. They told him that his daughter has to come in to the police station and press charges herself. Being that his daughter is so stubborn, he's feels that it is unlikely that his daughter will talk. My friend and I both feel like this is unfair. Is there anything as a parent that he can do? He has the 23 year old cell phone number (but no name) and he thinks that 23 yr old may be in the Navy. Please provide any advice that you can?

 

[nextwife]

Just curious. So how is it that a 15 year old is allowed unrestricted access to a 23 year old guy?

 

[annointed3]

From what I understand, his daugther would tell him that she was going out with her friends, when she was actually going out with this guy

 

[CdwJava]

Either the laws in VA on the matter are messed up (and it's possible) or the officer(s) they spoke to are flat out wrong. The parents should contact the local prosecutor's office and see if they can get a different interpretation of the law.

In the meantime, little rebel should be confined to her home and lose all her priveleges - TV, phone, computer, radio, etc. But, my guess is that she was a rebel before all this and she was still permitted to go out with her friends and whatever. This is usually NOT a first act of a rebellious or obstinant child. There are acts leading up to it.

- Carl

 

[BelizeBreeze]

Actually Carl, the laws ARE messed up. The statues reference 13 to 15 year-olds and uses the date of birth as the detmining factor. The police were correct in this situation.

 

[CdwJava]

Ugh. CA may have it's problems, but at least our statutes tend to be pretty clear and without all these glaring loopholes. But maybe that's because we have more than a third of the nation's lawyers out here picking them apart all the time.

- Carl

 

[annointed3]

thanks for the advice!!!

 

[lonelyandsad]

23 yr old pervert

ny-if that was my daughter,she would be grounded,and that 23 yr old pervert would have a restraining order on him,and if he came near her,his ass would be in jail.

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

My response:

Would one of you good people PLEASE write to this woman:

https://forum.freeadvice.com/showthread.php?t=204644

She's in practically the same predicament herself, but I can't stop laughing long enough to give her a serious answer. Every time I try, I just bust out laughing!!

IAAL