The porn is on YOUR computer and was sent to an email account that you acknowledge accessing. I would suggest a consultation with an attorney, not with the police.
Thank you Zigner, that makes sense.
To tie some of my posts together, GS was diagnosed as oppositional a few weeks after we got custody at 5.5. We know his mother & her mother, the boy gets it genetically and then having 2 abusive stepmothers didn't help. We had him about half his life between 19 months and 5.5, after the final abuse by the last stepmother he was very much changed. I kept detailed notes about his behavior, how we addressed it, what steps we took to address it. I recognized attachment issues early. At 19 months he never cried for his mother, never asked about her or his 6 month old half-siblings. He was attached to his dad, but dad's choices had negative effects over the years. I had forgotten how oppositional he was until I reviewed my notes.
We thought he was doing well, an excellent student, musician, active & a leader in various clubs, on track to start college classes while in high school, etc; that's why I had forgotten what he had been like. He lied. He lied about us, he lied to us, he tried to manipulate everyone. We held steady until he found an inexperienced caseworker who believed his lies and took him. He was rebelling against our parenting. We never allowed porn, or violent 'shooter' and sex-filled video games. We allowed him to go to parties, if I met the parents and got confirmation they'd be supervised. He went to football games and other fun things. He still lied.
He now lives with his mother's aunt & her husband. They allow the porn & video games. He quit all activities, except making out with the girlfriend in the lunchroom. He got a 2 day suspension for the way he talked to the principal, not for the PDA. Great-uncle said he was just seeking nurturing. Great-uncle denies his activity on the net, although great-aunt told the psychiatrist. He's missed all or part of 17 days of school this year, plus 2 days of field trips. He's failing 2 classes, D's in 2 more.
CPS has not and will not be charging us with anything, but they won't return him because he's jerking them around. Why would he want to come home when he gets to have the girlfriend stay overnight, play with guns, play on the net, drink his cousins beer, play 17+ rated video games? He knows that will not be allowed here.
When you read about some of these mass school shooters you see a kid that was oppositional, became isolated in teen years, stayed in their rooms playing the violent video games, and played with guns. This is what our GS has become in his great-aunts care. The great-aunt & her husband have encouraged him to call his parents by their first names and be extremely hateful toward them. He no longer sees them, his half siblings, another set of grandparents that adopted 2 of his maternal half-siblings. We finally got to see him in a 'family counseling' session CPS allowed 14 months after they took him. That was in Dec. We saw him again this week at a CPS review where he raged and called us by first names, too; also encouraged by the great-aunt & her husband.
Our plan is to withdraw from seeking reunification, CPS has already filed to place legal custody with the great-aunt & her husband. Then our son will file to get visitation. He was supposed to have visitation now, but CPS says they can't make him go and the great-aunt & her husband say they aren't going to make him go to visitation. Our son will be able to file in a different county once CPS is out of the way, since they live in an adjoining county. We feel obligated to try to provide moral guidance, but that's almost impossible now. When he was placed where he is now we weren't informed about it until it was a done deal. The GAL said they raised 2 good kids, they could handle him. The GAL didn't know they had 3 kids and the third is a POS, and by all accounts our grandson is following in that path.
PS, hard-core porn on the net is NOT your father's Playboy! Even the Anime porn is NOT your father's Playboy. The bondage and graphic violence scenes are destructive to most people, and especially to a teenager forming relationships.
And that's the rest of the story.