17 in tx needs help

[Jess_23_06]

Im 17 years old and from Texas. I moved out of my house about a month ago and at first moved in with my boyfriend who is also 17 and lives in the town next to me, after my parents realized I wasn't coming home they notified the school that I was living in another district. To finish my school year out I moved in with my best friend 2 weeks ago I'm still living there but her parents need me to figure out how long im going to be staying there. The reason I wont go home is because my dad emotionally abuses me - some teenagers just say these things to get attention but I told the sherriff word for word what my dad has said to me in the past and he agreed i should leave. My dad has never physically abused me or my mom but she wont stand up to him in fear that she will ruin her marrige. Im currently working on getting a job and I realize that being a junior in high school I most likely wont have enough money to support myself 100% which is what I would have to do in order to get emancipated - although the school year is almost over and I could get a fulltime job and next year as a senior I will have only 2 classes and be enrolled in the work program at my school... I've read many of the post asking if emacipation is the smart thing to do and if they could pull it off but to me they are taking the easy way out. Emancipation is the last choice I would make so I guess my question is what are my other options? I need to find a solution soon because my best friends parents said this can only be temporary until I find another safe place away from home. Help please!!

 

[Wolflmg]

You might be able to get it. But you are going to have to tell the court why they should grant you your request, meaning you will have to tell them about your father.
My advice get in touch with your mom and talk things over with her, he may not be hitting her now, but he could start. Stuff like this just doesn't go away, your family needs help.

 

[Jess_23_06]

Thank you for your reply as a matter of face I now have a job working as a part time cashier at albertsons and as soon as the school year is over i will begin working full timel. I am planning on meeting with an attorney as soon as I save up some more money and as i understand it i will need to prove that even though i have a place to stay without paying rent and bills that if i had to leave there that i would be able to pay bills for my own place. I have called my mom and she is scared to do anything about my dad she just keeps saying he loves us he loves us. I honestly never think he would physically abuse her but I couldn't and according to the sherriff dont have to take the emotional abuse. Any further information would be appreciated

 

[stealth2]

You would need to prove to a judge that you would be able to fully support yourself - housing, utilities, transportation, clothing, food, entertainment, etc. w/o help from anyone (in the form of a room at a friend's, etc) before a judge would even consider emancipating you.

 

[Jess_23_06]

Okay now I have a job and my plans are the same to begin full-time once the summer begins. Me and my mom are getting along alot better now and she recentlly told me she just wanted me to be happy and if I was truely happy away from home that she was fine with my living arrangements. I have been talking to some people and have decided that maybe it would be a good idea to talk to her about her giving up parental custody of me. Truth is she has no say in what I am doing with my life right now anyway. I want to have a relationship with her but I find it hard to spend time with her unless my father isn't around. Im looking for any other option other than emancipation bc I dont want to spend all of that money to get it done and then not even be sure it will be granted. Anymore advice would be appreciated. Im really running low on options and I want to be able to say I tried everything first.

Thanks,
Jessie

 

[Wolflmg]

Okay now I have a job and my plans are the same to begin full-time once the summer begins. Me and my mom are getting along alot better now and she recentlly told me she just wanted me to be happy and if I was truely happy away from home that she was fine with my living arrangements. I have been talking to some people and have decided that maybe it would be a good idea to talk to her about her giving up parental custody of me. Truth is she has no say in what I am doing with my life right now anyway. I want to have a relationship with her but I find it hard to spend time with her unless my father isn't around. Im looking for any other option other than emancipation bc I dont want to spend all of that money to get it done and then not even be sure it will be granted. Anymore advice would be appreciated. Im really running low on options and I want to be able to say I tried everything first.

Thanks,
Jessie

Then your only other options is wait till your next birthday, when you turn 18 and will be an adult.
But I also when you gather up the strength talk to your mom about your father and the way he treats you and her.

 

[Jess_23_06]

I was talking to a friends mom and they had this idea: since I have a part time job and I know the salary with that isn't enough to get emacipated maybe I should get my GED so that after the summer is over I can continue to work full time and eventually save the money I need to prove to a judge that I can support myself 100% I've already decided that once i get the money I am going to buy a car, get insurance of course and then there are some duplexes where I live where all utilities are included in your monthly payment and at full time salary I should be able to make all of those payments... whether or not I get emacipated couldn't I still carry out my plans? The sherriff gave me permission to move out and if possible I wanna be on my own instead of depending on a friends parents or even my boyfriend and his mother. I wanna support myself.

 

[Jess_23_06]

Okay I need some more advice since i moved in with my best friend

okay since i moved in with my best friend my parents had agreed to give her mom money every week for lunch and other things i might need so that she wouldn't have to pay for it. I guess i upset my mom and she quit giving her money i need to know if even thought i have the intention to be emancipated if as my gaurdians they have to support me until im 18 or they are no longer responsible for me - the only reason this bothers me is it's not fair to my best friends mom to have to support me once im on my own it wont bother me but AFTER ALL IT IS THEIR RESPONSIBILITY RIGHT?!? PLEASE HELP

 

[Happy Trails]

okay since i moved in with my best friend my parents had agreed to give her mom money every week for lunch and other things i might need so that she wouldn't have to pay for it. I guess i upset my mom and she quit giving her money i need to know if even thought i have the intention to be emancipated if as my gaurdians they have to support me until im 18 or they are no longer responsible for me - the only reason this bothers me is it's not fair to my best friends mom to have to support me once im on my own it wont bother me but AFTER ALL IT IS THEIR RESPONSIBILITY RIGHT?!? PLEASE HELP

Either you want to be your parents responsibility or you don't. You can't have it both ways.

If you moved back in with your parents then they would be taking the responsibility for you, right? You are the one choosing to be out of the household.

And it should bother you that you are mooching off your friend's mom.

I would suggest you and your parents seek counseling.