17 year old, leave one parent for the other

[jackbrown]

I live in Louisiana and Im currently 16 yrs old. I live with my mom and stepdad who have custody of me but they make me extremely unhappy, my life is just plain horrible with them. My question is, once im 17, will I be able to move in with my dad (who lives in a different country) and leave my current home? A poiliceman told me that once im 17 i will be able to leave legally whether my mom and stepdad agree or not. Is this true? Please somebody find this out, it is extremely important to me, especially since my mom confiscated my passport, social sercurity card, permanent residence card, permit, etc. Thank you

 

[jackbrown]

anyone? here are your 10 characters, buddy.

 

[ndnicks]

Y ou probably need to describe why they 'make your life horrible' to get a better answer. That would factor into whether ornot they could make you return.

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

I live in Louisiana and Im currently 16 yrs old. I live with my mom and stepdad who have custody of me but they make me extremely unhappy, my life is just plain horrible with them. My question is, once im 17, will I be able to move in with my dad (who lives in a different country) and leave my current home? That depends on the custody orders. The officer was wrong, you cannot choose who you want to live with. If you desire to live with your dad and your mother does not agree, then Dad needs to take this back to court for custody. Sorry you are un happy, but most kids your age are. Do you think your mother is happy with her baby girl?

 

[jackbrown]

It seems fishy that all the police officers keep saying the age is 17, while strangers on the internet keep saying they're wrong. If the police believe Im free to leave at 17, then who will keep me from leaving? Only the police have the power to bring me back to my parents. I dont think that at age 17 i should have a good reason to switch parents. Im old enough to make my own choices and not have to be molested to be able to spend time with my dad.
They make my life miserable because they have totally different views about every little aspect of life, and are extremely religious, unlike me, yet they expect me to have the same moral standards as they do.

 

[ndnicks]

I think it depends. here in texas when i was in highschool, a friend of mine who turned 17 moved out of her parents house and in with a friend and her mother. the constable allowed it because her father had a history of verbal abusiveness but had never hit her, but I think it depends on the person you speak to.

 

[stealth2]

It seems fishy that all the police officers keep saying the age is 17, while strangers on the internet keep saying they're wrong. If the police believe Im free to leave at 17, then who will keep me from leaving? Only the police have the power to bring me back to my parents. I dont think that at age 17 i should have a good reason to switch parents. Im old enough to make my own choices and not have to be molested to be able to spend time with my dad.
They make my life miserable because they have totally different views about every little aspect of life, and are extremely religious, unlike me, yet they expect me to have the same moral standards as they do.

Actually, you're wrong. Your mother could ask the court that gave her custody to have you ordered returned by the police - and then the cops have no choice but to do so. She could also have you designated as a Person In Need of Supervision and placed into the state's custody.

Believe it or not, having different views than your parents (what teen doesn't) is not reason enough for you to be allowed to choose where you live.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

If you want to live with your father, he has to pay money, petition the court, have a hearing, give the judge a good reason to change custody to him. Since you admit that your mother and stepfather are moral people and expect you to follow their rules, do you really expect the judge to order you into your father's custody so you can break the law or disobey him? You expect your father to allow you to do as you please, do you think that your father will want that responsibility for you? Do you know how long that will take?

After you are 18 and break the rules of society, they will put you in jail where you will be asked to obey the same rules you mother asks of you now.

 

[jackbrown]

You retard. My parents rules have nothing to do with breaking laws. Its basic stuff such as not being able to date or go to parties. I wont turn into a criminal when I live with my dad.

I know my dad perfectly well.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

You retard. My parents rules have nothing to do with breaking laws. Its basic stuff such as not being able to date or go to parties. I wont turn into a criminal when I live with my dad.

I know my dad perfectly well.

Well who is acting like a retard YOU!
If you read on this forum you will see countless posts about kids your age having babies or getting DUI's & MIP, one today only showed up at the party, the police took his name at the door. Don't worry, we all know what goes on at those parties. I have known children your age, Killed at some of those parties.
No judge is going to order a change in custody so you can go party, nor will your father go to the trouble.

Grow up.

 

[stealth2]

Not being allowed to date or go to parties is not cause to change custody. Sorry, Charlie.

 

[jackbrown]

Dont stereotype me. You think all teenagers are the same, well youre wrong. I know you probably heard about teen muderers, rapists, drug addicts. What of it? I dont want my life to be screwed up because you people put me in a box categorized rebellious teenager. In my household i have no freedom whatsoever, and no judge has the right to assume its a small matter when he's never been in my shoes. If I lived with my dad, the change of custody to my mom would be the same pain in the behind, so it doesnt make much sense that they feel so strongly about staying with one parent or the other. They dont know my parents, they dont know me. I should have the right to choose. Besides, I know my dad would do anything within his power for me to live with him.
My parents here didnt let me buy a guitar because it had one semisharp spike, and the tone of blue of the guitar's color was too "dark" for their taste. Thats not the life I want for me. Im sure none of you gives a damn but itd be different if you felt controlled in every area of life.
Im not allowed to visit my dad, or talk to him. Obviously I miss him, and we actually get along and love each other. If the police and court cant understand that, theres something very wrong with the system.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

Do you think we were hatched as full grown adults and never were a teenager? Ever heard of Woodstalk, Altamont, People's park......... OH we know alright.
BTW the young man who was killed at a sweet 16 party, the host's father was retired cop, teens came from another town to get revenge against a new boyfriend, they got drunk and a group of 4 attacked someone leaving the party, his brother, a local sports star, intervened, was stabed in the heart and was DOA. So it can happen, no one is immune.
Spike on a guitar??? A cello maybe, it stands on a spike. NO, you don't need a guitar with a spike.
Your parents may give you some slack if you give them some respect, it works wonders.

 

[jackbrown]

You're COMPLETELY missing my point. It's almost as if you hadnt read my previous post at all. I just finished saying that Im sure you know and have heard of many cases where teenagers break the law and do horrible stuff blah blah blah. I... am not a criminal, and i will not get labeled so because I would rather live with my dad than my mom. How dare you judge which parents is right for me and assume why I want to live with my dad.
On the guitar thing youre missing my point also. I dont need a guitar with a spike. The point is, I dont want to live with people that believe that a certain guitar's shape is sinful. Or that a song is diabolical because of lyrics such as "youre always in my heart", given that the only one thats supposed to be in your heart is jesus. Or that Spiderman 2 is satanic. I dont need to watch spider man 2, but I do not agree, and refuse to live with those standards.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

You have no respect, you called me a retard, you don't have the right.
No you don't need a guitar with a spike and you wanted it because you knew you would push their buttons.
Grow up.
You have less than a year.
If your father wants custody of you, he will petition the court, until then, make the best on your situation, things could be a lot worse, really!