2 kids-2 moms

[Druss]

I reside in Ma. I have a son by one woman, and have support agreed upon. going through a divorce now and setteling support issues, I will be paying out additional monies. I love and wil support my children in every way. Yet, due to new seperation, i will now be paying what i feel is way too much. I will also be paying more than $50 a week more to one, I love my children equally. Can I go back and renegotiate? What do I need to file? Should I not sign my divorce papers until this is settled?

 

[789okforme]

NC- My boyfriend did not get everything settled in the divorce papers and the ex will not go to mediation and have things settled. So things between them in regards to the kids are up in the air to an extent. Everytime he tries to renegotiate an agreement with her she wants him to give her more and more money. So, my advice to you is the try to get things settled in the divorce papers. The amount of days you see your children will reflect how much you pay.

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[Druss]

I am just afraid that if papers are signed, I will be held to the amount. Currently almost 75%! of my pay is going towards child support, that just not seem right.

 

[789okforme]

Who drew up the papers? Do the children live with their mothers full time? In my state there is a worksheet that the lawyer fills out to determine what portion of child support will be paid to who. If you do not have a lawyer get one. My boyfriend let his ex get a lawyer to draw up the papers and they, of course, were in her favor.

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[Druss]

I believe the problem is that support to one was arranged, now the need to pay to another. Ma. has one of the toughest and highest paid support laws. I do not think that EACH should be intitled to the same pecentage, but maybe a slightly higher percentage to be split between the two.

 

[BugHogan]

They can't legally garnish 75% of your pay, even for child support. By law I believe it's only 55%, and in some states it's lower than that. There may be a way they can get 65% if you owe arrearages, but no more than that. You'd be well-served to bring this up in court now rather than letting it go.

 

[Druss]

Salary is not garnished, I write a check every week, have never missed a payment. I love my children, and will support them fully. I am just unsure of how to have it adjusted before I file final papers. I live on next to nothing, if I have to sacrifice my whole life for them I will, but I do need a few rthings, such as a car and a roof over my head... hey, maybe even dinner once in a while.