Just to answer some of your questions about "mary":
1. Do you even have any eduction In law???
No, I don't think Mary Hartman (aka dj, aka dj1) has any education of any kind. Nonetheless, he doesn't seem to mind looking like a jackass.
2. Do you ever actually give honest helpful legal advice or do just wait for someone like me that you can pounce upon to somehow make your hollier than thou exsistance seem like more than it obvioulsly is????
Answer is yes, he does one of those two options. He occasionally gives legal advice, but it is rarely the right thing. He seems to have gotten whatever he knows from reading about it, rather than by actually living it, but then lots of attorneys are that way too. He is unable to grasp that there is a world outside of New York, and that other sovereign states have a right to make laws their own way. Sometimes, their laws are even better than New York's, but this guy cannot accept it. He has a need to put other people down probably as a way of making himself feel superior. I think that he is genuinely mentally ill.
3. I once told a woman who was using the excuse that her children were suffering as a way of demanding things from her landlord, and I told her that keeping her children from suffering was her responsibility to provide for her children, and that she should leave if her children were suffering. Since then, dj has been copying my response, but as usual, he doesn't get the details right. He doesn't know where the responsibility starts and ends, and he hasn't any idea what parents owe to their children. It is so obvious that he doesn't have children of his own, or has ever had any responsibility in life equal to that challenge.
4. He isn't able to tell you simply that you cannot allocate security deposit to rent without the landlord's consent. In fact, he has used the same argument that you did, to advise other people, telling them to demand their rights, sue, go to the police and have them arrested, etc. He is all talk and no action, and I don't think that he has any actual experience to draw on.
5. He has an incredible deep-seated resentment of landlords. He has absolutely no understanding of how the law splits up the responsibilites between landlord and tenant. To an educated man, it is clear that he has had one or more experiences that have hurt him, and he puts on this facade and exhorts other people to take such extreme actions against their landlord (which are actually to their own detriment) as a way of getting back at whoever hurt him.
6. Don't forget that child support is not meant to be used for car payments and car insurance.
