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Thanks everyone for the advice! I actually checked out the child support calculator and I put him as making $8 an hour which I know he could make. It said that he would have to give me $403 a month. I am going to call social services on my lunch break and see if I can talk to someone. Then I will also call my son's father and see if we can work something out. I believe that the last time I talked to him he said something about receiving unemployment. Not sure though.
 


GrowUp!

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workingmom said:
Thanks everyone for the advice! I actually checked out the child support calculator and I put him as making $8 an hour which I know he could make. It said that he would have to give me $403 a month. I am going to call social services on my lunch break and see if I can talk to someone. Then I will also call my son's father and see if we can work something out. I believe that the last time I talked to him he said something about receiving unemployment. Not sure though.
Keep in mind that number is a VERY ROUGH ESTIMATE -- at best. There are several factors that come into play in factoring each parent's financial obligation.
 

stealth2

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And I'd expect Dad to suggest that he watch the child rather than shell out $600/mo in daycare.
 

waitinMd

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stealth2 said:
And I'd expect Dad to suggest that he watch the child rather than shell out $600/mo in daycare.
That is why I suggested being amicable if possible. I've seen several posts that have stated their ex's want more visitation just for the sole purpose of not paying child support or daycare.
 

fairisfair

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waitinMd said:
Most people have an idea of their ex's salary. If not, you can use the calculator and base it on minimum wage. (I doubt he was working for minimum wage!)

Wouldn't he now be considered to be voluntarily impoverishing himself?

Sometimes it is easier to show the other party what the court may award for child support and give them the chance to make amends.

I was not ordered to pay support since we have 50/50, but I know my ex doesn't make enough so I buy supplies for the child. My ex gf lets me know if she needs formula or diapers.

If you can keep it amicable, why not? My case is horrible, but I don't let that cloud the needs of my daughter, hopefully he will feel the same.
Oh, I fully agree that she needs to file through the court for child support, I just don't think that the calculator is going to help her in this case. The court will decide the amount of income for the NCP. She would only be guessing. As for your situation, you ex's girfriend let's you know if your child needs formula or diapers? are you not aware on your own that your child needs these things?
 
Well, back in the beginning of our split, we had issues about custody and that we should have his mom watch Bobby instead of day care, but I would tell him that was impossible because we lived 30 minutes away from each other and I worked 30 minutes from where I lived, so my trip would be extended a lot. We fought over that for a bit, but then he said he realized how much he enjoyed the single life and only having his son EOW, so to go ahead with things. I don't see him changing his mind too much over this, because if he didn't want to help with day care that would mean him having our son all the time.

I have talked to him and he has agreed to pay half of the day care costs, but is not sure when he'll be able to start paying! Oh boy..
 

fairisfair

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workingmom said:
Well, back in the beginning of our split, we had issues about custody and that we should have his mom watch Bobby instead of day care, but I would tell him that was impossible because we lived 30 minutes away from each other and I worked 30 minutes from where I lived, so my trip would be extended a lot. We fought over that for a bit, but then he said he realized how much he enjoyed the single life and only having his son EOW, so to go ahead with things. I don't see him changing his mind too much over this, because if he didn't want to help with day care that would mean him having our son all the time.

I have talked to him and he has agreed to pay half of the day care costs, but is not sure when he'll be able to start paying! Oh boy..
Yeah, well tell him to make it snappy. There has to be a burger waiting to be flipped somewhere.;)
 

fairisfair

Senior Member
workingmom said:
Yeah, well tell him to make it snappy. There has to be a burger waiting to be flipped somewhere.
hehe, that is funny, but oh so true. He's to good to work at a burger place though! (At least that's what he thinks!)
Get a court order, File contempt, and he can tell it to the judge. Or get a hoity toity job like concierge at the county jail!
 
I think I might just do that, I figured he has had about 2 months to find a job and I will give him one more week, if he hasn't gotten off his lazy a$$, I will file for support!
 

Ohiogal

Queen Bee
workingmom said:
I think I might just do that, I figured he has had about 2 months to find a job and I will give him one more week, if he hasn't gotten off his lazy a$$, I will file for support!
YOu should file anyway for support.
 

waitinMd

Member
fairisfair said:
Oh, I fully agree that she needs to file through the court for child support, I just don't think that the calculator is going to help her in this case. The court will decide the amount of income for the NCP. She would only be guessing. As for your situation, you ex's girfriend let's you know if your child needs formula or diapers? are you not aware on your own that your child needs these things?
Actually, they print the forms out from that site and fill them in with you before you go into courtroom. At least in my county they did, and I live in Maryland. She can file for child support and cash assistance. They will give her cash assistance in Maryland until they can get support out of him. I think he may have to pay the Cash Assistance back though:confused:

As for me, Nope I don't always know when she needs things. Sometimes her family buys her bulk items at the wholesale place, so she tells me she is swamped with diapers but she needs detergent, or baby wipes. I always give her formula every time we exchange my daughter.
 
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