A few questions on grandparents and a sociopathic ex

[Silverplum]

You know what was offensive about your nasty little post...because you edited out most of it.

Good thing I saved it in my quote.

You are showing a mean, name-calling hatefulness for those that are (slightly) different from you -- and even if that person is ill, you are filled with hate. You are showing a complete raging hate for your X, the father of your child.

I think you are beyond rude and unkind.

@Silverplum: Wow, please tell me what is offensive about that? Unless you've been diagnosed as a sociopath yourself I don't see what's so upsetting. If you bothered to read this thread at all you'd see that I clearly care about my son. Please, to completely understand this entire situation I'd have to write a book and I walked in here knowing that everyone has preformulated opinions about women that dislike their exes or want to restrict visitation. God forbid it's for a logical reason!! How is it ok to let a child go with a stranger that neglects them and doesn't care about their health and treats the mother this way? But golly one word that isn't socially acceptable and I must be the one in the wrong! Sorry but sometimes people are just plain nuts.

 

[flamesofmoe]

Yes I edited it so it would make more sense. You clearly have no answer for me about what was so offensive. That's sad. Please, explain it for the rest of the class. Otherwise, that's just called flaming or trolling.

 

[flamesofmoe]

And the very second you obtain your Psychiatry degree, you'll be qualified to wantonly throw around such terms.

Thank God for freedom of speech. I have a degree in mild to moderate developmental delays. What do you have that qualifies you to tell people what they can or can't say? It's not like that was defamation. "SOMETIMES PEOPLE".

But hey thanks for the helpful post.

 

[Proserpina]

Yes I edited it so it would make more sense. You clearly have no answer for me about what was so offensive. That's sad. Please, explain it for the rest of the class. Otherwise, that's just called flaming or trolling.

Google "defamation of character".

(to begin with)

 

[Proserpina]

Thank God for freedom of speech. I have a degree in mild to moderate developmental delays. What do you have that qualifies you to tell people what they can or can't say? It's not like that was defamation. "SOME PEOPLE".

On the contrary. You are making defamatory statements with no basis in the truth.

Look, if you want to accuse your ex of being a sociopath when there is NO such diagnosis, be my guest. But you must also realize that there may be consequences in doing so.

 

[flamesofmoe]

Have you bothered to read this thread all the way through, or just the points you're interested in Prosperina? Everything I've said about my ex has been the truth, and everything I claim I can back up with recordings, emails, and pictures. My lawyer told me to "do the right thing" so I refuse to lie. So far that's worked for me.

I asked in the first post how to get information on proving what I suspect. But people seem more interested in pointing out petty things or making little comments like "you can't say that!" That's not helpful. As I said in a previous post, I have never once said that he's sociopathic in court. But if he were to, say, read this and claim it was about him and sue me for, what., libel because it's in writing? Then what would happen? I'd gladly say "Hey, have him evaluated and scanned and prove me wrong!"

I'll let this go a couple more posts but it looks like nothing helpful is going to come out of this except people trying to prove personal issues =/

 

[Nevergrowup]

I think you are barking up the wrong tree, pursuing the Sociopath angle. It makes you sound nutty, yourself. You can't prove it, and it is highly unlikely that during a custody despute your ex will be diagnosed as being a sociopath. You should really stop with that.

What you need to do is to continue to document, and when he returns from deployment and wants to immediately return to the old court orders, you file for different visitation. It will have to change anyway, because he moved, so you need long distance parenting plans in place, unless he wants to visit in your home town. You are under no obligation to his parents or his wife, and if they try to contact you ignore it.

If your ex wants to visit onilne or speak with your son, by all means, encourage it. Talk positively about him to your son, who is just a little guy and needs to know that his dad loves him...his father is deployed, just not choosing to see him currently. Don't dwell on the past so much...just document and move on.

All of this stuff can't be dealt with while he is gone anyway. If he starts threatening or fighting with you, cut off the conversation...don't engage. Keep it professional, and don't get emotional yourself.

 

[Proserpina]

It goes to credibility, OP.

Really - it's that simple. If you ever want to prevail in any legal matter you really need to make sure that you are at least a credible witness.

Believe it or not, we're actually trying to HELP you with this.

 

[ProSeDadinMD]

... I have a degree in mild to moderate developmental delays. ...

I'm sure there's a diploma for that...

 

[flamesofmoe]

Then I apologize, Prosperina. People with legal backgrounds tend to say things that sound inflammatory. I also take offense very easily, especially when it comes to my son and being a mom. I hope that's understandable considering what's happened and the unfairness of it. I have learned over the last 3 years that I have to play devil's advocate for myself but it seems like no one is on my side, least of all the court. Sure, they're supposed to be on the child's side but they've proven to me that it's all a networking game of who you know, which is disgusting (and this is coming from someone with sole custody).

@Nevergrowup: True. But it's sad to think that I'd have to wait for something bad to happen to my little one before the court (or police) looks into my concerns.

You said that it can't be dealt with while he's gone but his wife is currently representing him in court (for instance, when I needed to have support altered).

 

[ProSeDadinMD]

You said that it can't be dealt with while he's gone but his wife is currently representing him in court (for instance, when I needed to have support altered).

Unless she is a licensed attorney, or is specifically named as a party to the case, that is not happening...

 

[flamesofmoe]

I'm sure there's a diploma for that...

lol I love people like you.

It's actually a MA, but I didn't want to sound pretentious, just prove a point. I did mention I'm a teacher, genius. All teachers in Ohio need a MA within 5 years of certification. Congratulations on making yourself look, well, just fantastic.

I present to you, MAEd in Mild to Moderate Developmental Delays/Educational Needs. My God, have you ever even heard of special ed or intervention specialist? But I'm SURE there couldn't possibly be a diploma for THAT right?

B-W: MAEd in Mild/Moderate Educational Needs

 

[flamesofmoe]

Unless she is a licensed attorney, or is specifically named as a party to the case, that is not happening...

I think she has power of attorney? I know his mother did as well. I'm not a lawyer, I don't know how that works, but she signs his name on everything and hers next to it.

 

[Proserpina]

Then I apologize, Prosperina. People with legal backgrounds tend to say things that sound inflammatory. I also take offense very easily, especially when it comes to my son and being a mom. I hope that's understandable considering what's happened and the unfairness of it. I have learned over the last 3 years that I have to play devil's advocate for myself but it seems like no one is on my side, least of all the court. Sure, they're supposed to be on the child's side but they've proven to me that it's all a networking game of who you know, which is disgusting (and this is coming from someone with sole custody).

Oh trust me, every parent who posts here - myself included - understands the frustration of a custody battle. It is SO hard trying to keep emotion out of things and stick to the facts. So, so hard. But it's absolutely necessary - even when you're practically spitting blood out of sheer anger and helplessness.

I do recommend something though which doesn't fall into legal advice at all.

Spend some time here reading through the Family Law archives. Even just going back a year or two. Your eyes will be opened and your jaw will drop at the things which can happen in court!

@Nevergrowup: True. But it's sad to think that I'd have to wait for something bad to happen to my little one before the court (or police) looks into my concerns.

You said that it can't be dealt with while he's gone but his wife is currently representing him in court (for instance, when I needed to have support altered).

Really?! That's unusual...is she an attorney?

 

[Silverplum]

I don't owe your snotty self a detailed explanation of why and how you are offensive. Read your junk. Any self-aware, degreed person ought to know what's the matter with self-righteously mocking the mentally ill.

"Cuckoo for cocoa puffs," indeed. That, among other rude remarks, is how you view -- and categorize -- the mentally ill.

Of course, your "degree" is not in psychiatry. Or medicine. Thank GOD for small favors.