A few questions on grandparents and a sociopathic ex

[>Charlotte<]

So you think that because you have a masters in education that you are now able to diagnose a complicated psychological disorder?

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[AkersTile]

I'm not sure that harping on her calling her ex a sociopath is necessary. She has been told try to go that path in court could hurt her more than help her. Many many people think and call their exes all sorts of names.

Yeah, but there is a big difference between saying "My ex is a complete looney tune" and saying "my ex is a sociopath/psychopath". The first, while childish, isn't defamatory. The second is completely defamatory and can very easily get her in trouble if he chooses to pursue it.

When you are on an internet site, choose your words carefully. You never know when the other party may be reading what you just wrote. How many times have we had both parties of a case on here posting different threads? (Yes including my Hubby's Ex)

 

[>Charlotte<]

The first, while childish, isn't defamatory. The second is completely defamatory and can very easily get her in trouble if he chooses to pursue it.

She's not going to get in trouble for anonymously calling her anonymous ex a sociopath. We have no idea who her ex is. We don't even know who she is.

 

[AkersTile]

She's not going to get in trouble for anonymously calling her anonymous ex a sociopath. We have no idea who her ex is. We don't even know who she is.

If ex chooses to pursue it, she could get in trouble. It would cost a lot, but he could get the ISP traced back to her to prove that she was saying it. It happened recently with the Topix forums (in Tx I believe).

Although she isn't saying his name so you are probably right about that. Topix actually had the people's names that were being talked about.

Its still a fine line that I wouldn't want to play anywhere near. Better to be safe than sorry. You can think your ex is a psychopath, just don't say it and don't write it.

 

[Ohiogal]

I'm not sure that harping on her calling her ex a sociopath is necessary. She has been told try to go that path in court could hurt her more than help her. Many many people think and call their exes all sorts of names.

The problem is she believes he should be diagnosed as such and yet did not think that last year -- in a year she believes he became a sociopath and her history with him proves it -- even though a year ago it did not.



ETA: Hit enter too soon. She is harping on diagnoses and what not yet she was okay with him until last December when she posted. There was NO mention that HER child with him was at risk or danger. She was just ticked off that he had a mistress who was pregnant. The problem with her NOW wanting to make demands in court about all this will cause her to lose credibility. Apparently since last year, he got remarried. he had another child. He moved. And it seems looking at her posts that that quite frankly MADE HER ANGRY and IRATE. She couldn't get him in trouble with his command. She couldn't get the media to sit up and take notice. So now she is making these accusations. If she makes them in court, she may find herself on the wrong end of a psychological evaluation and the wrong end of a custody fight.

 

[MichaCA]

I am not a senior member, however I can add my experience and imput.

OP, you've already been given IMO, the best advice your gonna get.

YOU can think you ex is a sociopath, and maybe he even is one. But it does not matter. The only time it may matter is if the COURTS order a full on custody/psychological evaluation of BOTH of you, and deem that your ex is indeed a full blown sociopath. Even then, its totally up to the psychologist to evaluate what he/she thinks is best for the child in terms of custody, visitation, etc. If you don't like the psychologists recommendations, you can spend zukoo's of thousands of dollars on expert psychologists and get a trial going...

basically, unless there is a diagnosis that your ex is a sociopath, you need to just let it go. Do what everyone is suggesting...file for a modification, don't stress about the grandparents - they have no rights, and if you have the bucks, request IN COURT, a pyschological evaluation for both of you.

I am writing as my ex does have issues, and you know what? In the eyes of the court, unless he is proven to actively harm our child, it does not matter.

Its a hard pill to swallow, but speaking from experience, the sooner you come to accept your ex the way he is, the easier your life will be. Follow through on the legal process...get the modification happening based on lack of visitation and based on your childs current medical needs. Request a custody (psych eval)evaluation at the same time. Then take it from there.

 

[>Charlotte<]

Its still a fine line that I wouldn't want to play anywhere near. Better to be safe than sorry. You can think your ex is a psychopath, just don't say it and don't write it.

It's really not that fine of a line when the law specifically states the criteria by which something is considered defamatory, slanderous, or libelous. It either is or it isn't. I can't, however, make a definitive statement without knowing OP's state. Unless it's hidden somewhere in one of her walls o'text, I don't think that's been established yet.

 

[Zephyr]

It's really not that fine of a line when the law specifically states the criteria by which something is considered defamatory, slanderous, or libelous. It either is or it isn't. I can't, however, make a definitive statement without knowing OP's state. Unless it's hidden somewhere in one of her walls o'text, I don't think that's been established yet.

heck skeletor posted my name in defamatory posts - posted with her real name as username....I'm still fighting to have some sort of resolution