A very STICKY Situation

[usarmyjosh]

What is the name of your state? MASSACHUSETTS

Hi,

I just got put in a very sticky situation. My wife would like to get a divorce. We have a 7 month old daughter. Here is the story:

We just recently celebrated our 1st anniversary and it seemed like everything was good. Then on Tuesday night (Aug. 30) while I was working, i get a call from my wife and she tells me that her cousin from Alaska was in a car accident and the family was having a rough time. She gets her aunt to buy her a roundtrip plane ticket from Boston to Anchorage for the next day at 6 PM. So I take her to the airport to go for a month to help her family out. She also takes our 7 month old daughter with her. She calls me the next day to let me know that she made it there alright, but she had also lost her wallet with $100 that i gave to her for the trip at least. Then a week later after work i come home to call her and she tells me to go read an email that she had wrote stating that she wants a divorce and she wants to work stuff out for our daughter. I was crushed. The whole story about her cousin in alaska getting in a car accident was a lie. It was just to get away. I tried to offer other solutions about working on our marriage, but she won't have it.

My questions are:
1. What can I do? I have never dealt with any type of legal matters before.
2. Is it legal for her to take my daughter away like that when i thought she was coming back.?
3. I have been told about an Abandonment charge. Any information on that.

Please help me understand what I should do. I would like for my daughter to be back with me.

Thank you in advance for your help and support.

JOSHUA HIMELRICK

 

[BelizeBreeze]

What is the name of your state? MASSACHUSETTS

Hi,

I just got put in a very sticky situation. My wife would like to get a divorce. We have a 7 month old daughter. Here is the story:

We just recently celebrated our 1st anniversary and it seemed like everything was good. Then on Tuesday night (Aug. 30) while I was working, i get a call from my wife and she tells me that her cousin from Alaska was in a car accident and the family was having a rough time. She gets her aunt to buy her a roundtrip plane ticket from Boston to Anchorage for the next day at 6 PM. So I take her to the airport to go for a month to help her family out. She also takes our 7 month old daughter with her. She calls me the next day to let me know that she made it there alright, but she had also lost her wallet with $100 that i gave to her for the trip at least. Then a week later after work i come home to call her and she tells me to go read an email that she had wrote stating that she wants a divorce and she wants to work stuff out for our daughter. I was crushed. The whole story about her cousin in alaska getting in a car accident was a lie. It was just to get away. I tried to offer other solutions about working on our marriage, but she won't have it.

My questions are:
1. What can I do? I have never dealt with any type of legal matters before.
2. Is it legal for her to take my daughter away like that when i thought she was coming back.?
3. I have been told about an Abandonment charge. Any information on that.

Please help me understand what I should do. I would like for my daughter to be back with me.

Thank you in advance for your help and support.

JOSHUA HIMELRICK

Go to an attorney First thing Monday and file for divorce. If you don't do that and you play her game, she can file in Alaska after establishing residency and you'll have to go there to contest. You will also be at the mercy of her wishes regarding visitation and support unless you move to alaska to defend yourself.

otherwise, the answer to all of your questions is nothing and NO.

 

[LdiJ]

What is the name of your state? MASSACHUSETTS

Hi,

I just got put in a very sticky situation. My wife would like to get a divorce. We have a 7 month old daughter. Here is the story:

We just recently celebrated our 1st anniversary and it seemed like everything was good. Then on Tuesday night (Aug. 30) while I was working, i get a call from my wife and she tells me that her cousin from Alaska was in a car accident and the family was having a rough time. She gets her aunt to buy her a roundtrip plane ticket from Boston to Anchorage for the next day at 6 PM. So I take her to the airport to go for a month to help her family out. She also takes our 7 month old daughter with her. She calls me the next day to let me know that she made it there alright, but she had also lost her wallet with $100 that i gave to her for the trip at least. Then a week later after work i come home to call her and she tells me to go read an email that she had wrote stating that she wants a divorce and she wants to work stuff out for our daughter. I was crushed. The whole story about her cousin in alaska getting in a car accident was a lie. It was just to get away. I tried to offer other solutions about working on our marriage, but she won't have it.

My questions are:
1. What can I do? I have never dealt with any type of legal matters before.
2. Is it legal for her to take my daughter away like that when i thought she was coming back.?
3. I have been told about an Abandonment charge. Any information on that.

Please help me understand what I should do. I would like for my daughter to be back with me.

Thank you in advance for your help and support.

JOSHUA HIMELRICK

My understanding is that you are in the military, correct? Are you stationed in MA and is MA your home state of record (your state of legal residency) or is another state your legal home state?

Are you deployable or due to be deployed?

You should certainly consult an attorney. Its possible that you may be able to convince a judge to order her to return to MA with the child, depending on the answers to the above questions.

If by any chance Alaska is your home state of residence.....then she may be able to argue that Alaska has jurisdiction.

 

[Stephens]

7 years later

Everyone knows there is two sides to every story. I am shocked to see this was even written. I asked him to chose us and move with us. He had nothing keeping him there. He was booted from the military, he was a transporter at a hospital. A job that could be done ANYWHERE. He chose to stay there. He made NO attempt to even come see our daughter. He has not seen her once, or talked to her on the phone, and NEVER asks about her. Not even so much as sent her a card. He was ruled by his family and didn't chose us. The reasons I left are my own, and I don't have to explain them to anyone. I didn't just take her because I had a wild hair up my bum and was bored. I have taken care of this wonderful child all on my own, I have cared for her and been there for her every step of the way. Josh now has two more kids and has replaced her. He has no desire to want to know his daughter and has even told me he is willing to give up parental rights to my husband. So I wanted to put my side in there because it is only fair. This little girl is the most amazing little 8 year old I know. I am not sure how I came across this but felt it only fair to say, you would think that based off this submission of his he would have stopped at nothing for her. Nothing is what he did. Sad. She now has a dad who loves and adores her very much. She wants or needs for nothing and some day when she wants to know him, I will pass on his info and he will be sad on all he missed. I NEVER tried to keep her from him. I have even gone as far to offer help for him to have a plane ticket. His loss. Thanks for reading if you happened to come back here and read my reply. Have a wonderful new year. ~ The Stephens Family.

 

[LdiJ]

Everyone knows there is two sides to every story. I am shocked to see this was even written. I asked him to chose us and move with us. He had nothing keeping him there. He was booted from the military, he was a transporter at a hospital. A job that could be done ANYWHERE. He chose to stay there. He made NO attempt to even come see our daughter. He has not seen her once, or talked to her on the phone, and NEVER asks about her. Not even so much as sent her a card. He was ruled by his family and didn't chose us. The reasons I left are my own, and I don't have to explain them to anyone. I didn't just take her because I had a wild hair up my bum and was bored. I have taken care of this wonderful child all on my own, I have cared for her and been there for her every step of the way. Josh now has two more kids and has replaced her. He has no desire to want to know his daughter and has even told me he is willing to give up parental rights to my husband. So I wanted to put my side in there because it is only fair. This little girl is the most amazing little 8 year old I know. I am not sure how I came across this but felt it only fair to say, you would think that based off this submission of his he would have stopped at nothing for her. Nothing is what he did. Sad. She now has a dad who loves and adores her very much. She wants or needs for nothing and some day when she wants to know him, I will pass on his info and he will be sad on all he missed. I NEVER tried to keep her from him. I have even gone as far to offer help for him to have a plane ticket. His loss. Thanks for reading if you happened to come back here and read my reply. Have a wonderful new year. ~ The Stephens Family.

Wow...an update 8 years later from the other party. That is rare. Thank you for presenting your side of the story.

 

[Ohiogal]

Everyone knows there is two sides to every story. I am shocked to see this was even written. I asked him to chose us and move with us. He had nothing keeping him there. He was booted from the military, he was a transporter at a hospital. A job that could be done ANYWHERE. He chose to stay there. He made NO attempt to even come see our daughter. He has not seen her once, or talked to her on the phone, and NEVER asks about her. Not even so much as sent her a card. He was ruled by his family and didn't chose us. The reasons I left are my own, and I don't have to explain them to anyone. I didn't just take her because I had a wild hair up my bum and was bored. I have taken care of this wonderful child all on my own, I have cared for her and been there for her every step of the way. Josh now has two more kids and has replaced her. He has no desire to want to know his daughter and has even told me he is willing to give up parental rights to my husband. So I wanted to put my side in there because it is only fair. This little girl is the most amazing little 8 year old I know. I am not sure how I came across this but felt it only fair to say, you would think that based off this submission of his he would have stopped at nothing for her. Nothing is what he did. Sad. She now has a dad who loves and adores her very much. She wants or needs for nothing and some day when she wants to know him, I will pass on his info and he will be sad on all he missed. I NEVER tried to keep her from him. I have even gone as far to offer help for him to have a plane ticket. His loss. Thanks for reading if you happened to come back here and read my reply. Have a wonderful new year. ~ The Stephens Family.

So your husband adopted this child? Did you ever get court orders for child support? Did you ever tell your daughter about her real father -- i.e. the man who impregnated you? You weren't part of the solution here. You apparently were part of the problem.

 

[Silverplum]

Wow...an update 8 years later from the other party. That is rare. Thank you for presenting your side of the story.

Who says it's true, or that it's written by the actual ex?

 

[Proserpina]

Who says it's true, or that it's written by the actual ex?

I'm incredibly dubious.

 

[LdiJ]

Who says it's true, or that it's written by the actual ex?

Who says that any post on any forum is true and written by the person they say they are? Are we never going to accept any poster at face value?

 

[Just Blue]

Everyone knows there is two sides to every story. I am shocked to see this was even written. I asked him to chose us and move with us. He had nothing keeping him there. He was booted from the military, he was a transporter at a hospital. A job that could be done ANYWHERE. He chose to stay there. He made NO attempt to even come see our daughter. He has not seen her once, or talked to her on the phone, and NEVER asks about her. Not even so much as sent her a card. He was ruled by his family and didn't chose us. The reasons I left are my own, and I don't have to explain them to anyone. I didn't just take her because I had a wild hair up my bum and was bored. I have taken care of this wonderful child all on my own, I have cared for her and been there for her every step of the way. Josh now has two more kids and has replaced her. He has no desire to want to know his daughter and has even told me he is willing to give up parental rights to my husband. So I wanted to put my side in there because it is only fair. This little girl is the most amazing little 8 year old I know. I am not sure how I came across this but felt it only fair to say, you would think that based off this submission of his he would have stopped at nothing for her. Nothing is what he did. Sad. She now has a dad who loves and adores her very much. She wants or needs for nothing and some day when she wants to know him, I will pass on his info and he will be sad on all he missed. I NEVER tried to keep her from him. I have even gone as far to offer help for him to have a plane ticket. His loss. Thanks for reading if you happened to come back here and read my reply. Have a wonderful new year. ~ The Stephens Family.

Yeah. Okay. Alrighty then. Happy New Year.

 

[Just Blue]

Who says that any post on any forum is true and written by the person they say they are? Are we never going to accept any poster at face value?

Sometimes we do. IF it makes a minimal of commonsense. THIS one? Kinda doesn't. IMHO.

 

[Proserpina]

Who says that any post on any forum is true and written by the person they say they are? Are we never going to accept any poster at face value?

Oh come on L - you know that's not how it is.

We (and I'm using the "collective we") know we have trolls, we really do. And there's often proof of that. But we also know that some posters (um..hi, spinny!) just can't help themselves and post links to their actual real life court cases/dockets. We know that many posters are for real.

With that said, I did happen to take it upon myself to Google the OP's actual name. This site doesn't even come up in the first 3 pages of Google. Now, his screen-name does - but honestly, why would the "other party" be googling what is likely a really old screen-name from YEARS back? For what end?

Please to 'splainy?

 

[Proserpina]

Or I guess I could've just said, "What Blue said".

I'll hush my muffin and go back to my coffee

 

[Antigone*]

I think it is sad that this lady lied to her husband to leave. She is just as culpable as her ex when it comes to why this child no longer has her daddy in her life.

What the heck did she think would happen when she took the child they shared over 5,000 miles away. When this man kissed his little girl goodbye he had no idea it would be the last time.

Lady, I have one more word for you <spit>

 

[LdiJ]

Oh come on L - you know that's not how it is.

We (and I'm using the "collective we") know we have trolls, we really do. And there's often proof of that. But we also know that some posters (um..hi, spinny!) just can't help themselves and post links to their actual real life court cases/dockets. We know that many posters are for real.

With that said, I did happen to take it upon myself to Google the OP's actual name. This site doesn't even come up in the first 3 pages of Google. Now, his screen-name does - but honestly, why would the "other party" be googling what is likely a really old screen-name from YEARS back? For what end?

Please to 'splainy?

I have occasionally done some pretty serious googling to try to locate people I have known in the past...mostly out of curiosity. Therefore I don't find this situation very strange.