Abandonment And Rules to Follow

[newmama]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Iowa.
I changed my number and I am woundering if I need to give that to my son father. I plan on filing abandonment charges in 6 months because his dad has yet to be in his life except for a few phone calls here and there. We are going through child support and DNA testing. But am I obligated to give him my number so that he can reach me?

 

[LocalRocket]

If you file for abandonment, you are usually obligated to put yourself in a position where the father would be able to contact you before it is granted. Why is it that you feel you need to file for abandonment? It's unclear as to whether or not he has already established paternity through a state-recognized test. If you are unmarried and he has not, that he has no legal parental rights anyhow. If he has established paternity already, then this question cannot be answered without knowing the age of your child and how long it has been since the alleged father has tried to contact you. In a private abandonment case, which your's is, your state requires that his intent to abandon the child and never be involved can be proven, child support payments or the lack thereof cannot, by themselves, be cause for abandonment. Some states have specific time requirements, and others judge on a case by case basis. In states with time requirements, it would take a MINIMUM of 2 years since last contact to proceed with this charge.

Why is it that you want to ensure that your child never has contact with his father anyway?

 

[Ohiogal]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Iowa.
I changed my number and I am woundering if I need to give that to my son father. I plan on filing abandonment charges in 6 months because his dad has yet to be in his life except for a few phone calls here and there. We are going through child support and DNA testing. But am I obligated to give him my number so that he can reach me?

If dad doesn't have your number then DAD cannot be in touch and has not abandoned. However from the sounds of things, dad is not legally established as dad yet.

Trying to cut him out of the child's life will backfire majorly on you. How old is this child?

 

[Rushia]

If dad doesn't have your number then DAD cannot be in touch and has not abandoned. However from the sounds of things, dad is not legally established as dad yet.

Trying to cut him out of the child's life will backfire majorly on you. How old is this child?

According to OP's other post the child is about 6 weeks old.

 

[Ohiogal]

According to OP's other post the child is about 6 weeks old.

Then dad has not abandoned and mom is out of line completely. For a variety of reasons.

 

[LocalRocket]

Hold up. So according to your last post, the child is 6 weeks old, and within the past 3 weeks the father has been asking for joint custody. He was involved throughout the pregnancy. But you didn't agree, so you changed your phone number and intend to hide from him until you can file abandonment charges? Wow. And by the way, he doesn't even OWE you child support until paternity has been established.

 

[Proserpina]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Iowa.
I changed my number and I am woundering if I need to give that to my son father. I plan on filing abandonment charges in 6 months because his dad has yet to be in his life except for a few phone calls here and there. We are going through child support and DNA testing. But am I obligated to give him my number so that he can reach me?

Exactly how is he meant to contact you about his child if you don't give him contact information?

You cannot file for abandonment yet and for a few reasons...one of the obvious ones being that Dad hasn't actually been legally established as Dad.

Keep going with this and you might just be handing custody over to Dad.

 

[nextwife]

Even if he HADN'T been trying to be involved, the child is only a mere 6 WEEKS old! DENYING dad the ability to find/contact you and then trying to claim ABANDONMENT is the height of chutzpah.

 

[Proserpina]

Even if he HADN'T been trying to be involved, the child is only a mere 6 WEEKS old! DENYING dad the ability to find/contact you and then trying to claim ABANDONMENT is the height of chutzpah.

I'd be interested to hear Dad's side of the story too - shame he hasn't also registered, y'know?

ETA: Yes, I just read the other posts. OP, in order to have Dad completely excluded, you've so far asked about three different things. You're not helping yourself in terms of credibility.

I had a little boy about 3 weeks ago. His father wants half rights to him and I under no circmstances want him having any rights to our son. There was an incident that was document by the police where he beat me up while I was pregnant and hurt me really bad. He was not charged and instead was given therapy and abuse classes. He now is trying to estiblish paternity and the says that will give him half custody of our son. I need advice concerning this. Thank you!

The restraining order was lifted due to him changing his behaviors and showing the court he was trying to make an effort to be a part of our lifes and changed.
I am willing to give him visitations and as of now I am not confortable with his fathers living enviorment, he lives in a known drug house where drugs are always around.

 

[ecmst12]

"A few phone calls here and there" counts as contact. No abandonment under ANY possible definition.