Abandonment and separation

[SouthernMan3672]

What is the name of your state? Maryland

Is it considered abandonment if I stop paying for house and bill but still pay child support? My wife and I separated over a month ago but I still paying mortgage on a house I am not living in. Both of our names are on the house and we have a joint account together. She says if I take the money out from our joint account for the bill, she will get me for abandonment, but I left the house voluntary after she asked me to leave.

 

[xylene]

You have a child support order?

You really need to discuss this with your own divorce attorney.

 

[SouthernMan3672]

No, I was just asking him what I would be paying in child support if things went south.

 

[HRZ]

I think your wife is inventing rules that don't exist and that you would be far smarter to get competent counsel darn soon.

BTW the first person to clean out a joint account can do so, use some street smarts.
And I would NOT leave my own house absent clear advice from my attorney to do so.

 

[Zigner]

You have an obligation to the mortgage company to pay what you agreed to pay.

 

[HRZ]

PLUS, technically if both are on mortgage there is a joint and separate liability to pay the whole as agreed. For all we know the wife may out earn the husband or have greater assets ?

 

[stealth2]

You do realize, of course, that you lost much control wrt custody negotiations by moving out, yes?

The bank holds both of you responsible for the mortgage. The court may not view you kindly if you take actions that will affect your stbx wife's credit.

You really need to speak with an attorney.

 

[xylene]

No, I was just asking him what I would be paying in child support if things went south.

What do youy mean south? Are you trying to reconcile? You still need to talk to a lawyer, especially since you've vacated the marital home

 

[HRZ]

Absent a court order to vacate, you might be smart to just be back in ! Discuss it with counsel darn soon.

 

[xylene]

Absent a court order to vacate, you might be smart to just be back in !

Exactly.

I don't get this, ever, people getting divorced still thinking patterns around placating their spouse's wishes.

 

[LdiJ]

Exactly.

I don't get this, ever, people getting divorced still thinking patterns around placating their spouse's wishes.

I have seen it happen over and over again. The less dominant party still seems to be intimidated by the more dominant party, even when they do not realize that they are intimidated.