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My husband has abandoned myself and two boys 12 and 13. He started disappearing last August 2004. He would just disappear and call acting as if we didn't care about him. His whereabouts are unknown. He pays the mortgage, electric and oil bills, but hasn't given me any money to support us. He did give us some until two and half months ago. It happened without any warning. I am 50 years old, have been an at home Mom for 13 years. He never wanted me to work. I started home schooling my kids two years ago. Now I am left with no income. I feel so sorry for the boys. He has a lot of money from a 401K that he put into an aggressive earning funds. He gets the mail here. He has taken out $27,000 in the last five weeks, but nothing has come to us. He's living the good life and I'm feeding my kids pasta. I'm using up all of my savings and now I'm into the kids savings. I am trying to start up a business. I'm doing my best. I know I have to support us, but he could have warned me. Kids grow and need clothes and nourishment. This coming about so suddenly didn't give me time or many options to do what I could do to support us. We own a house with both names on the deed, but the mortgage is in his name only. It's up for sale now and I'm hoping it sells fast. I have no clue of my legal rights concerning the house. I hope that as long as my name is on the deed, the house is half mine. I am counting on the profit to start a new life for me and my kids. I would like to just go and not look back, but, he's been so deceptive and so cruel, I want money from him. I do have a legal right to some kind of support don't I? Can his funds be accessed? Even if we don't know where he is, there are Merrell Lynch funds and Bank Accounts, etc.
I don't think he has any rights to child custody. He has had DWI's, warrants out for unpaid parking violations. There has been continuous emotional verbal abuse to me and the boys over the years, and much more, not to mention abadoning us. He's been hiding things for 13 years. I've seen movies where spouses have no clue that their partner is a murderer and I used to laugh because I thought, how could you not know who you live with? Well, I don't laugh anymore. What I've come across since he's gone is blowing my mind. Nothing as serious as murder, but he is the BEST liar I've ever known. He also forged my signature on last years income tax refund check so that he could keep it all. I have proof.
Of course I want a divorce (that is if I could find him). I'm sure he does too, but what is my best course of action. I want to be sure of the profit on the house and although I would like to just wash my hands of him, I want some compensation for what he's done. What am I up against?
My husband has abandoned myself and two boys 12 and 13. He started disappearing last August 2004. He would just disappear and call acting as if we didn't care about him. His whereabouts are unknown. He pays the mortgage, electric and oil bills, but hasn't given me any money to support us. He did give us some until two and half months ago. It happened without any warning. I am 50 years old, have been an at home Mom for 13 years. He never wanted me to work. I started home schooling my kids two years ago. Now I am left with no income. I feel so sorry for the boys. He has a lot of money from a 401K that he put into an aggressive earning funds. He gets the mail here. He has taken out $27,000 in the last five weeks, but nothing has come to us. He's living the good life and I'm feeding my kids pasta. I'm using up all of my savings and now I'm into the kids savings. I am trying to start up a business. I'm doing my best. I know I have to support us, but he could have warned me. Kids grow and need clothes and nourishment. This coming about so suddenly didn't give me time or many options to do what I could do to support us. We own a house with both names on the deed, but the mortgage is in his name only. It's up for sale now and I'm hoping it sells fast. I have no clue of my legal rights concerning the house. I hope that as long as my name is on the deed, the house is half mine. I am counting on the profit to start a new life for me and my kids. I would like to just go and not look back, but, he's been so deceptive and so cruel, I want money from him. I do have a legal right to some kind of support don't I? Can his funds be accessed? Even if we don't know where he is, there are Merrell Lynch funds and Bank Accounts, etc.
I don't think he has any rights to child custody. He has had DWI's, warrants out for unpaid parking violations. There has been continuous emotional verbal abuse to me and the boys over the years, and much more, not to mention abadoning us. He's been hiding things for 13 years. I've seen movies where spouses have no clue that their partner is a murderer and I used to laugh because I thought, how could you not know who you live with? Well, I don't laugh anymore. What I've come across since he's gone is blowing my mind. Nothing as serious as murder, but he is the BEST liar I've ever known. He also forged my signature on last years income tax refund check so that he could keep it all. I have proof.
Of course I want a divorce (that is if I could find him). I'm sure he does too, but what is my best course of action. I want to be sure of the profit on the house and although I would like to just wash my hands of him, I want some compensation for what he's done. What am I up against?