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I was just reading a thread and didn't want to "jump in" since I can't be of help to the person. But it seems there's a dispute over whether the CP should WANT to claim abandonment. I agree that a few months of no visits isn't a good reason. Everyone seems to agree that no reason is a good reason if the child has formed a relationship.
So how about MY situation.
I have 2 kids by one dad. In 2003, when the older child was 5 and the younger 5 months, he got ticked that after years of abuse I finally stood up and told him what I thought of him. He disappeared for 2 years. Broke my 5 year old's heart and changed her personality completely. I cushioned everything for her.. begged him by email to come back to her.. he said "tell her that her mother is the B**** that did this to her." He told me in an email that if I ever went after support he'd do whatever it takes.. go to jail or feign insanity to get out of it.
After 2 years, he came back for visits. 6 months later he vanished for another 4 months. 11 months later, Florida's CSE nailed him for $700/month. He begged and pleaded that I do something to stop them. He yelled, screamed and threatened.
He tried to claim.. suddenly that our 8 year old wasn't his at all. .. in court!! They basically told him they wouldn't hear his crap since he signed the birth certificate AND during the 11 months that the original CSE case was open, he made no such claim. Paternity has been established by his signature and through a legal proceeding..therefore they had no use for his babbling.
In the end.. he vanished for 3 years. Even sent signed adoption papers so I could "find someone" to take the girls.
My fault? Standard case of CP hates NCP?? I think not. Cuz I never hated him. Still don't. Don't LIKE him.. but have no feelings at all.
Abandonment???? The children are now 11 and 6 and the last time he saw them, they were 8 and 3. If that IS abandonment, what would I do about it? I don't believe there's anything I could do anyway.
I was just reading a thread and didn't want to "jump in" since I can't be of help to the person. But it seems there's a dispute over whether the CP should WANT to claim abandonment. I agree that a few months of no visits isn't a good reason. Everyone seems to agree that no reason is a good reason if the child has formed a relationship.
So how about MY situation.
I have 2 kids by one dad. In 2003, when the older child was 5 and the younger 5 months, he got ticked that after years of abuse I finally stood up and told him what I thought of him. He disappeared for 2 years. Broke my 5 year old's heart and changed her personality completely. I cushioned everything for her.. begged him by email to come back to her.. he said "tell her that her mother is the B**** that did this to her." He told me in an email that if I ever went after support he'd do whatever it takes.. go to jail or feign insanity to get out of it.
After 2 years, he came back for visits. 6 months later he vanished for another 4 months. 11 months later, Florida's CSE nailed him for $700/month. He begged and pleaded that I do something to stop them. He yelled, screamed and threatened.
He tried to claim.. suddenly that our 8 year old wasn't his at all. .. in court!! They basically told him they wouldn't hear his crap since he signed the birth certificate AND during the 11 months that the original CSE case was open, he made no such claim. Paternity has been established by his signature and through a legal proceeding..therefore they had no use for his babbling.
In the end.. he vanished for 3 years. Even sent signed adoption papers so I could "find someone" to take the girls.
My fault? Standard case of CP hates NCP?? I think not. Cuz I never hated him. Still don't. Don't LIKE him.. but have no feelings at all.
Abandonment???? The children are now 11 and 6 and the last time he saw them, they were 8 and 3. If that IS abandonment, what would I do about it? I don't believe there's anything I could do anyway.
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