BatteredMomof3
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? LA
This is my first post, so please bare with me. I really don't know where to start, so here goes. I have been physically abused by my husband for the last 5 years. He would threaten my life if I ever left him. During the last 2 years I have been reporting to the Womens Battered Shelter to make reports, have them take pics, and seek counseling. They have been wonderful.
I caught my husband with another woman last summer of 2007, and of course he threw me into my own car and imprinted my body on it after he denied cheating. This last April, he attacked me when I told him that I was going to have coffee with the girls that morning, and I defended myself and left. He called the police and I was arrested for domestic violence. The neighbors ran out to give statements (they are tired of seeing him get away with everything), and he was also arrested. We both were signed out on our own recognizance. The judge (his uncle) awarded him the restraining order and I lost everything that Monday. He took our 3 girls (11, 8, and 6), the house, and petitioned for a restraining order against me before I could get to the court first to do the same. My entire world ended in 1 day and I lost everything I ever worked for and loved.
Here is the problem, his dad is the Sheriff, and his uncle is the judge in my county. I have a report from 911 showing 54 phone calls from me to 911 for abuse within the last year and a half, and no arrests were made. He only let me see the girls every Sunday from 10am-6pm for 2 months since it took so long to get a court date. During those 2 months, I have my 11 year old and 8 year old hating me, daddy calling them on their phones ever half hour and he is perfect in their eyes. They have seen him beat the crap out of me, they have seen him with his mistress, and they hate me...... When I obtained my attorney, the judge quickly overturned his decision, gave me custody of the girls and my house back. Settlement was reached and I wrote my husband a check for $50,000 to keep the house. The girls stay with him for one week, and with me for one week, with neither of us paying child support. This was his idea, and I did not want to object because I am scared of him.
He broke into my home on 2 occasions, assaulted me while I was sleeping, and threatened my life the 2nd time after he threw me into the fireplace. The police arrested him for assaulting me and he walked out on his own recognizance (his uncle Mr Judge signed paperwork). That following weekend he pulled a gun on me and told me if I did not come home to him that he would make sure noone would have me. I filed a police report and they did not go pick him up. I can go on and on, but my point is, I am in fear of him right now. Every other day is a crappy day, because he constantly harrasses me on the phone, will show up at my office, the grocery, and he has me followed. My daughters have recently informed me that he has been allowing the mistress to sleep in the home with him while our daughters were there. We have 3 homes that we share. We sold one, I have one, and he has one.
Here are my questions. How do I seek justice when his entire family is politically connected in my county? Is it possible to go to the Attorney General? I have already been to the District Attorney's Office, and they can't help, however they will not drop 2 of the 4 felony charges on him. He has been released without bond for 4 offenses within the last month. I was informed that these charges are felony charges. How is it that he is released without bond? How do I seek a restraining order without his uncle being involved? We currently have a separation agreement in place. We just went to court 3 weeks ago. He is to not have any member of the opposite sex sleep over. I just learned that this has been happening and know that he is in contempt, however is it considered adultery since we are still married? Is he allowed to sleep around and have girlfriends while we are separated? I feel like 2 of our girls are being brainwashed and don't know what to do. Is it possible to go back to court and request full custody of our girls, with him having 2 days a week and every other weekend? I feel that the more he fills their little heads, the more I am losing them.
I am so at a loss for words. I never thought my beautiful babies would turn on me like this. They hate me and I have no idea what to do or who to go to in order to have a fair hearing. I am running out of money between getting locks changed on house every week, the car re-keyed every week, and the fees it costs to file restraining orders that don't stick.
Please anyone, advice?
This is my first post, so please bare with me. I really don't know where to start, so here goes. I have been physically abused by my husband for the last 5 years. He would threaten my life if I ever left him. During the last 2 years I have been reporting to the Womens Battered Shelter to make reports, have them take pics, and seek counseling. They have been wonderful.
I caught my husband with another woman last summer of 2007, and of course he threw me into my own car and imprinted my body on it after he denied cheating. This last April, he attacked me when I told him that I was going to have coffee with the girls that morning, and I defended myself and left. He called the police and I was arrested for domestic violence. The neighbors ran out to give statements (they are tired of seeing him get away with everything), and he was also arrested. We both were signed out on our own recognizance. The judge (his uncle) awarded him the restraining order and I lost everything that Monday. He took our 3 girls (11, 8, and 6), the house, and petitioned for a restraining order against me before I could get to the court first to do the same. My entire world ended in 1 day and I lost everything I ever worked for and loved.
Here is the problem, his dad is the Sheriff, and his uncle is the judge in my county. I have a report from 911 showing 54 phone calls from me to 911 for abuse within the last year and a half, and no arrests were made. He only let me see the girls every Sunday from 10am-6pm for 2 months since it took so long to get a court date. During those 2 months, I have my 11 year old and 8 year old hating me, daddy calling them on their phones ever half hour and he is perfect in their eyes. They have seen him beat the crap out of me, they have seen him with his mistress, and they hate me...... When I obtained my attorney, the judge quickly overturned his decision, gave me custody of the girls and my house back. Settlement was reached and I wrote my husband a check for $50,000 to keep the house. The girls stay with him for one week, and with me for one week, with neither of us paying child support. This was his idea, and I did not want to object because I am scared of him.
He broke into my home on 2 occasions, assaulted me while I was sleeping, and threatened my life the 2nd time after he threw me into the fireplace. The police arrested him for assaulting me and he walked out on his own recognizance (his uncle Mr Judge signed paperwork). That following weekend he pulled a gun on me and told me if I did not come home to him that he would make sure noone would have me. I filed a police report and they did not go pick him up. I can go on and on, but my point is, I am in fear of him right now. Every other day is a crappy day, because he constantly harrasses me on the phone, will show up at my office, the grocery, and he has me followed. My daughters have recently informed me that he has been allowing the mistress to sleep in the home with him while our daughters were there. We have 3 homes that we share. We sold one, I have one, and he has one.
Here are my questions. How do I seek justice when his entire family is politically connected in my county? Is it possible to go to the Attorney General? I have already been to the District Attorney's Office, and they can't help, however they will not drop 2 of the 4 felony charges on him. He has been released without bond for 4 offenses within the last month. I was informed that these charges are felony charges. How is it that he is released without bond? How do I seek a restraining order without his uncle being involved? We currently have a separation agreement in place. We just went to court 3 weeks ago. He is to not have any member of the opposite sex sleep over. I just learned that this has been happening and know that he is in contempt, however is it considered adultery since we are still married? Is he allowed to sleep around and have girlfriends while we are separated? I feel like 2 of our girls are being brainwashed and don't know what to do. Is it possible to go back to court and request full custody of our girls, with him having 2 days a week and every other weekend? I feel that the more he fills their little heads, the more I am losing them.
I am so at a loss for words. I never thought my beautiful babies would turn on me like this. They hate me and I have no idea what to do or who to go to in order to have a fair hearing. I am running out of money between getting locks changed on house every week, the car re-keyed every week, and the fees it costs to file restraining orders that don't stick.
Please anyone, advice?