accusations of sexual harrassment... help!

[kewats]

I have a problem that I'd like some advice on. I worked for a company for about 9 months, working close with a female at the company, we were and still are good friends. Well, I recently left the company on good terms to go to another job. No longer an employee at the old company I wrote a letter to this female expressing my feelings for her. I told her that I wrote the letter
and placed it in her mailbox at work, after I had left the company. I told her the letter was about how I felt about her. There was no vulgar language, I mentioned having "sexual dreams" about her but did not go into any details regarding the dreams. I also told her that I know I shouldn't have written the letter because she is married and I didn't want to break up her marriage. I suggested that if she didn't want to know what was on my mind to throw the letter away. She didn't. She read it, said she was flattered but, didn't want to ruin her marriage I understood and left it at that. Well, her husband found the letter a week later and he contacted one of the directors
of this company, who is a good friend of his and told them that I had sexually harrassed his wife. Now there is talk going around that I was harrassing her, she didn't say this but her husband and this director did.
She informed me of what was going on and how I was not allowed to come to this facility any more. I don't have a problem with that. My problem is with this director possibly putting this on my work record. Is this legal? Did I sexually harrass this woman even though she was not the one complaining? As I said I was no longer an employee when I gave her this letter. Is there something I can do to prevent them from these accusations?

Please respond ASAP

Worried in Wisconsin!

 

[Unhappy-maximus]

The 11 th commandment is "Thou shalt not put in letter form (documentation) of any thing you don't want someone else's eyes to read. Beauty is not always in the eyes of the beholder. It may be in the eyes of the beholder's spouse or significant other. I'm not a lawyer but learned this lesson in grade school. Now is your time to learn. I wouldn't make an issue of it. Let it go along with the friendship of the woman and time will pass. People will forget and I hope for you that husband doesn't persue it further. Good luck.

 

[Attorney_Replogle]

You really have no say as to what the employer can put in your personnel file after you leave their employ. Whether the employer director is legally correct in describing your post employment conduct as sexual harassment, or stating that it occurred while you were still employed, it is really of no matter to you.

As long as the employer never communicates that information to another potential employer, or your current employer, then that is the main thing.

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Mark B. Replogle