What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Indiana
I am in need of advice because I am getting ready to begin trying to ge my son back from my mother. I had given my mother what I believed to be temporary guardianship of my son Kaden in December of 2006. In October of 2006 I had jumped out of a window trying to escape from my very abusive ex. My son was sleepig in his bedroom. My plan was to get out and get to the naighbors to call the police. Without my son being grabed in the middle of the night and run. I didn't want him to be startled. Well I shattered my right ankle from the fall. And was taken to the hospital. I must have hit my head pretty good because all I remember was saying sorry in the ambulance and calling for my son. They immediatly put me to sleep.
I woke up the next day in complete shock. And completely under the influence of strong pain medication. I remember my ex being in the room saying "you better not say a word" meanin I better not tell anyone about the abuse. I vaguely remember a woman from CPS walking in the room and as soon as she announced who she was I started crying. I know I had told her I tried to kill myself because I was very sad. My ex was very controlling and I listened to him because I was scared. I remeber telling her don't take my baby. And I know I had called my mom to come get Kaden. My ex had taken my son to his moms while I was transported to the hospital. And the next morning my ex had taken him to one of my friends house. I do remember that. I didn't want my son given to anyone but my mom first. I think I told my ex that. I started panicking in the hospital room and removed my IV and left. I don't really know why, I just left. And within an hour I went to a different ER and was put in ICU and was told that if I tried to leave I would be chemically restrained.
I remember CPS putting my son into a foster home. And my mom was at the new hospital talking about giving him to her. I thought that it would be better for him to be with her than strangers. For the next three days I was on an IV drip. The first day it was morphine every 6 minutes. Then I was switched to demoral for the remainder of the time. And started giving me my normal medecine. Which was seroquel, paxil, and buspar. I started hallucinating. I was talking to people that weren't there. I didn't know I was in a hospital, and I was trying to get up and walk.
After my release I was put on vicodin 7.5 and Valium. They switched ne to perkaset (sp?) 10. Then back to vicodin. I had to continue taking my other meds as well. I was speaking with my mom who kept trying to talk me into letting her adopt him and I told her no. I did want him to be with family instead. I knew that I wouldn't be able to care for him because I was on crutches for well over 6 months and had to have anoher surgery to fuse my ankle together. For the first 4-5 months I had pins all the way upto my shin and I had nowhere else to go but my apartment where my ex was. He convinced me he would help me. I had no money until my SSI was approved. I had no car. I had nothing. I needed alot of help with my foot.
I was on probation for posession of marijuana. My first offense. When my son was 4 months old when I started letting my mom babysit him for weekends and then it started getting worse. She lived two hours south of me and she strafed refusing to bring him back to me. When he was gone I got a minor consumption and a different charge but I want charged because the judge didn't believe that I was responsible for the incident but had to comply with probation and I did that's why I wasn't charged. The probation process took about 3 years to finish. They were all in different counties. I was dealing with all these at the same time as the gaurdianship. Which CPS had to ddrop everyhing because I was willing to give gaurdianship to my mom.
I kept trying to leave my ex but had no one else that could help me. I wanted to move in with my mom but my probation officer said I had to finish all my programs and couseling first so I stayed in that city and continued to finish. After I went to court for gaurdianship I drive down to Seymour, IN every 3-4 days and would stay at my moms or hotel wih my ex for 2-4 days. Until i finally freed myself from my ex and carried out my plea to be in a halfway house. I chose to go to InDianapolis. So i could get away. I stayed for 3 months and finished out my house arrest at my mothers in 2008. I continued to live with her until my now fiancé and I were reunited. We slowly got everything in order. We started out in a small apartmen but now live in my deceased grandfathers trailer in the country. My mom now owns it. She asked me to move here to clean the place up.
Ok, so now I'm stuck. I feel like she is coming inbetween me and my sons relationship. She spoils him rotten. He has 2 bedrooms full of toys(exspensive toys). He walks all over her and controls the house. He is disrespectful to her by hitting her. She giggles about it. She hand feeds him when he tells her to. Which by the way he is 4 now. He actually kicked her out of her living room because he didn't want her inthere and she really left. He runs the house. She makes stupid excuses of why he can't spend the night with me or let's Jim decide. I feel that she's bribing him with money and toys to love her. I don't have all that at my house And he Knows he can't get away wih any of the stuff he gets away with at my moms. he acts completely different when he's with me. she told me she wanted me to take her to court because eshr won't give him back to me. I don't want to have to do that because she is my mom. She is completely selfish and doesn't see why it's important for my son to be wih me. I have so many videos and pics of us together having fun. He respects me. And I am rebuilding my family and he needs to be here with me and learn manners and respect. She always rubs it in my face that I lost him but that doesn't mean I shouldn't be number one in his life. I am in constant contact with him. And he tells me he want sto be wih me forever ( he says I am his wife!!! So adorable) He needs me and he needs a real family environment. My mom and dad walk around calling eachother names and arguing all the time. My son doesn't need to see this. I grew up that way and I don't want him to be further exposed to negative things. He deserves better. My mom once said he only needs her, my dad, my sister an her kids and me. He needs no other family. I don't believe this. He needs more than a few people in his life. He needs to know that he has more then 8 people he can count on and be there for him. Also I made an agreement that he could be with hr as long as my dad didn't live with her. He was abusive to my mom my whole childhood and does alot of drugs. But she lied and said he didn't live with her.
I know what I was doing was wrong. But I don't regret anything. Regrets are mistakes you didn't learn from. It's hard to say that Im glad this happened but I was walking on the same path my mother did when she was young. I just decided to turn around. I was destructive. And Im glad it happened when it did instead of it being to late. Now I have to deal with this everyday. But I want to make it up to my son. He deserves that.
If you are wondering about his father. He's never been around I decided to seperate myself from him because he was a meth addict. And didn't want to change. I met John ( my now fiancé) he convince me to keep my baby. My mom was trying to force me to have an abortion. We didn't talk for weeks when indecided not to. Me and John split and thts when I got wih my abusive ex. John has opened my eyes in so many different wAys and he loves Kaden and Kaden loves him. He calls him dad. My mom hates that.
We recently found out that I was pregnant. Kaden is going to have a sister and he needs to be apart of this. My mom is refusig to tell Kaden. She doesn't want him to know. I understand he may feel that she is loved more becausshe lives with me. But now it's time for him to come home.
Well that's some of the story. There's Alot more to it of course. Do I even have a chance. I'm clueless about courts period. I believe I as taken advantage of while on so much meds. I didn't want this. And the other day on Christmas she kicked me out of her house in front of Kaden because I got mad she wouldn't let him come over that nigt and she didn't the nigt before becuase she wanted him to wake up to the presents at her house. He couldn't spend the night on Christmas because my nephews were over. What do I do?
I am in need of advice because I am getting ready to begin trying to ge my son back from my mother. I had given my mother what I believed to be temporary guardianship of my son Kaden in December of 2006. In October of 2006 I had jumped out of a window trying to escape from my very abusive ex. My son was sleepig in his bedroom. My plan was to get out and get to the naighbors to call the police. Without my son being grabed in the middle of the night and run. I didn't want him to be startled. Well I shattered my right ankle from the fall. And was taken to the hospital. I must have hit my head pretty good because all I remember was saying sorry in the ambulance and calling for my son. They immediatly put me to sleep.
I woke up the next day in complete shock. And completely under the influence of strong pain medication. I remember my ex being in the room saying "you better not say a word" meanin I better not tell anyone about the abuse. I vaguely remember a woman from CPS walking in the room and as soon as she announced who she was I started crying. I know I had told her I tried to kill myself because I was very sad. My ex was very controlling and I listened to him because I was scared. I remeber telling her don't take my baby. And I know I had called my mom to come get Kaden. My ex had taken my son to his moms while I was transported to the hospital. And the next morning my ex had taken him to one of my friends house. I do remember that. I didn't want my son given to anyone but my mom first. I think I told my ex that. I started panicking in the hospital room and removed my IV and left. I don't really know why, I just left. And within an hour I went to a different ER and was put in ICU and was told that if I tried to leave I would be chemically restrained.
I remember CPS putting my son into a foster home. And my mom was at the new hospital talking about giving him to her. I thought that it would be better for him to be with her than strangers. For the next three days I was on an IV drip. The first day it was morphine every 6 minutes. Then I was switched to demoral for the remainder of the time. And started giving me my normal medecine. Which was seroquel, paxil, and buspar. I started hallucinating. I was talking to people that weren't there. I didn't know I was in a hospital, and I was trying to get up and walk.
After my release I was put on vicodin 7.5 and Valium. They switched ne to perkaset (sp?) 10. Then back to vicodin. I had to continue taking my other meds as well. I was speaking with my mom who kept trying to talk me into letting her adopt him and I told her no. I did want him to be with family instead. I knew that I wouldn't be able to care for him because I was on crutches for well over 6 months and had to have anoher surgery to fuse my ankle together. For the first 4-5 months I had pins all the way upto my shin and I had nowhere else to go but my apartment where my ex was. He convinced me he would help me. I had no money until my SSI was approved. I had no car. I had nothing. I needed alot of help with my foot.
I was on probation for posession of marijuana. My first offense. When my son was 4 months old when I started letting my mom babysit him for weekends and then it started getting worse. She lived two hours south of me and she strafed refusing to bring him back to me. When he was gone I got a minor consumption and a different charge but I want charged because the judge didn't believe that I was responsible for the incident but had to comply with probation and I did that's why I wasn't charged. The probation process took about 3 years to finish. They were all in different counties. I was dealing with all these at the same time as the gaurdianship. Which CPS had to ddrop everyhing because I was willing to give gaurdianship to my mom.
I kept trying to leave my ex but had no one else that could help me. I wanted to move in with my mom but my probation officer said I had to finish all my programs and couseling first so I stayed in that city and continued to finish. After I went to court for gaurdianship I drive down to Seymour, IN every 3-4 days and would stay at my moms or hotel wih my ex for 2-4 days. Until i finally freed myself from my ex and carried out my plea to be in a halfway house. I chose to go to InDianapolis. So i could get away. I stayed for 3 months and finished out my house arrest at my mothers in 2008. I continued to live with her until my now fiancé and I were reunited. We slowly got everything in order. We started out in a small apartmen but now live in my deceased grandfathers trailer in the country. My mom now owns it. She asked me to move here to clean the place up.
Ok, so now I'm stuck. I feel like she is coming inbetween me and my sons relationship. She spoils him rotten. He has 2 bedrooms full of toys(exspensive toys). He walks all over her and controls the house. He is disrespectful to her by hitting her. She giggles about it. She hand feeds him when he tells her to. Which by the way he is 4 now. He actually kicked her out of her living room because he didn't want her inthere and she really left. He runs the house. She makes stupid excuses of why he can't spend the night with me or let's Jim decide. I feel that she's bribing him with money and toys to love her. I don't have all that at my house And he Knows he can't get away wih any of the stuff he gets away with at my moms. he acts completely different when he's with me. she told me she wanted me to take her to court because eshr won't give him back to me. I don't want to have to do that because she is my mom. She is completely selfish and doesn't see why it's important for my son to be wih me. I have so many videos and pics of us together having fun. He respects me. And I am rebuilding my family and he needs to be here with me and learn manners and respect. She always rubs it in my face that I lost him but that doesn't mean I shouldn't be number one in his life. I am in constant contact with him. And he tells me he want sto be wih me forever ( he says I am his wife!!! So adorable) He needs me and he needs a real family environment. My mom and dad walk around calling eachother names and arguing all the time. My son doesn't need to see this. I grew up that way and I don't want him to be further exposed to negative things. He deserves better. My mom once said he only needs her, my dad, my sister an her kids and me. He needs no other family. I don't believe this. He needs more than a few people in his life. He needs to know that he has more then 8 people he can count on and be there for him. Also I made an agreement that he could be with hr as long as my dad didn't live with her. He was abusive to my mom my whole childhood and does alot of drugs. But she lied and said he didn't live with her.
I know what I was doing was wrong. But I don't regret anything. Regrets are mistakes you didn't learn from. It's hard to say that Im glad this happened but I was walking on the same path my mother did when she was young. I just decided to turn around. I was destructive. And Im glad it happened when it did instead of it being to late. Now I have to deal with this everyday. But I want to make it up to my son. He deserves that.
If you are wondering about his father. He's never been around I decided to seperate myself from him because he was a meth addict. And didn't want to change. I met John ( my now fiancé) he convince me to keep my baby. My mom was trying to force me to have an abortion. We didn't talk for weeks when indecided not to. Me and John split and thts when I got wih my abusive ex. John has opened my eyes in so many different wAys and he loves Kaden and Kaden loves him. He calls him dad. My mom hates that.
We recently found out that I was pregnant. Kaden is going to have a sister and he needs to be apart of this. My mom is refusig to tell Kaden. She doesn't want him to know. I understand he may feel that she is loved more becausshe lives with me. But now it's time for him to come home.
Well that's some of the story. There's Alot more to it of course. Do I even have a chance. I'm clueless about courts period. I believe I as taken advantage of while on so much meds. I didn't want this. And the other day on Christmas she kicked me out of her house in front of Kaden because I got mad she wouldn't let him come over that nigt and she didn't the nigt before becuase she wanted him to wake up to the presents at her house. He couldn't spend the night on Christmas because my nephews were over. What do I do?
