Advice..

[yuppicide]

What is the name of your state? NJ

I'm stupid. I was working for a company and am no longer there. I am at a new place making more money, set hours, no weekends, fulltime, etc. I went on a trip to Hawaii recently and here's where the stupidity sets in.

Postcards were 5 for 99 cents and I needed 12. Naturally I picked out 15. I had 3 leftover and thought of who I should send one too and my old store manager from where I previously worked came into mind.

Hardly anyone likes her, so I put it in writing that she sucks, that we'd appreciate if she put on some panties, buttoned up her shirt and shaved her upper lip. I said more in my paragraph. Yes it's all true, she unbuttons her shirt trying to get more sales, she doesn't wear panties and told us and the district manager that. I didn't sign the postcard, but most people in the store when I was there knew I was going to Hawaii this year, so they think it's me. She said "you don't want to know what I had to do to get this job".

Anyway, she might have filed charges with the police department against me. I'm not sure. She left a message on my answering machine, but I didn't listen to it and deleted it, but some of the guys at work says she might have.

Should I be really worried because of my stupid actions?! I don't know why I did this. I don't usually do stuff of this sort of thing.

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

What is the name of your state? NJ

I'm stupid. I was working for a company and am no longer there. I am at a new place making more money, set hours, no weekends, fulltime, etc. I went on a trip to Hawaii recently and here's where the stupidity sets in.

Postcards were 5 for 99 cents and I needed 12. Naturally I picked out 15. I had 3 leftover and thought of who I should send one too and my old store manager from where I previously worked came into mind.

Hardly anyone likes her, so I put it in writing that she sucks, that we'd appreciate if she put on some panties, buttoned up her shirt and shaved her upper lip. I said more in my paragraph. Yes it's all true, she unbuttons her shirt trying to get more sales, she doesn't wear panties and told us and the district manager that. I didn't sign the postcard, but most people in the store when I was there knew I was going to Hawaii this year, so they think it's me. She said "you don't want to know what I had to do to get this job".

Anyway, she might have filed charges with the police department against me. I'm not sure. She left a message on my answering machine, but I didn't listen to it and deleted it, but some of the guys at work says she might have.

Should I be really worried because of my stupid actions?! I don't know why I did this. I don't usually do stuff of this sort of thing.

My response:

So far, nothing you've said warrants any type of criminal, or even civil, action. But then, you didn't write everything you wrote to her for us to read, either.

So, my response is only as good as the information you post.

IAAL

 

[yuppicide]

I don't know word-for-word what I wrote, but here's most of it.. before I start I might add for people who do not know Aloha is hello/goodbye in Hawaiian and Mahalo is thank you.

Most of what I said:

"Aloha from Hawaii! You suck as a manager and I'm glad I no longer work there. I get paid more, have steady hours mon-fri fulltime, and no weekends. You're unattractive so I don't see how unbuttoning your shirt will help sales. You didn't get your job from skill because you have none. Hardly anyone in the store likes you. Keep an eye out because Paul would make a better manager than you. In the future we'd appreciate it if you buttoned up your shirt, put on some panties, and shave your upper lip. Mahalo you smelly trout!"

I don't think I mentioned anything she had never told us.. she does unbutton her shirt on purpose and always does it when the district managers are going to be there that day, she doesn't wear panties on purpose and has told several people this as well as the district manager, and one time she had some peach fuzz over her lip... and it is true not a lot of people like her. She's a snake. District managers only hire snakes and people they can use as pawns.

I still shouldn't have done what I've done, but it's too late now.

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

I don't know word-for-word what I wrote, but here's most of it.. before I start I might add for people who do not know Aloha is hello/goodbye in Hawaiian and Mahalo is thank you.

Most of what I said:

"Aloha from Hawaii! You suck as a manager and I'm glad I no longer work there. I get paid more, have steady hours mon-fri fulltime, and no weekends. You're unattractive so I don't see how unbuttoning your shirt will help sales. You didn't get your job from skill because you have none. Hardly anyone in the store likes you. Keep an eye out because Paul would make a better manager than you. In the future we'd appreciate it if you buttoned up your shirt, put on some panties, and shave your upper lip. Mahalo you smelly trout!"

I don't think I mentioned anything she had never told us.. she does unbutton her shirt on purpose and always does it when the district managers are going to be there that day, she doesn't wear panties on purpose and has told several people this as well as the district manager, and one time she had some peach fuzz over her lip... and it is true not a lot of people like her. She's a snake. District managers only hire snakes and people they can use as pawns.

I still shouldn't have done what I've done, but it's too late now.

My response:

If this is all you wrote, then you have nothing to worry about, or be concerned about. It's not even slander, because the postcard was intended for her, and not for public consumption.

Oh, sure . . . she might do a lot of huffing and puffing, and try to scare you. That's okay. People who are ignorant of the law usually do that. But, the reality of the matter is that you've said nothing that's actionable.

So, rest easy.

IAAL

 

[yuppicide]

Thanks for the speedy replies. Although I am sorry I did what I did, I'm not sorry I said what I said. I just need to keep my thoughts to myself in the future or between co-workers. None of what I said was originally said by me.. it was all said from either her, others, or a combination of her/others.

Though when I had those extra postcards you should have seen how hard I laughed when I thought of the idea. My Mom wondered what all the noise was. Have a good. Thanks again for the advice.

 

[meganproser]

Should I be really worried because of my stupid actions?

As you’ve been told, there is no legal remedy available to this woman. You won’t be arrested or sued.

Paybacks are a BITCH. How would you like a postcard from her coming to your nice new job?

I assume you are young. You may want to consider apologizing...these things have a way of coming back to haunt you, sometimes years later. It’s not worth it.

Hawaii is a bit different than Wildwood isn’t it? Still, there’s no place like home!

 

[yuppicide]

Well, she doesn't know what my new job is. I wouldn't mind a postcard from her.. because I'm the type that doesn't pay attention and just throws it out.. unless it's from someone I know/like.

After I sent her the postcard she called my house and left a message. It starts out "thank you for the wonderfully rude postcard" and I deleted it before I heard the rest.

See, I don't think Hawaii is much different from New Jersey. Everyone is like oh you will live on catchment water (a big pool in your back yard that catches rain water) so you have to conserve. Well, just about everyone we talked to out there says it's not a problem. This one lady has 4 teenage girls and they're fine with water. Plus, the house we bought has county water. A lot of the houses out there don't have mail delivery right to your house.. ours does. A lot of areas don't have paved roads. Ours does.

We picked up a 4 bedroom 2 bath for $259,000. It's made in 1973, but it's been completely remodeled. The lady who was selling the house is a realtor and her husband is a contractor, so we think it's trustworthy.

.. as for apologizing tho?! Never. She deserves it. There's people working at that company that broke a $2000 computer and they still work there, yet they let other people go for stupider reasons. One of the managers finally put in his 2 weeks notice he's so fed up. Besides, I'm sort of a hero. I said what everyone else thought and talked about behind her back.

Should I be really worried because of my stupid actions?

As you’ve been told, there is no legal remedy available to this woman. You won’t be arrested or sued.

Paybacks are a BITCH. How would you like a postcard from her coming to your nice new job?

I assume you are young. You may want to consider apologizing...these things have a way of coming back to haunt you, sometimes years later. It’s not worth it.

Hawaii is a bit different than Wildwood isn’t it? Still, there’s no place like home!

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

My response:

Would you mind posting her name and address?

I've got a postcard I'd like to send her!


IAAL

 

[meganproser]

You are moving there? How will you survive without scrapple and Tastycakes?

 

[yuppicide]

That is soooo funny. I never thought I'd like scrapple and one of the members in my old clan came out to hang out one day in Jersey.. he's from Pennsylvania. He always said he was going to bring us scrapple and he did. He even brought a little electric fryer. Let me tell you I loved it!

I try not to eat it too often, but I still love it. Tastycakes I can survive without. I don't eat a lot of sweets.. I'm more of a savory.. you know garlicy, spicy, oniony type of person.

You are moving there? How will you survive without scrapple and Tastycakes?

 

[meganproser]

you know garlicy, spicy, oniony type of person.

That explains why you like scrapple. I'm totally into spice less food, lol. I tried scrapple when I was a child but have not had it in years and don't expect to ever have it again.

I could live without Tastycakes but I know folks who "import" huge boxes of them once they leave the company's regular area of distribution.

How will you get a decent tomato in Hawaii though??? They CAN'T have anything like Jersey tomatoes! What about the melons, the blueberries????

My favorite food is fruit, any kind of fruit, so I guess I could live in Hawaii once I adapted to the different kind of fruit they have there.

I sure would miss the changing seasons though. I don't think I could live without all four seasons.

I hope everything works out for you in your new world!