Am i in Contempt????

[lilmansmom]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?

My ex just got 3 supervised visits from the judge. I want the supervised visits to be supervised by my mother. The judge state it had to be someone we both trusted and agree on and now my ex is not agreeing with this and wants someone else to supervise. Can I be in contempt if we both can't agree on someone? Since he also needs to agree and is not?

 

[stealth2]

Who does he suggest? Who else can you suggest? I wouldn't agree to my ex's mother, either. Would you?

 

[Proserpina]

Who does he suggest? Who else can you suggest? I wouldn't agree to my ex's mother, either. Would you?

Post hx...

 

[lilmansmom]

Who does he suggest? Who else can you suggest? I wouldn't agree to my ex's mother, either. Would you?

he suggests my sister since we can both trust her and get along with her but i dont want my sister i want my mom because she will tell the judge that my son doesnt want to go with his dad. my ex agreed to do it this sunday with my mom but the rest of time be with my sister i won't agree to that.

 

[stealth2]

he suggests my sister since we can both trust her and get along with her but i dont want my sister i want my mom because she will tell the judge that my son doesnt want to go with his dad. my ex agreed to do it this sunday with my mom but the rest of time be with my sister i won't agree to that.

Okay, cool. Then expect the judge to ream you out for being uncooperative. Because frankly? You're all about what you want and not what is best for the child. Dad is being cooperative. You are not. Keep it up, and you'll find yourself in Dad's shoes.

Repugnant. My new favorite word.

 

[lilmansmom]

Okay, cool. Then expect the judge to ream you out for being uncooperative. Because frankly? You're all about what you want and not what is best for the child. Dad is being cooperative. You are not. Keep it up, and you'll find yourself in Dad's shoes.

Repugnant. My new favorite word.

how can i be in contempt if he doesnt agree with me? it should be him

 

[breezymom]

Hello periods. I had to read that five times before I *think* I understood it.

You want your mother to supervise purely for the fact that she will tell the judge your son doesn't want to go to visitation? Is your son 18 (rhetorical question, here)? Because that's when he gets to decide. My child doesn't want to go to visitation much of the time, but it's not her decision. You have a court order. Follow it.

You can both agree on your sister. Then why not use your sister? You won't agree to your sister purely because she will not tell the court to not allow Dad to exercise his parental rights?

 

[Proserpina]

he suggests my sister since we can both trust her and get along with her but i dont want my sister i want my mom because she will tell the judge that my son doesnt want to go with his dad. my ex agreed to do it this sunday with my mom but the rest of time be with my sister i won't agree to that.

You're eventually not going to have a choice about any of this. Do you understand that?

And really - do you think you can find it within yourself to NOT try to alienate Dad completely? Seriously?

You "won't" agree to it? Are you seriously going to go in front of a judge and say "Well, I won't agree to my sister who we both trust, because I want my Mom to tell you that my son doesn't want to see his Dad"?

 

[Proserpina]

how can i be in contempt if he doesnt agree with me? it should be him

Yeah, that's not quite how it works.

Dad is being cooperative.

You're doing everything in your power to keep him away.

Don't you GET IT?

Don't you understand that you can LOSE CUSTODY if you continue this?

 

[breezymom]

All I have to say, now, is...

Hereeeeee we go again!

Why are you asking for advice if all you are going to do is argue with the advice given?

If you know more than the folks giving you the advice, then you shouldn't need to bother asking. You should be able to do everything yourself.

 

[stealth2]

how can i be in contempt if he doesnt agree with me? it should be him

Where did I say you'd be in contempt? Oh, yeah - I didn't. What I said was that the judge would ream you out for being uncooperative. Which is EXACTLY what you are. There is someone who you can both agree to - yet you REFUSE. How do YOU think a judge is going to take that?

Look - YOU are the one who bumped uglies with this man and said he was "good enough" as your child's father. And now you are categorically going to refuse to follow a judge's order to cooperate with him wrt visitation. Not going to play well, sweetheart. Time for you to grow up and be an adult. Game time is over.

 

[lilmansmom]

not only that but because my son told me he gets hit there from his other cousins and because one doesnt have a clean record

 

[Proserpina]

not only that but because my son told me he gets hit there from his other cousins and because one doesnt have a clean record

Completely irrelevant.

Dad is going to be allowed to be Dad. Without interference from you.

Accept it, Mom.

 

[stealth2]

not only that but because my son told me he gets hit there from his other cousins and because one doesnt have a clean record

Please - stop grasping at straws, sit down and be quiet. You're not fooling us, and you're not going to fool the judge. You DO NOT WANT Dad in your son's life. Well... you don't get to choose that. Not anymore. So suck it up and promote a relationship between son and Dad. A judge is expecting that.

 

[MommaBearX3]

Contempt? No-- but...

Do you not realize that YOU are going to look like an unreasonable hosebeast when he tells the judge that he suggested one of YOUR family members and YOU said no??? MOST exes would NEVER suggest ANY family member of the opposing side. He is being MORE than reasonable and will appear to be the good guy in court.

Your mom can say that your child HATES everything about his dad. It won't matter, and in fact-- if it begins to look too much like you are pushing and pushing to not give him visitation, you could LOSE CUSTODY for failure to foster a relationship. IT CAN HAPPEN.

If you keep on your current course, you are going to have to worry about custody---- judges do not like parents who are not fostering a relationship with the NCP.