speakingsailor
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Washington: Before I get into details, yes I'm aware I'm an idiot. My wife and I separated years ago. She moved across country. She expected me to stay here and raise our oldest who's had behavioral issues to say the least until he graduated and moved out. (He was 11 at the time) I filed for divorce in 5 of 2016 because I was living with another woman and we had a baby. She wanted me to get divorced so we could move forward. My ex delayed sending paperwork back signed until the 11th hour then we had to reschedule because she didn't send signed copies.
She lied about finances. Her assets. My income. Everything. I was anxious to have this over so I didn't fight it (that's the idiot part)
Her mom gave us the down payment for our house. The one I'm still in and the one she left. The mortgage is in my name alone. The decree states after our youngest graduates (3 years) I sell the house and give her half. I'd like to offer her the down payment amount plus half of the down payment as a buy out but I know she will resist. The housing market is good here and the value has gone up. I'd like to stay here because I've paid for this house for almost a decade by myself and have put in a lot of work.
If she doesn't take the offer to the buyout what are my options? I'm paying spousal maintenance based off of the separation date she gave (false) and because she lied about expenses. Example: She said she was spending $500 a month for child care for our then 13 yr old. She listed the full value of this house as my asset alone even though she's still on the deed and is legally entitled to half.
Like I said. I'm an idiot. I'm just looking for some light at the end of the tunnel.
She lied about finances. Her assets. My income. Everything. I was anxious to have this over so I didn't fight it (that's the idiot part)
Her mom gave us the down payment for our house. The one I'm still in and the one she left. The mortgage is in my name alone. The decree states after our youngest graduates (3 years) I sell the house and give her half. I'd like to offer her the down payment amount plus half of the down payment as a buy out but I know she will resist. The housing market is good here and the value has gone up. I'd like to stay here because I've paid for this house for almost a decade by myself and have put in a lot of work.
If she doesn't take the offer to the buyout what are my options? I'm paying spousal maintenance based off of the separation date she gave (false) and because she lied about expenses. Example: She said she was spending $500 a month for child care for our then 13 yr old. She listed the full value of this house as my asset alone even though she's still on the deed and is legally entitled to half.
Like I said. I'm an idiot. I'm just looking for some light at the end of the tunnel.