an unusual case child suport

[Shay-Pari'e]

please leave this thread as you are not contributing anything other than insults

NO, your problem is hearing the truth.

 

[MrsK]

ah ok i can give you the details of our divorce that might help.

originally when we got devorced i was paying child support to her but then we got back together and i moved up to michigan with her and got a job there and we where living again in the same house. at that time i was told by HER lawyer ( the guy from louisiana) that while living in the same household i did not need to pay.

so durring that time i did not pay. im fairly sure that that is correct as the lawyer explained it to back then.
the issue happened when i caught her with another guy again and at which point she gets angry at me and says she never wants to see me again ( i still dont understand how that works) so over the next few days as im getting ready to leave she tells me multiple times that she doesnt want anything from me and that she wants me out of her life forever and that if i make any attempt to get back in i might not live through it.

so when i leave i assume that that is when the support would pick back up right?

well within a few months i had re enlisted in the service and tried to set up child support payments to her bank but she refused to give me the bank info ( or the military)
a couple months after that i wound up in japan.
while in japan i remarried and then finished the military and stayed in japan with my wife and we had another child .

later ( as in reciently) i come back to america and start school ( the family paid for it and living expences so that i can change carrers and make a better life for us when i am through studying)
then today i get a phonecall from a woman that at first would not say who she was or why she was calling and started asking me about my address. so eventually i hung up on her. then she calls me back and identifies herself and tells me IMMEDIATLY that if i dont pay money that i owe i am going to jail . i havent even thought of who the person is and had to play back her message she left because i hung up on her again thinking she was jus a scammer. then i listen to the message and find out she is really from child suport enforcement agency ( i think thats what it is would have to re listen to whole message)
so i dial again and no answer

You were told wrong about not having to pay while you lived together.

Plus you havent paid for years.

You need to goggle the LA CSE hotline #, get a customer service agent on the phone (you may have to wait on hold for awhile) and find out what the circumstances for your case ACTUALLY are.

WHAT WAS THE AMOUNT SET DURING YOUR DIVORCE FOR CHILD SUPPORT?

 

[fairisfair]

please leave this thread as you are not contributing anything other than insults

In contrast to yourself, who contributes nothing, including insults.

 

[danf6975]

i set it at $200.
when we where in the devorce they asked us both ( same lawyer same room) how much we wanted and they said some number , i cant remember what number they said but we bumped it up to $200 . at first i had been paying it mind , just not once i moved in with her later on .

ok so i made a big mistake assuming that her telling me she doesnt want the money means i dont have to pay . so now i have to pay. i understand that and i will try and get my information . im still not sure on how within such a short time they just knew where to call me and why they did not identify themselves on the phone in the first place.
that might have made things a bit easyer or at least a little bit less shocking than telling me im going to jail if i dont pay money i owe when i dont even know who im speaking with other than a name.

so list of things to do would be to get all the case info right ? anything else that might help me find out more about what to lok for. i put some terms in google and came up with pages and pages of things that didnt pertain to my situation and spent about 2 hours before arriving at this forum.

 

[fairisfair]

Okay, so if you are serious about getting back on track.

1/ Take Mrs K's advice, first contact the LA CSE and find out exactly what is owed on your back child support, how much is to the ex wife, how much if any do you owe to the state.

2/It is possible that the call you received was in fact from an agency who specializes in collecting on back child support, and may not have been from CSE at all. But either way, you owe the money and if they found you, they will be reporting back to mom and CSE won't be far behind anyway.

3/If all of the $ is owed to ex and none to the state, you may be able to come to an agreement with the ex, she may be willing to forgive part of the arrears for you making a substantial payment on the rest. Why she should is beyond me, but hey something is sometimes alot better than nothing.

4/start paying, get a part time job, (although your school excuse is crap)

Others may offer more advice, if you quit the school boy BS and step up to the plate.

 

[MrsK]

i set it at $200.
when we where in the devorce they asked us both ( same lawyer same room) how much we wanted and they said some number , i cant remember what number they said but we bumped it up to $200 . at first i had been paying it mind , just not once i moved in with her later on .

ok so i made a big mistake assuming that her telling me she doesnt want the money means i dont have to pay . so now i have to pay. i understand that and i will try and get my information . im still not sure on how within such a short time they just knew where to call me and why they did not identify themselves on the phone in the first place.
that might have made things a bit easyer or at least a little bit less shocking than telling me im going to jail if i dont pay money i owe when i dont even know who im speaking with other than a name.

so list of things to do would be to get all the case info right ? anything else that might help me find out more about what to lok for. i put some terms in google and came up with pages and pages of things that didnt pertain to my situation and spent about 2 hours before arriving at this forum.

So how many years have you not been paying?

In this state once you get $5k in arrears its a felony. Thats just over 2 yrs of not paying for you.

http://www.dss.state.la.us/departments/ofs/Support_Enforcement_Services.html
Try this, its the CSE info page

http://www.dss.state.la.us/departments/ofs/LA_Delinquent_Payors.html
Here's a list of delinquent payors. You may be on it

Find your parish and try calling the number for CSE in that parish
http://www.dss.state.la.us/departments/ofs/OFS_Regional_Offices.html

 

[danf6975]

thank you very much that should help a lot.

i am not on the list atm from that pdf link but might be soon enough. i would definately be in the felony catagory i guess . that might be why the person said that immediatly.

as for parish i dont actualy live in louisiana so would it be the place where we got the devorce? i only know the city name not the parish

 

[fairisfair]

thank you very much that should help a lot.

i am not on the list atm from that pdf link but might be soon enough. i would definately be in the felony catagory i guess . that might be why the person said that immediatly.

as for parish i dont actualy live in louisiana so would it be the place where we got the devorce? i only know the city name not the parish

It is going to be in whatever state now holds jurisdiction, try them all, where you lived, where you were divorced, and where she lives now. As for the parish stuff, Mrs K can probably help you best with that, we don't have that parish stuff out here in the wild west.

 

[MrsK]

thank you very much that should help a lot.

i am not on the list atm from that pdf link but might be soon enough. i would definately be in the felony catagory i guess . that might be why the person said that immediatly.

as for parish i dont actualy live in louisiana so would it be the place where we got the devorce? i only know the city name not the parish

Yes it would be the parish where your divorce was finalized.

ETA: How can you NOT know the parish you lived in????

Argh- what CITY was it then????

 

[danf6975]

i was on a military base . it was years ago. i didnt actualy live in the city as i was on base and they go by a different adress completely.

i think it might be vernon parish since its the only one i recognize .
the devorce was in leesville.

i have tried calling back 3 times now with no success.

 

[MrsK]

i was on a military base . it was years ago. i didnt actualy live in the city as i was on base and they go by a different adress completely.

i think it might be vernon parish since its the only one i recognize .
the devorce was in leesville.

i have tried calling back 3 times now with no success.

You are correct, it is Vernon Parish.

You need to call and it should either put you on hold for a CSE rep OR it will give you a number to call.

You HAVE to get in contact with someone, guy. Saying that you tried a couple of times & then letting it go isnt going to work.

Use your brain and figure this out.

 

[Silverplum]

i have tried calling back 3 times now with no success.

That's okay. The mother of your child has been housing, feeding, clothing, educating, and otherwise caring for your child for YEARS with NO help from YOU whatsoever.

I'll bet SHE knows the meaning of trying. You, dan-o, do not.

 

[fairisfair]

keep trying the number they left you, but the more you talk about what they said, the more it sounds like a child support collection agency, and not CSE, you need to be calling them too, and please, stop saying devorce, it is a divorce. Even in Louisianna

 

[danf6975]

is the child support collection agency a government agency?

i called another number for louisiana and talked to a person that said i do not have a case so it may very well be this other one. the person on the phone also said i should try michigan state which i have been looking for the number on the website but havent found it yet.

will look for the collection agency also.

silverplum is there a reason you keep trying to antagonize me? do you really feel that helps anything?

 

[Silverplum]

silverplum is there a reason you keep trying to antagonize me? do you really feel that helps anything?

Yes, there is a reason.
Yes, I feel that helps.

Any more questions?