Shay-Pari'e
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NO, your problem is hearing the truth.danf6975 said:please leave this thread as you are not contributing anything other than insults
NO, your problem is hearing the truth.danf6975 said:please leave this thread as you are not contributing anything other than insults
You were told wrong about not having to pay while you lived together.danf6975 said:ah ok i can give you the details of our divorce that might help.
originally when we got devorced i was paying child support to her but then we got back together and i moved up to michigan with her and got a job there and we where living again in the same house. at that time i was told by HER lawyer ( the guy from louisiana) that while living in the same household i did not need to pay.
so durring that time i did not pay. im fairly sure that that is correct as the lawyer explained it to back then.
the issue happened when i caught her with another guy again and at which point she gets angry at me and says she never wants to see me again ( i still dont understand how that works) so over the next few days as im getting ready to leave she tells me multiple times that she doesnt want anything from me and that she wants me out of her life forever and that if i make any attempt to get back in i might not live through it.
so when i leave i assume that that is when the support would pick back up right?
well within a few months i had re enlisted in the service and tried to set up child support payments to her bank but she refused to give me the bank info ( or the military)
a couple months after that i wound up in japan.
while in japan i remarried and then finished the military and stayed in japan with my wife and we had another child .
later ( as in reciently) i come back to america and start school ( the family paid for it and living expences so that i can change carrers and make a better life for us when i am through studying)
then today i get a phonecall from a woman that at first would not say who she was or why she was calling and started asking me about my address. so eventually i hung up on her. then she calls me back and identifies herself and tells me IMMEDIATLY that if i dont pay money that i owe i am going to jail . i havent even thought of who the person is and had to play back her message she left because i hung up on her again thinking she was jus a scammer. then i listen to the message and find out she is really from child suport enforcement agency ( i think thats what it is would have to re listen to whole message)
so i dial again and no answer
In contrast to yourself, who contributes nothing, including insults.danf6975 said:please leave this thread as you are not contributing anything other than insults
So how many years have you not been paying?danf6975 said:i set it at $200.
when we where in the devorce they asked us both ( same lawyer same room) how much we wanted and they said some number , i cant remember what number they said but we bumped it up to $200 . at first i had been paying it mind , just not once i moved in with her later on .
ok so i made a big mistake assuming that her telling me she doesnt want the money means i dont have to pay . so now i have to pay. i understand that and i will try and get my information . im still not sure on how within such a short time they just knew where to call me and why they did not identify themselves on the phone in the first place.
that might have made things a bit easyer or at least a little bit less shocking than telling me im going to jail if i dont pay money i owe when i dont even know who im speaking with other than a name.
so list of things to do would be to get all the case info right ? anything else that might help me find out more about what to lok for. i put some terms in google and came up with pages and pages of things that didnt pertain to my situation and spent about 2 hours before arriving at this forum.
It is going to be in whatever state now holds jurisdiction, try them all, where you lived, where you were divorced, and where she lives now. As for the parish stuff, Mrs K can probably help you best with that, we don't have that parish stuff out here in the wild west.danf6975 said:thank you very much that should help a lot.
i am not on the list atm from that pdf link but might be soon enough. i would definately be in the felony catagory i guess . that might be why the person said that immediatly.
as for parish i dont actualy live in louisiana so would it be the place where we got the devorce? i only know the city name not the parish
Yes it would be the parish where your divorce was finalized.danf6975 said:thank you very much that should help a lot.
i am not on the list atm from that pdf link but might be soon enough. i would definately be in the felony catagory i guess . that might be why the person said that immediatly.
as for parish i dont actualy live in louisiana so would it be the place where we got the devorce? i only know the city name not the parish
You are correct, it is Vernon Parish.danf6975 said:i was on a military base . it was years ago. i didnt actualy live in the city as i was on base and they go by a different adress completely.
i think it might be vernon parish since its the only one i recognize .
the devorce was in leesville.
i have tried calling back 3 times now with no success.
That's okay. The mother of your child has been housing, feeding, clothing, educating, and otherwise caring for your child for YEARS with NO help from YOU whatsoever.danf6975 said:i have tried calling back 3 times now with no success.
Yes, there is a reason.danf6975 said:silverplum is there a reason you keep trying to antagonize me? do you really feel that helps anything?