Replys
Jeez,
I asked for legal advice, not the morality police. I have never denied visitation. We have joint custody and my son lives with his father full time. I DID bring this drinking issue up many times to both his and my lawyer during the divorce proceedings and all I got from them is a promise that he would never drink and drive with my son in the truck. For those who say, it's not just my son, you are right. He has a father. However, I do not drink and drive. So yeah, I can be pissy about this.
I don't stalk my ex. I don't care if the police know who is calling a tip about a drunk driver - I just want to make sure the police don't discount the tip just because it's the ex calling. How many of you think I'm just being vindictive????? I lost everything in the divorce, and the only thing worth anything to me is my boys. I tried to take my 5 year old with me but because of the brain injury I sustained a couple of years ago I had to make a decision about where was best for him. In every other way my ex is ok, I just worry about my son getting hurt because my ex drinks and drives. I don't know if I can prove it anyway, but if he told me he stops at bars on the way home several times a week to unwind. Duh, he drank alcohol. He didn't just pay the strippers money.
I know now some of you are going to come back to bite my tail about how I am an unfit mom and how could I let my son go with the ex when I know he's been drinking. I don't know how often he has my son with him in the truck, or if he even does. I just worry. Aren't I allowed to worry? I haven't called the police on him. I haven't done anything bad - I just asked if I could call the police if I knew he was drunk and driving? I've confronted him and he denies doing this at all but come on, if you are at a bar for a couple of hours several times a week, you are probably drinking alcohol. I have not threatened him but if I smell alcohol on his breath when I see him I won't let my son ride with him. I'll drive myself.
Sorry I got your panties in a knot. Go preach to somebody else. I got my legal advice. Thanks anyway.