katinmaine
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What is the name of your state? Maine
I have 2 Children from a Previous relationship. Ex and I was never married but lived together for 6 years before we split. Ex has very little to do with his children. He comes twice a year to see them. On their birthdays in July and at christmas. we have no court ordered custody agreement, but he is court ordered to pay childsupprt. I have had no worries until recently, he decided to call outta the blue and asked to visit the kids for the day, I agreed and let them got on the condition that they stay at his parents for the visit and not to go to his house because he lives with his brother that just got out of jail last year for molestation. But it is now worrying me..Why all of a sudden is he taking an interests.. I wouldnt put it past him to have something up his sleeve, I feel that I shouldnt let them go back until something for custody has been established, as it stands they are not to go to his brothers house and he cannot have them over night, My ex has a drug problem and he is not very responcible as far as, not making the kids buckle, losing daughters boot at pizza hut and not relizing it until i went to pick them up, (they had gone other places without boot in december and freezing cold how can you not notice child with only 1 boot on DUHHH). I just dont feel that he can supervice the children well, our oldest son who is 9 has to watch his sister who is 5 when he is there, hes not made to do it but feels he has too, Overnight visits ended two years ago when i showed up at his now Ex girlfriends to find that he had left them with a sitter, The sitter thing didnt bother me, what bothered me was he picked them up at 5pm and was bringing them home the next morning by 8 am, my daughter who was 3 at the time was running around buck naked, with his exes teenage boys and was not being supervised, i ended up taking her to the doctors to see if anyone had messed with her because when i walked in she was trying to put a pen in her muffin, I took my children home with me, and he never called or anything for 6 months after that. And for the last 2 years he has come to see them july and december. I let them go this time but i worried the whole time and ended up picking them up early. I atleast know that if they are at his mothers they are being watched, but if i had known he was going to be driving with them, they would have never went. I am a very protective mother, maybe i am over protective, my kids dont go to sitters, if my kids cant go somewhere then i dont go. My husband understands this, and yes its hard sometimes but that is how i am. I dont do drugs I dont drink, my kids are my life If i was to loose them i would die, i dont know what i need to do, so he cant just show up someday and take them and not bring them back, he wouldnt do that on his own but if someone put it in his mind he would, one of his friends have even said to me hes thought about taking them so he wouldnt have to pay child support. What should I do
I have 2 Children from a Previous relationship. Ex and I was never married but lived together for 6 years before we split. Ex has very little to do with his children. He comes twice a year to see them. On their birthdays in July and at christmas. we have no court ordered custody agreement, but he is court ordered to pay childsupprt. I have had no worries until recently, he decided to call outta the blue and asked to visit the kids for the day, I agreed and let them got on the condition that they stay at his parents for the visit and not to go to his house because he lives with his brother that just got out of jail last year for molestation. But it is now worrying me..Why all of a sudden is he taking an interests.. I wouldnt put it past him to have something up his sleeve, I feel that I shouldnt let them go back until something for custody has been established, as it stands they are not to go to his brothers house and he cannot have them over night, My ex has a drug problem and he is not very responcible as far as, not making the kids buckle, losing daughters boot at pizza hut and not relizing it until i went to pick them up, (they had gone other places without boot in december and freezing cold how can you not notice child with only 1 boot on DUHHH). I just dont feel that he can supervice the children well, our oldest son who is 9 has to watch his sister who is 5 when he is there, hes not made to do it but feels he has too, Overnight visits ended two years ago when i showed up at his now Ex girlfriends to find that he had left them with a sitter, The sitter thing didnt bother me, what bothered me was he picked them up at 5pm and was bringing them home the next morning by 8 am, my daughter who was 3 at the time was running around buck naked, with his exes teenage boys and was not being supervised, i ended up taking her to the doctors to see if anyone had messed with her because when i walked in she was trying to put a pen in her muffin, I took my children home with me, and he never called or anything for 6 months after that. And for the last 2 years he has come to see them july and december. I let them go this time but i worried the whole time and ended up picking them up early. I atleast know that if they are at his mothers they are being watched, but if i had known he was going to be driving with them, they would have never went. I am a very protective mother, maybe i am over protective, my kids dont go to sitters, if my kids cant go somewhere then i dont go. My husband understands this, and yes its hard sometimes but that is how i am. I dont do drugs I dont drink, my kids are my life If i was to loose them i would die, i dont know what i need to do, so he cant just show up someday and take them and not bring them back, he wouldnt do that on his own but if someone put it in his mind he would, one of his friends have even said to me hes thought about taking them so he wouldnt have to pay child support. What should I do
